Depression

[HARDKOREBJ]

it hurts feeling like this all the time.im trying to hide it but i just can`t.maybe i just need to open up and let it out.i just don`t know why i feel like this.everything in my life is falling apart.if you don`t like this then don`t respond.i don`t want any mean and nasty replies.

 

[Mischka]

BJ, you're not alone, and there is help out there. Check out these links.

Clinical depression screening test:
http://www.ubiq.com/pair/cw/testing.html

National Mental Health Association on depression:
http://www.nmha.org/ccd/index.cfm

For treatment options, newsletters, etc. on depression:
http://www.veritasmedicine.com/d_index.cfm?did=41

For information about Zoloft, an anti-depressant:
http://www.zoloft.com/index.asp?pageid=2&o=060110000000GD

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

thanks

i will check them out

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

hey

unable to load the file.is it right or my computer messed up.

 

[Mischka]

Which file? If you can't open the attached links, do a search for "clinical depression" a www.google.com. You'll get more hits than you'll have time to read.

 

[lilminx]

All 4 links came up fine for me. Try again.

 

[bluntforcemama]

HKBJ: If you need anything, PM me.

 

[miz_understood]

it hurts feeling like this all the time.im trying to hide it but i just can`t.maybe i just need to open up and let it out.i just don`t know why i feel like this.everything in my life is falling apart.if you don`t like this then don`t respond.i don`t want any mean and nasty replies.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

i tried all of them.it says unable to load requested document this time.maybe it just won`t load

 

[miz_understood]

I do sympathise with you, I have a friend who suffers from acute depression and I feel so helpless with her at times. She recognises the fact that she needs professional help but she wont seek it out nor will she let anyone arrange it for her. Please find someone who can help you through this. I think your right in the fact that you do need to open up and talk about the way your feeling but I dont think that on here will be the right place for you to it as you very well know your bound to get some abusive and hurtful replies.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

yes i do get mean reply.they dont know the half of it.i just don`t know what to do.i want to get thru it on my own.im not into head doctors and stuff like that

 

[miles]

HKBJ

One of the hardest parts of depression is recognizing it, and you've already done that. Get a doctor's appointment TOMORROW. There is medication that can and will help you get through this.

 

[miz_understood]

HKBJ

Dont even attempt to try and get through this by yourself. Head Dr's as you call them are there to help you let them do this, you really need medical advice and medication, going it alone will be like swimming through treacle please think about it at least.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

yes

i got so depressed.i shaved all my beautiful hair off.i just don`t like myself anymore.

 

[Mischka]

If you can't open up the links I provided, then do a search for "clinial depression" on www.google.com and find other links. Here's a cut and paste from the National Mental Health Association web site:

What you need to know
Life is full of good times and bad, of happiness and sorrow. But when you are feeling "down" for more than a few weeks or you have difficulty functioning in daily life, you may be suffering from a common, yet serious medical illness - called clinical depression.

You are not alone
Every year more than 19 million American Adults suffer from clinical depression. Young or old, man or woman, regardless of race or income - anyone can experience clinical depression. Depression can cause people to lose the pleasure from daily life. It can complicate other medical conditions - it can be serious enough to lead to suicide. Yet this suffering is unnecessary. Clinical depression is a very treatable medical illness. So why don't many people seek the help they need? Clinical depression often goes untreated because people don't recognize the many symptoms. They may know some symptoms, such as sadness and withdrawal, but they are unaware of others, including anxiety, irritability, and sleeplessness. Some incorrectly believe that only people whose depression lasts for months, or who have completely lost their ability to function, have "real" - or "clinical" - depression. Many people even wrongly think that depression is "normal" for older people, young adults, new mothers, menopausal women, or those with a chronic illness. The truth is, clinical depression is never "normal," no matter what your age or life situation. Also, people need to know that treatment for clinical depression really works - and to learn how to go about finding the treatment they need.

Call 800 228-1114 for free brochures and information.

Depression is not Grief
It is normal to feel sadness after the death of a friend or family member. Indeed, most of us experience great sadness at times in our lives, perhaps from a divorce, moving away from family and friends, losing a job, even losing our good health due to illness. But, most people cope with these losses without becoming clinically depressed. If the sadness or depressed mood continues for a long period of time, the person may be experiencing clinical depression, and should seek professional help.

Clinical Depression can be Successfully Treated
Clinical depression is one of the most treatable of all medical illnesses. In fact, more than 80 percent of people with depression can be treated successfully with medication, psychotherapy or a combination of both. Only a qualified health professional can determine if someone has clinical depression. But knowing the symptoms of clinical depression can help you as you talk with your health professional.

As with many illnesses, if treatment if needed, the earlier it begins, the more effective it can be. And, early treatment increases the likelihood of preventing serious recurrences.

You Do Not Have to Cope with Clinical Depression on Your Own
Some people are embarrassed to get help for depression, or they are reluctant to talk about how they are feeling. Others believe that depression will go away on its own. You can't just "Tough it out!" Help is available.

Talking to friends, family members and clergy can often give people the support needed when going through life's difficult times. For those with clinical depression such support is important, but it is not a substitute for the care of a health professional. Remember, clinical depression is a serious illness that you do not have to treat on your own.

 

[Mischka]

Symptoms of Depression

Not everyone experiences clinical depression in the same way. Different people have different symptoms. See your doctor or a qualified mental health professional if you experience FIVE or more of these symptoms for longer than two weeks or if the symptoms are severe enough to interfere with your daily routine. A thorough physical examination to rule out other illnesses may be recommended.

Symptoms of clinical depression:

• A persistent sad, anxious or "empty" mood
• Sleeping too little or sleeping too much
• Reduced appetite and weight loss, or increased appetite and weight gain
• Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
• Restlessness or irritability
• Persistent physical symptoms that don't respond to treatment (such as headaches, chronic pain, or constipation and other digestive disorders)
• Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
• Fatigue or loss of energy
• Feeling guilty, hopeless or worthless
• Thoughts of death or suicide

 

[lavender]

 

[Mischka]

Types of Treatment

Clinical depression is a treatable illness.

Clinical depression is one of the most treatable medical illnesses and getting treatment can save lives. The most commonly used treatments are antidepressant medications, psychotherapy, or a combination of the two. The choice of treatment depends on how severe the depressive symptoms are and the history of the illness. When you talk to your doctor and/or other mental health professional, it is important to explore the range of treatment options.

Medication
The symptoms of depression are caused by imbalances in chemicals in the brain and other parts of the body that influence things like mood, sleep, and how much energy we have. Antidepressant medication acts on chemical pathways of the brain. There are many extremely effective antidepressants. The two most common types are selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs). Recent research strongly supports the use of medication for the more severe episodes of clinical depression.

Antidepressant medications are not habit-forming. It may take up to eight weeks before you notice an improvement. It is usually recommended that medications be taken for at least four to nine months after the depressive symptoms have improved. Those with chronic depression may need to stay on medication to prevent or lessen further episodes.

As with any medication, side effects may occur. Make sure you are under the supervision of a doctor or other qualified mental health professional to ensure the best treatment with the fewest side effects.

Psychotherapy
Talking with a trained mental health professional can help teach better ways of handling problems. Therapy can be effective in treating clinical depression, especially depression that is less severe. Scientific studies have shown that short term (10-20 weeks) courses of therapy are often helpful in treating depression.

Cognitive/behavioral therapy helps change negative styles of thinking and behavior that may contribute to clinical depression.

Interpersonal therapy focuses on dealing more effectively with other people, working to change relationships that can cause or worsen clinical depression.

Other Treatments

Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) may be recommended in the following cases:

• when people cannot take or do not improve with medication
  when the risk of suicide is high, or
• if someone is debilitated due to another physical illness.

ECT has been improved to make it a safer and more effective form of treatment. It is intended for the more severe depressions and for patients who either cannot tolerate medication because of a medical condition or who are at immediate risk for suicide.

It still remains a controversial treatment for some people who may experience troubling side effects such as memory loss. A thorough discussion between patient and doctor needs to take place when ECT is being considered.

Making the most of your treatment

Make treatment a partnership
Treatment is a partnership between the person with clinical depression and their health care provider. Be sure to discuss treatment options and voice your concerns with your doctor or therapist. Become informed - ask questions and demand answers.

Take medications wisely
Don't stop taking your antidepressant medication too soon or without your doctor's knowledge. Inform your doctor about any side-effects. Remember, it may take up to eight weeks before you start feeling better. It is usually recommended that you take your medication for four to nine months after you feel better in order to prevent a recurrence of clinical depression. Carefully follow your doctor's instructions to be sure you take a sufficient dose.

Change your treatment or get a second opinion
Treatment changes may be necessary if there is no improvement after six to eight weeks of treatment, or if symptoms worsen. Trying another treatment approach, another medication, or getting a second opinion from another health care professional may be appropriate.

Join a patient support group
In addition to treatment, participation in a patient support group can also be very helpful during the recovery process. Support group members share their experience with the illness, learn coping skills and exchange information on community resources.

Take care of yourself
Take good care of yourself during treatment for clinical depression. Be sure to get plenty of rest, sunshine, exercise and eat nutritious, well-balanced meals. Reducing the stress in your life will also help. Share this information with your family and friends and ask for extra support and understanding. Many people also find strength and support through their religious affiliations.

 

[Never]

Cheer up Hard Kore Blow Job; at least you're not dying anymore.

 

[morninggirl5]

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i got so depressed.i shaved all my beautiful hair off.i just don`t like myself anymore.

I thought you shaved your hair off because it was falling out from your cancer?

 

[miz_understood]

Cheer up Hard Kore Blow Job; at least you're not dying anymore.

Erm, have I missed something?

 

[morninggirl5]

Yes,

In the past week, HKBJ has gone to the doctor (initial visit) and discovered he has cancer.

One of his best friends (that he hasn't seen since they were kids) killed themselves too. (The thread about that was yesterday.)

Oh and how could I forget that he broke up with his girlfriend because she wouldn't be faithful.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

yes i do get mean reply.they dont know the half of it.i just don`t know what to do.i want to get thru it on my own.im not into head doctors and stuff like that

HKBJ, my long reply in another thread may seem to have been "mean", but one way or another it was meant to help, and I still stand by what I said.

I do think you need some help from a mental help professional - whether you are really dying, or just claiming you are dying, or are just a very clever troll putting on this act, whatever your story is - it doesn't matter; you need professional help, and you are not going to get it here.

There are orgs that provide mental health help for free, and whatver your problem is, even if it is just getting your jollies from trolling this board, I strongly suggest you contact them for an appointment.

As for me - I am going to put you on my Ignore list.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

STG_ I GUESS I GOT YOU MAD AT ME TO>
I DON~T LIKE MYSELF EITHER.
morninggirl-i am still dying,can`t sleep,headaches,don`t feel like doing the stuff i used to.its just hopeless
im sorry if i made anyone mad.i just hate myself.i did shaved my hair because it was falling out.i was depressed about that.im just doomed

 

[lilminx]

HKBJ- why was your hair falling out?