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ToPleaseHim
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I would ask her if a threesome is something she’s ever thought about. If she says yes, there’s an opening for more discussion. And you should be open to MFM, too. If she says no, then you shouldn’t push.
If you already know that she’s not going to have any interest in this, then prepare for the conversation to potentially cause an argument at the very least. Have you ever discussed playing with others before? And also, it sounds like part of you is trying to punish her for “transgressions all those years ago.” If that’s the case, do both of you a favor and just end the relationship.
If you already know that she’s not going to have any interest in this, then prepare for the conversation to potentially cause an argument at the very least. Have you ever discussed playing with others before? And also, it sounds like part of you is trying to punish her for “transgressions all those years ago.” If that’s the case, do both of you a favor and just end the relationship.
ToPleaseHim
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I get it. And I was you. Together since high school, married 21 years, 2 kids, and the whole shebang. I was happy in every other aspect of my life, but not sexually or emotionally. I weighed my options for a long time before I finally had the affair (with someone from this site, incidentally).
If I could go back, I would have just divorced. The pain I caused has hurt my ex to this day. It’s really not worth it at all. My ex would have had zero interest in threesomes or anything outside of the super vanilla norm, so just suggesting it would have caused problems. I don’t know your wife, only you do, but if you can talk to her about this, I would. Maybe there’s options like role-playing or consensual non-monogamy. I hope so and I hope it works out for you, I really do.
If I could go back, I would have just divorced. The pain I caused has hurt my ex to this day. It’s really not worth it at all. My ex would have had zero interest in threesomes or anything outside of the super vanilla norm, so just suggesting it would have caused problems. I don’t know your wife, only you do, but if you can talk to her about this, I would. Maybe there’s options like role-playing or consensual non-monogamy. I hope so and I hope it works out for you, I really do.
shizzz
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I have recently started to bring it up
Not sure if you’re still around on this site but I stumbled across this and wanted to reply.
I’ve talked about opening our relationship. Wanting experiences, feeling like I’ve missed out.
I even told her I thought we were headed to divorce.
So I’ve told her about going out to clubs dancing and flirting. And she gets nervous. But she doesn’t want to shut me down. But her vibe doesn’t give me hope.
I have told her that I’ve thought about spit roasting her. But I would need to gain some confidence first. But she’s basically all I’ve had. While, for her, with all the breaks etc she has had other boyfriends, friends with benefits, one night stands, and nights fending off guys who wanted you.
In all that time. All I ever got was rejection. During those breaks I never was able to hook up at all. Just lots of rejection.
Not sure if you’re still around on this site but I stumbled across this and wanted to reply.
I’ve talked about opening our relationship. Wanting experiences, feeling like I’ve missed out.
I even told her I thought we were headed to divorce.
So I’ve told her about going out to clubs dancing and flirting. And she gets nervous. But she doesn’t want to shut me down. But her vibe doesn’t give me hope.
I have told her that I’ve thought about spit roasting her. But I would need to gain some confidence first. But she’s basically all I’ve had. While, for her, with all the breaks etc she has had other boyfriends, friends with benefits, one night stands, and nights fending off guys who wanted you.
In all that time. All I ever got was rejection. During those breaks I never was able to hook up at all. Just lots of rejection.
Britva415
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What an awesome way to persuade her!
Don't say a thing like that without being ready for it to happen - perhaps immediately.
And by "ready," I don't mean like "I'd be OK with that if it were to happen." I mean like counsel on retainer and an inventory of all marital assets.
Have you lawyered up? I bet she has, by now, since you brought it up. Can she call your bluff without catching you unprepared?
