Dilemma here guys

[South Bend man]

I'm married and a bi curious guy 47 and have met an older man that is also bi with experience. We hit it off very well for sometime now and recently he asked me if I find him attractive...I think he caught me peeking in the shower after we worked out.

So the question came and I said yes that I did.

He wanted to know if I ever thought about sucking another mans cock, I told him yes. We now have set a time alone so that I can do him and learn more about it, I'm very hot for this..any thoughts?

 

[Guest]

OK, Here ya' go

1) Talk to your wife, tell her everything.

2) Talk to God, He already knows everything.

3) Do whatever God says

 

[Sienna]

Sound advice!

 

[Cigartaster]

I would say talk to the wife here. She might want to watch, talk, or even better join in on this.

Don't ruin a marrage, help make it better........

 

[Czarina]

My advice is follow your heart. If your body and your heart tell you it is right, it is. Would you regret missing the opportunity? Would you wonder from now on what it was like? Sometimes living with regret can do in a marriage. Weigh out the options, but in the end "to thine own self be true".

 

[alltherage]

It almost seems your mind is made up. The date is set. But you asked for advice. Maybe pausing to think this through once again is what needs to happen. If your wife does not know of your curiousity then exactly how do you bring it up? Unless she is very open she will more than likely be hurt by the news and see you desire as a reflection on her. Do you, can you, live in secret? Is the marriage worth saving? So many things can go wrong. Think it through. If you can account for the consequences and accept them and your heart says to go through with it then do so. This is less about morality than it is about who you are. I am bi and fortunately I have been open with my partners from the start. Secrets destroy.

 

[VanB]

If you were sure you wanted to do it you wouldn't have asked for advice. If you're not sure wait.

The advice to talk to your wife is good - don't go behind her back.

 

[quilesed]

sorry bud your alone on this one.

 

[poohlive]

Talk to God? And let him make all your decisions? God gave you a brain for a reason (some people believe) I hate the fact that people are always asking God for help.
Like he can just stop everything and deal with the fact that one person is thinking about cheating on his wife.
If you want to talk to someone, talk to your heart. At least your heart and you are in this together. Gods always there, whether you screw up or not.
He gave us the free will to make decisions didn't he? It's kind of like slapping him in the face with it if we need to talk to him every time we have a problem.
How long have you and your wife been together? Are you really attached to her? I would ask if she's fulfilling her duties in bed, but then again, she can't really help with your bi tendencies. You know that you are bi, do you have any experience, before you and your wife married perhaps?
Do you feel you can share this with her? A lot of people just say be open with it, but this isn't easy. Think of how many gay people stay in the closet with their own family. People they've loved and grown up with, they can't even tell their innermost secret. Then, to one day blurt out, hey honey I'm gay!
That sounds like something from Jerry Springer!
Do you feel that this needs to be explored more? Or is it just going to be a one time thing. You know,a sort of, sowing of the wild oats. Cause, if it is just a fling, and you can handle keeping a secret from your wife in your heart, then your decision isn't all that bad.
Unless you're doing this to see if you like it, in that case I'd advise you to confront your wife. Don't tell her you have a date planned or anything, just set her down and say what you feel.
Then, from her reaction either she'll accept, or she'll be packing her bags.
Maybe we need a woman's perspective? Women!!!????!!!! If a guy you had vowed marriage to suddenly said he was bi curious one day, what would you do? How would you react? And remember, don't just speak from an open Literotica perspective, also go from an extremely conservative one as well. You know the person I'm talking about. The one that thinks Harry Potter books are the devil instead of helping children's minds to learn and love reading.
This will definitely help you out in your decision.
Hope you make the right choice, whatever it will be.