Denial, "coming out" to yourself?

[Shy_thing]

I have identified as straight up until now in my life. But while I am still attracted to men, I'm finding myself desiring women as well. I'm Bi, or so I'm starting to think, I find attraction to both... has any one else here had this denial and being unsure of how you're feeling?

 

[Hardon4u21]

I am straight and not really attracted to men (I don't think), but there is something about a hard cock that gets me hard. I would like to learn how to suck a cock and then take it up the ass.

 

[cum4all]

Personally, I know that it is only possible for me to fall in love with women. I am sexually attracted to both men and women. I have very little experience with gay sex, but what I would like from men is a sexual friendship, if that makes any sense. I think you need to think about who you can love, and then with whom you can have sex. The former and latter are not always the same, I find.

You don't need to be overly concerned about labels. It's cool that you can be attracted to men. Men are hot and have a lot to offer. At the moment, I'm quite glad that I am able to be aroused by male bodies; why would I want it any different?

 

[yr_sissy_toy]

For a very long time I distracted myself and managed to ignore my bisexual urges. It was a long time before I could finally accept saying to myself, "hey, you're aroused by men, too, and that's okay." I still feel more comfortable in relationships with women, and I'm still working out for myself exactly how I feel about men, but being able to come out to myself was a gigantic first step. Good luck -- I know it's difficult, but being able to deal with yourself is amazing.

 

[MJV18]

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[mmmscurious]

I experienced several years of knowing that I was attracted to both sexes but refused to admit to myself that I was bi. Oddly enough the thing that finally ended my denial was completing an only sex survey for MSNBC a few years back. The first question asked your sexual preference, to which I answered bisexual. Once I submitted the survey for all the world to see I felt the weight of the world lifted from my shoulders.

 

[subrosa6]

denial is a river in Egypt

I knew I was bi at puberty, but have vascillated over time to gay, never hetero. For some time, though, I enjoyed only hetero relationships, and I think without knowing it consciously, I denied my gay side. Finally, I admitted that I'm gay as hell, first to myself, then to the world at large. No more denial even if I didn't know I was in Egypt. Now I'm out and feel wonderfully liberated. Oh yeah, I am so queer and loving it.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

I've had that "unsure" feeling too.Even long after I'd had same sex.
It's complicated. Maybe it has something to do with the fact I could never be
emotionally involved with a male, which gives my straight side preference.
I would never write a poem for a guy, but I've written poems for women.
A woman just has a way of swaying the heart, before pissing me off, and
then I piss them off and then they don't want anything more to do with me
anymore. Then everybody is sad.

 

[SissyJane]

Ever since puberty, I've been obsessed with women, as objects of my lust and affections and love, but also as something I wish I could experience. Women are beautiful, I am not. Women wear insanely erotic lingerie and clothes, men "cannot". I know it is a fantasized version of womanhood and if I'd been born a woman, my luck I'd be as attractive as I am as a man (not exceptionally).

I love sex with women so gay doesn't fit me. As to bisexual, my lust for everything woman drives to wearing lingerie drives to performing sexually as a woman drives to taking a strapon-cock from a woman in my bottom or mouth... it doesn't take much to fantasize about sucking or taking a real cock. But I've never felt a sexual attraction to a real man or celebrity man. The cock is anonymous and symbolic and I always pair it with a dominant woman and me dressing up female. So it's still bisexual in some twisted form, but not full-blown bisexual. I can never see wanting or having a guy-guy sexual relationship.

 

[ruby_plum_red]

I never even entertained the thought of being bi until my first experience, which was completely out-of-the-blue. Before then I just found other girls beautiful, attractive, even hot - just like any other girl. I guess girls are just more open to the idea of finding people attractive - which has always led me to think that all girls have a bi side, as well as guys.

Basically we all want to do it with everyone! lol

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