different types of attraction to someone else

[Willing and Unsure]

I'm really not sure quite how this works, but I do fully believe in the whole it's what's on the inside that counts deal. and I dont judge people based on their physical appearance, but here's the thing. I've been seeing someone for a short time now. I'm really interested in him as more than a friend, but the problem I'm facing is that I'm not in any way physically attracted to him. I'm really not asking for a decision on what to do here, but if you were in my place, what would you? would you tell the other person that or would you continue along hoping that it would change and you were attracted to them physically sometime in the future?

 

[crazybbwgirl]

You mean you like him as a person but you don't think he'll ever turn into a lover? Does he think he's going to turn into a lover?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

You mean you like him as a person but you don't think he'll ever turn into a lover? Does he think he's going to turn into a lover?

like I would love to pursue a relationship with him, but I feel nothing physically towards him. in the past with other guys that I've been interested in I get turned on just from looking at them, but this one I dont. I am sure of my feelings about him and all, but this worries me a bit in terms of how things may pan out in the future.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Can you tell if he's turned on by you? Has he made any 'moves' yet?

 

[entitled]

I'm really not sure quite how this works, but I do fully believe in the whole it's what's on the inside that counts deal. and I dont judge people based on their physical appearance, but here's the thing. I've been seeing someone for a short time now. I'm really interested in him as more than a friend, but the problem I'm facing is that I'm not in any way physically attracted to him. I'm really not asking for a decision on what to do here, but if you were in my place, what would you? would you tell the other person that or would you continue along hoping that it would change and you were attracted to them physically sometime in the future?

i was in a situation very much like this a few years back and went ahead and deepened the relationship. He and i have been married for three years and are expecting our third child. So You never know how exactly it will all pan out - i say take a chance on it. Never know until it's tried, right?

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I agree with entitled - if you're connecting really well on the other levels - perhaps the chemisty will happen. Sometimes it takes awhile. I guess it depends on how important that part of a relationship is to you? Me? I'm too damn old to hold out! I go for it - you - you've got plenty of time.......

 

[SexyChele]

I would say try it out for a while yet. It's never worked for me - always ended up breaking if off with the guy. But other people have found it worked for them.

I would give yourself a time limit, though. Just try to be open to him and all the other qualities he has to offer.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

sounds great... thank you all so much. this has been my general feeling anyways, I've just never been in a situation like this.

 

[cricketbug]

I second entitled... 'sides, I was there when it happened!

 

[entitled]

I second entitled... 'sides, I was there when it happened!

*snickers*
Happy birthday to... MEEEEE!!

 

[darkling1k]

just remeber you may not feel anything for him physically but he may you.. and if it ends up actually just dwindeling down to no interest at all let him go...

 

[Willing and Unsure]

*happy sighs* I guess I should let y'all know it was just at first... I'm still wtih the guy right now, and I find him to be absolutely irresistible now. He is totally into me, and me into him and we're both so absolutely happy together.


thanks again everyone for all your advice. *big smiles*