Different sexual desires

[youngrabbit]

I am in a long term relationship which is very stable and happy, lots of good sex , but I can not help wanting to act on my sexual fantasies. Although my partner is very adventurous she has different limits to me, and when we discussed my fantasies she made it clear this was never going to happen.

I would never cheat on her but there are many things I want to try and I can't stop thinking about it. I even have started discussing some of the sexual desires I have with a female friend who is in a similar position. I thought this would help but it's making both of us more determined to act on our thoughts.


Just really wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and how they handled it.

 

[LucyH]

Yeah, I've been there. We broke up. (It wasn't the main reason for breaking up, but it did solve the problem.)

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

thinking

In thinking about your dilemma, it is tempting to think of it as "Is the screwing you get worth the screwing you take?" Each human has his own understanding of whether they have the right to do what they want to do regardless of the views of others in their life.
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[DAVIDSride656]

Well there are things I don't like to do but do anyway for my bf
I was dead set against anal .. But now give into a request every once and a while
Thing is I've always believed what you won't do someone else will.
In the same breath u seeking council from another girl will put you in a compromising situation you will hate yourself for later .. Put shoe on other foot ..

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

It's not cheating if she's agreeable to you meeting those needs elsewhere.

And she might be, for a once off. Say, with a professional, depending on what those needs are.

You can only discuss it with her.