Did you Know? How did you react when you found out?

[Mistress L]

I was married 20 years before I knew my hubby was bi. I questioned alot and sometimes still do. It's been over a year now since he told me and I've experienced alot of different feelings and I guess I just want others who have maybe been through the same experience to tell me how they felt. I love my hubby very much and the past year has brought us closer than I ever thought we could be. I had always had thoughts that he may be interested in other men but up until last year the thought was not confirmed. We have experimented over the past year with other men and its definately a turn on!!! But even though it is a turn on there are mixed feelings at times. If anyone else has been here or any thoughts on the matter it would be appreciated.

Thanks
Mistress L

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Good Morning Mistress L and welcome to the GLBT forums.
I dated a boi for a bit a few years ago. He was an admitted bisexual (which pleased me immensely) and quite confident in his sexuality.

Because I am also bisexual (and poly-amourous) his need to be with other men did not bother me in the least BUT we had rules that we decided on and abided by. Since your hubby has opened up to you, he obviously DOES not want to make this transition alone..and that is a good thing.

Feelings of jealousy and hurt are to be expected and discussed. After all, you had him to yourself for close to 19 years and he is YOURS. By sitting down and discussing your feelings with him, you are giving him the honor of your honesty..just like he did for you.

There is NO rule book that says you have to share him outside of your marriage. The fact that you are willing to do so (and gain some sensual satisfaction from it) speaks very highly of your relationship.

I hope this has helped a little bit.

pet

 

[south_florida_bicur]

I hope you dont mind answering 1 question for me.

What does poly-amourous mean?

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I hope you dont mind answering 1 question for me.

What does poly-amourous mean?

poly amorous (to me) is the ability to fall in love with someone regardless of gender. Bisexuality is the want (or need) to have sex with someone of either gender..

Sex and love are not the same, see?

 

[south_florida_bicur]

You explaination of poly amorous & bisexuality are very clear.

I have never heard of the word poly amorous before.

As for bisexuality i totally agree with your definition.

I also know that sex and love are not the same. An exgf of mine would differ on that subject. Maybe that is why she is an exgf.


Thank you

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

You explaination of poly amorous & bisexuality are very clear.

I have never heard of the word poly amorous before.

As for bisexuality i totally agree with your definition.

I also know that sex and love are not the same. An exgf of mine would differ on that subject. Maybe that is why she is an exgf.


Thank you

anytime...

 

[RobHammer]

polyamorous

From Sexuality.org, Polyamory means "loving more than one."

Here is a link to their FAQ on the subject:
http://www.sexuality.org/l/polyamor/polyfaq.html

Note that polyamory is not gender specific and can apply to heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual relationships.