Different parenting styles

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[sexy-girl]

i think you were right ... but i guess im not one to judge because i dont have kids of my own ... kids are strong and i hope they can adapt ... i feel bad for them

 

[Anne Waters]

That's horrible! What, does she want them to find out from the other kids????

I've always been upfront and frank with my kids, even over the uncomfortable stuff.

 

[Weird Harold]

Monday afternoon his daughter (also four) went to pre-school, and her grandmother told me that they hadn't told her yet. "I suppose it will come up when he doesn't come home from work," she said.

I do hope that you took your children aside and explained that his daughter didn't know yet.

I think you did the right thing, but I can't really fault the grandmother for not telling her either -- I don't know the kids or the family. It certainly sounds like they're setting her up for some serious trauma over her dad's death, but they may just be trying to deal with their own grief before trying to explain death to her.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

That's horrible! What, does she want them to find out from the other kids????

This is exactly what I thought. Even if you explain to the other kids not to tell I bet something would slip out. Your kids can hear there is not a Santa Claus from other kids. They shouldn't hear they don't have a father anymore from other kids.

All I can think is that the family is in such shock that they are emotionally paralyzed.

 

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[WhatsHerName]

Wow...that is really sad. I am not sure how I would have handled it..but I think that my kids would have gotten a clue before than.

 

[Belilica]

I couldn't imagine that.... having to tell a child their parent died. I just see it as they're going to find out anyways, why not get it over with rather than let them hear it from someone else?

 

[teresafannin]

As the little girl gets older, hopefully her mother & grandmother will tell her more about her dad. My niece was 7 when my son was killed & as she has gotten older, we have told her more about him. She has some memories of him & loves to look at pictures of the two of them together. How awful for the family, I am still close to my parents. I can't imagine losing a parent at such a young age.