Different Ways of Exercising Control

[Felt Tip]

In a relationship where he and she are both beginning to experiment in this avenue,

She sometimes likes to be 'controlled' sexually - thoughy doesn't make it a lifestyle thing, and still enjoys vanilla sex and non-control-related play too.
In particular she likes feeling physically and emotionally 'exposed' and vulnerable. General physical control is good too.
Examples include hair pulling, spanking, pulling her head up to expose her face for eye contact doggy style, pinning down, making her descibe what she's feeling and experiencing, and to ask for what she wants...

He would like suggestions for different ways to exercise control and to 'expose her vulnerability' physically and mentally in a not-too-hardcore way.

Doing the same kinds of things is okay, but finding new ways and new scenarios to experience these things is a lot of fun.


Thoughts appreciated.

 

[FurryFury]

In a relationship where he and she are both beginning to experiment in this avenue,

She sometimes likes to be 'controlled' sexually - thoughy doesn't make it a lifestyle thing, and still enjoys vanilla sex and non-control-related play too.
In particular she likes feeling physically and emotionally 'exposed' and vulnerable. General physical control is good too.
Examples include hair pulling, spanking, pulling her head up to expose her face for eye contact doggy style, pinning down, making her descibe what she's feeling and experiencing, and to ask for what she wants...

He would like suggestions for different ways to exercise control and to 'expose her vulnerability' physically and mentally in a not-too-hardcore way.

Doing the same kinds of things is okay, but finding new ways and new scenarios to experience these things is a lot of fun.


Thoughts appreciated.

I'm glad he and she are having a good time.

I don't have any specific suggestions cause I simply can't think of anything right now, sorry.

Read in the library, and threads here, maybe look at a BDSM checklist thingie together and keep having fun!

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Oh and since your name is felt tip, you could use one of those to write nasty things on one or both of you and then take pictures while they are tied down.

I did.

He seemed to like it a lot.

Fury

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Plan a Sunday dinner with extended family. 90 minutes before arrival, strip her bare, have her mount the kitchen island, and masturbate to orgasm with a common kitchen utensil of your choice. Upon completion, flip her onto her belly, and spank her tail with a slotted spoon; one stroke per globe. Set those kitchen utensils aside in the designated kitchen clean-up stack. Industriously clean the island.

She'll feel the sting and be reminded of the events prior to throughout the meal and the remainder of the day. During clean-up (especially if she gets volunteered help) she'll maintain a hyperawareness of the pre-meal utensils. When the last guest leaves, put her on her knees right after closing the door, push her head down to the floor, stretch her hands out to the door for bracing, flip up her hemline and achieve satisfaction in whatever manner you choose.

Upon completion, let her know you'll be waiting upstairs, and walk away.

 

[graceanne]

Plan a Sunday dinner with extended family. 90 minutes before arrival, strip her bare, have her mount the kitchen island, and masturbate to orgasm with a common kitchen utensil of your choice. Upon completion, flip her onto her belly, and spank her tail with a slotted spoon; one stroke per globe. Set those kitchen utensils aside in the designated kitchen clean-up stack. Industriously clean the island.

She'll feel the sting and be reminded of the events prior to throughout the meal and the remainder of the day. During clean-up (especially if she gets volunteered help) she'll maintain a hyperawareness of the pre-meal utensils. When the last guest leaves, put her on her knees right after closing the door, push her head down to the floor, stretch her hands out to the door for bracing, flip up her hemline and achieve satisfaction in whatever manner you choose.

Upon completion, let her know you'll be waiting upstairs, and walk away.

what he said. Cause that is seriously hot.

 

[SweetCherry]

what he said. Cause that is seriously hot.

Oh lord, yes, it is. We did something similar. Cropped and flogged at the dining room table. Later, during a family dinner, I sat there, on a very sore ass, right at the place where I'd been bent over hours earlier, trying hard to hold normal dinner conversation and concentrate on eating dinner. That was one of my favorite days. *sighs*

 

[shy slave]

Sweetcherry there is a slight downside to using a chair.

My ex husband in a rare moment of passion fucked me on one of the dining room chairs.

A few weeks later my mother visited, as she sat down the chair squeaked.
With complete innocence she looked at me and said 'This chair is squeaking whatever has happened to it'

My response...I blamed the kids for having a party when I was out, knocking the chair over causing the joints to loosen!!

 

[SweetCherry]

Sweetcherry there is a slight downside to using a chair.

My ex husband in a rare moment of passion fucked me on one of the dining room chairs.

A few weeks later my mother visited, as she sat down the chair squeaked.
With complete innocence she looked at me and said 'This chair is squeaking whatever has happened to it'

My response...I blamed the kids for having a party when I was out, knocking the chair over causing the joints to loosen!!

Heh. When there's children, there's always someone to blame when something gets broken.

 

[shy slave]

Heh. When there's children, there's always someone to blame when something gets broken.

When they were younger that strategy extracted me from several awkward situations with my parents.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Spring a NO Coffee day on her occasionally ( that would kill me )

Get your hands icy cold and put them on her chest when she is warm and sound asleep ( a no shreiking rule applies here ) .........I don't know why people say Silence is Golden..........ummn okay yes I do I am lying.

There are so many wonderful ways of expressing control without taking a mallet to your submissives head ( metaphor ) Itchy and Scratchy style.

Know the pathos and imagination is your only limit.

Good Luck

 

[saw_man1]

Spring a NO Coffee day on her occasionally ( that would kill me )

It's control we are after here, not torture.

 

[SweetCherry]

Oddly enough, I do have an enforced limit on how much and when I can have caffeine. But there's a reason, too. Too much and I don't sleep, and any after 3pm screws me up BIG time. I'd do it anyhow, just because I love my caffeinated soda, but it's been forbidden to me. I've been sleeping much better since that. *laughs*

 

[Malaria]

along the same lines as the original query..how can i suggest to my boyfriend that i want him to do these things to me?

 

[SirFace]

along the same lines as the original query..how can i suggest to my boyfriend that i want him to do these things to me?

Well, from my experience, dont be too subtle. I didnt pick up on the hints/clues until it was almost too late. I consider myself a good read of people but I didnt have any background or any information at all in this until I was directed here. I dont think too many men read subtle hints very well.

Have a flogger or something hanging out of your purse. When he asks you what that is, tell him its for you to use on my ass later. Make it clear and obvious, see what happens.

 

[Malaria]

but would that take the true submissive tone out of my experimentation?

 

[SirFace]

but would that take the true submissive tone out of my experimentation?

You're trying to break him in right?

Gotta start somewhere. Everybody is different but we pretty much keep the D/s during special play times and we talk and exchange ideas and desires freely before or after.

 

[Malaria]

i'm really trying to break both of us in. I've never tried it before to the extent that interests me. I can't go to anyone else and I don't know how to make him play with me

 

[SirFace]

i'm really trying to break both of us in. I've never tried it before to the extent that interests me. I can't go to anyone else and I don't know how to make him play with me

I really a beginner too and my situation is a little different as she had experience before introducing me to this.

As I have heard over and over on here and its very true but not always easy, communicate, communicate, communicate.

Im not very good at the words and everyones relationship is different but you might start with.... "I love everything we have been doing and Im very satisfied but I would like to try .....this..... with you. Would you be willing to try something like this with me?"

Theres some risk as there is in anything in life but you might be surprised. I never knew I felt the way I do now and wouldnt if it hadent been for her courage in telling me.

 

[SirFace]

Sorry about hijacking your thread Felt Tip.

If you have a boat or access to one, try this. Having her bound out under the sun wide open for anyone to see is a remarkable experience.

https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=646595

 

[crazybbwgirl]

i'm really trying to break both of us in. I've never tried it before to the extent that interests me. I can't go to anyone else and I don't know how to make him play with me

Trust SirFace when he says don't be too subtle. I tried the subtle thing - didn't work. Sending him clips from here via email is a good way to start perhaps? But you should probably sit down and just tell him what interests you and if he would like to experiment. I wish I had not waited so long. But - making up for lost time is also a lot of fun!

 

[Malaria]

OOPS!!! Sorry felt tip!
and thanks SirFace I'll give it a go

 

[snippan]

Spring a NO Coffee day on her occasionally ( that would kill me )

Get your hands icy cold and put them on her chest when she is warm and sound asleep ( a no shreiking rule applies here ) .........I don't know why people say Silence is Golden..........ummn okay yes I do I am lying.
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This thougt makes me kinda horney

 

[kc1224]

Most excellent

You are truly creative and understanding of the impression left upon your sub when the deed is done and normal life resumes. There is nothing more erotic than the little reminders of your time together when placed in a vanilla environment. Love it.