Die, Jimmeny Cricket, die!
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CelestialBody
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Same Old Story, really.
This girl I'm really into started seeing some guy a little while ago. I think that she probably knows how I feel, but I'm not sure. Every time I think about it or see her, I want to pull her aside and have a long serious talk. However, I have to respect their realtionship. If she and I were going out, I wouldn't be too appreciative of someone doing this. Even if I did and she left him to go out with me, what would keep her from doing the same thing again? Besides, if she's happy right now, what right do I have to interfere with that for my own happiness? So, I have to sit here, denying every urge I have and do nothing. Just sit with thoughts of her filling my mind and drawings of her filling my sketchbook. Sometimes I wish that I just didn't care and could do whatever I wanted to make myself happy. Of course, then I wouldn't exactly be caring about her. It just sucks and is depressing as all hell.
This girl I'm really into started seeing some guy a little while ago. I think that she probably knows how I feel, but I'm not sure. Every time I think about it or see her, I want to pull her aside and have a long serious talk. However, I have to respect their realtionship. If she and I were going out, I wouldn't be too appreciative of someone doing this. Even if I did and she left him to go out with me, what would keep her from doing the same thing again? Besides, if she's happy right now, what right do I have to interfere with that for my own happiness? So, I have to sit here, denying every urge I have and do nothing. Just sit with thoughts of her filling my mind and drawings of her filling my sketchbook. Sometimes I wish that I just didn't care and could do whatever I wanted to make myself happy. Of course, then I wouldn't exactly be caring about her. It just sucks and is depressing as all hell.
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From doing the same in the past, I have a small comment that I hope will help, maybe not now right at this moment, but further down the line.
NEVER assume that feelings you have for a girl, are obvious to her. Let her know how and what you feel, if your interest is returned you move on a lot quicker, if it is not returned, (you still move on a lot quicker).
I waited to long in the past and missed oportunities I would have liked to explore.
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NEVER assume that feelings you have for a girl, are obvious to her. Let her know how and what you feel, if your interest is returned you move on a lot quicker, if it is not returned, (you still move on a lot quicker).
I waited to long in the past and missed oportunities I would have liked to explore.
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Yeah, I'd thought of that and if it's true, I'll be ready to just beat my head in. I did ask her out before she and this guy were going out, but she'd recently broken up with an abusive (verbal/emotional, don't know about physical, but threat was there) guy and she said that she wasn't ready to go out with someone yet. I totally understood and she said that she'd keep it in mind, though. So, I can't be positive one way or another.
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Ezzy
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OK...
Sorry Jester I just got it on the Board a min' in front of you.
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Sorry Jester I just got it on the Board a min' in front of you.
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Jester from what you said earlier, pick the best of your drawings of her, frame it and send it to her.
That at least will test the waters and let her know she is in your thoughts, and it can be seen as just a gift at the same time.
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That at least will test the waters and let her know she is in your thoughts, and it can be seen as just a gift at the same time.
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Aly- Thanks, it seems to be going around, doesn't it?
Ezzy- Not a bad idea if I can polish up some of the drawings. I've already gotten her an X-mas present: a big stained glass dragon that she wanted, but couldn't afford. The drawing's a good idea, though. Thanks!
Ezzy- Not a bad idea if I can polish up some of the drawings. I've already gotten her an X-mas present: a big stained glass dragon that she wanted, but couldn't afford. The drawing's a good idea, though. Thanks!
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Jester said:
Anyone else see flashing red lights and hear sirens?
You can't buy her, Jester. The picture you drew, framed as a Christmas present for her, would be a much better idea than an expensive stained glass piece. An expensive gift from someone she hasn't gone out with might scare her.
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Just a thought...
Dont polish to long or hard, something that looks like a study or work in progress would be more effective IMHO.
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Dont polish to long or hard, something that looks like a study or work in progress would be more effective IMHO.
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Cheyenne...
Yeah, I know that I can't buy her, honest. The stained glass was mostly an impulse thing (combined with the fact that I have hopeless romantic flashes). I saw that she wanted it, I'd just gotten some money that I wasn't expecting and I figured, what the hell? I got it mostly because I could and she couldn't and just for her reaction on seeing it. Maybe you're right, though. I suppose that it could seem a little much. I didn't think about it at the time.
Yeah, I know that I can't buy her, honest. The stained glass was mostly an impulse thing (combined with the fact that I have hopeless romantic flashes). I saw that she wanted it, I'd just gotten some money that I wasn't expecting and I figured, what the hell? I got it mostly because I could and she couldn't and just for her reaction on seeing it. Maybe you're right, though. I suppose that it could seem a little much. I didn't think about it at the time.
Well, maybe,,, maybe not,,,
Jester, I have suffered through the same thing that you are describing several times ( OUCH ),,, what I finally came to realize is that my feelings were not as transparent as I assumed they were. The one time that I summoned up the nerve to ask the young lady out for a coffee and a talk, we actually came to realize that the feelings were more mutual than EITHER one of us realized prior to our talk,,, we ended up dating for about 5 years, parted as friends, and are still friends to this day ( now almost 15 years later )
My point is, you have nothing to loose,,, summon the courage and go for broke,,, not all heavy handed, just simply and honestly talk with her,,, it doesn't need to be a "date" just some time away from the maddening crowds.
And I agree with Ezzy's idea of the drawing gift.
Jester said:
Jester, I have suffered through the same thing that you are describing several times ( OUCH ),,, what I finally came to realize is that my feelings were not as transparent as I assumed they were. The one time that I summoned up the nerve to ask the young lady out for a coffee and a talk, we actually came to realize that the feelings were more mutual than EITHER one of us realized prior to our talk,,, we ended up dating for about 5 years, parted as friends, and are still friends to this day ( now almost 15 years later )
My point is, you have nothing to loose,,, summon the courage and go for broke,,, not all heavy handed, just simply and honestly talk with her,,, it doesn't need to be a "date" just some time away from the maddening crowds.
And I agree with Ezzy's idea of the drawing gift.
Maybe it's one of those things that you have to try, despite what you know. I don't know.
I really appreciate the advice, though. From you and everyone. I actually didn't expect anything on it, let alone the honest opinions that've come out. It doesn't solve things, but it helps (actually, it might solve things at some point, wouldn't that be nice?).
I really appreciate the advice, though. From you and everyone. I actually didn't expect anything on it, let alone the honest opinions that've come out. It doesn't solve things, but it helps (actually, it might solve things at some point, wouldn't that be nice?).
