Deleting
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ToPleaseHim
JtohisPB/Brooke :)
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I would ask her if a threesome is something she’s ever thought about. If she says yes, there’s an opening for more discussion. And you should be open to MFM, too. If she says no, then you shouldn’t push.
If you already know that she’s not going to have any interest in this, then prepare for the conversation to potentially cause an argument at the very least. Have you ever discussed playing with others before? And also, it sounds like part of you is trying to punish her for “transgressions all those years ago.” If that’s the case, do both of you a favor and just end the relationship.
If you already know that she’s not going to have any interest in this, then prepare for the conversation to potentially cause an argument at the very least. Have you ever discussed playing with others before? And also, it sounds like part of you is trying to punish her for “transgressions all those years ago.” If that’s the case, do both of you a favor and just end the relationship.
ToPleaseHim
JtohisPB/Brooke :)
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I get it. And I was you. Together since high school, married 21 years, 2 kids, and the whole shebang. I was happy in every other aspect of my life, but not sexually or emotionally. I weighed my options for a long time before I finally had the affair (with someone from this site, incidentally).
If I could go back, I would have just divorced. The pain I caused has hurt my ex to this day. It’s really not worth it at all. My ex would have had zero interest in threesomes or anything outside of the super vanilla norm, so just suggesting it would have caused problems. I don’t know your wife, only you do, but if you can talk to her about this, I would. Maybe there’s options like role-playing or consensual non-monogamy. I hope so and I hope it works out for you, I really do.
If I could go back, I would have just divorced. The pain I caused has hurt my ex to this day. It’s really not worth it at all. My ex would have had zero interest in threesomes or anything outside of the super vanilla norm, so just suggesting it would have caused problems. I don’t know your wife, only you do, but if you can talk to her about this, I would. Maybe there’s options like role-playing or consensual non-monogamy. I hope so and I hope it works out for you, I really do.
