Dirty Talk

[spikegrrrl]

hi everyone...Im a newbie and this is my first post in this forum. My boyfriend really likes to be verbal at times. He likes to ask me to...tell a story almost of what Id like him to do to me....or hell ask me what I want...how something feels. I dont know if Im just being bashful, but I have a really hard time being descriptive. I dont have any issues with talking dirty, I just dont know WHAT to say. Does anyone have suggestions as to how I could make my "stories" more descriptive, or better ways to describe the way Im feeling?

Thanks in advance

 

[falcon29]

be honest

Just be honest and tell him what you want. Try it when you're both still dressed and during foreplay.

Still, is he asking to improve your sex for him or is he asking so he can make it better for you? These are two different things, obviously.

If he just wants to raise the heat level, tell him how good his cock feels sliding into you; how full you feel, etc.

If he honestly wants you to tell him what you want, then do it. Maybe you want him to slam his cock into you: "harder, faster", etc.

Just don't recite a Literotica story and make it too flowery. If it's a story he wants, make up (or use) a fantasy like how he meets you in a park at night and you start making out on the swings. He leads you to the slide or bends you over a picnic table and pumps you from behind.

There are no limits on that kind of thing.

 

[emap]

What Falcon said.

Also, you don't need to actually say anything, if he's going good and asking you if he's doing it right, just moan, or moan out a yes.

Most guys don't like their lover to be spouting shakespeare or something, moans and little words are all they need, well at least all the guys I've been with are that way.

 

[SweetErika]

Falcon gave excellent advice. One thing that helps me whether it's talking in person or on the phone is to think about it/fantasize and sometimes write it down beforehand. I'm not talking about major description like a lit story, just the basics on how I'd describe it. Having time to think about how I'd describe certain things makes it a lot easier.

After writing it, you can read it over a couple of times to get more comfortable with telling it. Or, maybe you could do something like blindfold him and read it while touching him or acting some of the stuff out. Trying it over the phone would work well too.

 

[Eilan]

Welcome to Lit!

I'm gonna pretty much agree with everyone else: You don't really want to be TOO descriptive. Just keep it simple.

For me, that can just be a matter of saying to my hubby, "I love it when you slam your cock into my cunt."

If you don't generally talk like this during sex (or any other time, for that matter), it'll take some getting used to. Expect to feel/sound awkward at first. Practice makes perfect!

 

[spikegrrrl]

Thanks for the suggestions My friend refered me to this site to get ideas on how to describe things to him. However, I dont want things to sound like the stories on this site (even though some of them turn me on ) I want them to sound orginial...in my words...I really like the idea of blind folding him and telling him about it. I think that would be really fun!!