Despair...say a prayer

[Trinique_Fire]

I post on the APA boards with a bunch of other moms and moms to be, and S., one of the members, just lost her seven month old baby to SIDS. He suffocated in his crib and when she went to wake him up he wasn't breathing.

Say a prayer for her...she's got other kids and is a single mom.

I can't help but worry...is it just my imagination, or does it seem that SIDS deaths are rising at an alarming rate?

It's ironic, all the precautions we take and the studies we read, and still, things like this happen. I'm now terrified about ANYTHING that could go wrong. I don't know what to do to allay these fears in my own heart and mind or to put any kind of hope into S.'s heart and mind.

What happens now? Where would any of us go from there? How do you come back from a loss like that? After you do all that you can to keep your children safe and it's still in vain, then what's left?

*hurting for baby Drake, S., and all the troubled mommies out there....*

 

[S-Des]

I cannot imagine the pain of going through that. I will put her in my prayers, and only wish there was more that could be done.

 

[neonlyte]

I remember this fear after our daughter was born. I don't think that fear it is something a parent ever loses, even when they are old enough to live their own lives. It modifies, and it's other things one worries about, but standing over her cot watching her sleep is etched on my mind.

 

[impressive]

 

[talktilldawn]

In my thoughts and prayers

 

[DesertPirate]

In my prayers

 

[ABSTRUSE]

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[dr_mabeuse]

I was talking to an Ob-gyny who was treating a mother in the Philippines whose husband had just been kidnapped and murdered two months before she gave birth. She was nursing her new born and fell asleep and woke up with the baby dead. They don't know if she rolled over and suffocated the baby or the baby aspirated milk and died, but how do you go on living after something like that?

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I was talking to an Ob-gyny who was treating a mother in the Philippines whose husband had just been kidnapped and murdered two months before she gave birth. She was nursing her new born and fell asleep and woke up with the baby dead. They don't know if she rolled over and suffocated the baby or the baby aspirated milk and died, but how do you go on living after something like that? It's almost too horrible to talk about.

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

When my nephew died at age 10 of e-coli our entire family was devestated. There are a ton of would've, should've, could've thoughts running around for a long time.

With SIDS there is no way to know that it is coming. Despite doing everything right their baby dies. Or if there is a doubt that they did something wrong they torture themselves.

My heart goes out for your friend. There is nothing worse than losing a child.

you just have to do the best that you can and hope that it is enough.

 

[feeeriek]

 

[oggbashan]

My parents were both from families of 12 children. In each family only seven children survived to age 10. The rest died in infancy or from childhood illnesses that are now history in the developed world. All were born before 1914. The influenza epidemic of 1918/19 killed more people than the whole First World War.

My sister died age 11 from Polio. Today children are still dying from Polio for want of an inexpensive vaccine.

We expect children to survive. That is a modern idea created by advances in prenatal and postnatal care. For much of the world childhood deaths are still prevalent.

SIDS is devastating and no parent can ever recover from the loss of a child. SIDS is rare. Polio, tuberculosis, AIDS, mumps, scarlet fever and other illnesses kill far more every week than die from SIDS in a year. Simple malnutrition and dehydration after diarrhoea also kill thousands.

Why do so many children still die? Unfortunately the answer is often government incompetence and corruption.

Og

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I was talking to an Ob-gyny who was treating a mother in the Philippines whose husband had just been kidnapped and murdered two months before she gave birth. She was nursing her new born and fell asleep and woke up with the baby dead. They don't know if she rolled over and suffocated the baby or the baby aspirated milk and died, but how do you go on living after something like that? It's almost too horrible to talk about.

*speechless*

I imagine it takes a very strong person to go on living after events like that.

 

[oggbashan]

My brother's friends were killed by a head-on collision with a drunk driver. They left two near-adult children. My brother and his wife adopted them.

A couple of years later the daughter, an experienced mountain climber, was killed while going to get help for an injured friend. The son now has no living relations except his adopted family.

Life can be cruel.

Og

 

[Trinique_Fire]

For everyone who has come into this thread to post or read...if you've lost someone, whether child or not, I hurt for you.

For everyone who has said a prayer...well, thank you doesn't seem quite appropriate for some reason..., but I know S. is probably comforted by any prayers from anyone.

I've just finished reading the article in the news about the whole thing, and it doesn't honestly look that great for S., thanks to a fantastic good 'ol American legal system.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2008/...infants-death/

 

[damppanties]

 

[Guest]

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[Jenny_Jackson]

That sucks, TF