Delayed Ejaculation?

[msman21]

Don't know if this is the appropriate place to initiate a thread like this, but I'm sure someone will straighten me out if it's not. Plus, I'm a first-time poster, so some patience, please.

My wife announced that she plans to leave me for another. This caused some trauma, as I really didn't see it coming. Anyway, to take the edge off, my family doctor prescribed some Paxil to help smoothe things out a bit. It has, but doing some research on the net, I found that one of the side-effects was delayed ejaculation. In fact, I learned that they actually give the stuff to guys who suffer from pre-mature ejaculation in an effort to give them a little more time over the target so to speak.

Alarmed enough, I performed a little experiment in the shower. Rock-solid, he was, but after some good honest pulling, nothing came of it, pardon the pun.

I'm starting to look ahead to the future. The next time I have sex with a woman, I'm not quite sure how it's going to go. Am I going to be a fuck-stud machine? Will she like that? Will I eventually cum? What if I don't, how will that make her feel? And if I do, what will it be like, given it will probably be the first time in awhile? Will there be a lot? Or very little, sorta like a dry creek bed?

Anybody with any thoughts, please feel free to share them. And if I've offended anyone by posting in the wrong spot, my apologies in advance.

 

[borg3of4]

I have a thought. Tell her just what you wrote. She may like the challenge. She is definetly going to get a good fuck out of it. Maybe several.

 

[Cody4fun]

Been there

Adapt

 

[Emerald Eyed]

If you worry about it, it will happen.


It doesn't have that side effectfor all men, just a small percent. They have to list all the side effects.


Dont worry about it and enjoy yourself

 

[mcopado]

You will probably get more answers or already find the answers to this in the How To section of Lit...But I do have some experience...In my late 20's and early thirties I was on differrent antidepressants on short term basis...Most, if not all SSRI's, the class that Paxil falls under do indeed make it difficult to come (all right, almost impossible to come.) It is an unfortunate side effect to the drug...The upside is that yes you will not have any problems staying hard during sex, and your partner will be really, really pleased with that part of it...

Communication will be important in this matter, but there is still a stigma around "mental illness," and depression......but with anti-depressants much more common in the last 10-15 years (and effexor being used to curb smoking), the stigma is lessenned somewhat...

I suggest before you get in the sack with someone new it will be a good idea to masturbate (if you don't already) to see if the style/type of rhythm is different than what you are used to... Once you know your body and what brings you release, then you can figure it out with a partner, or comunicate it to her....It could actually be fun with an understanding partner you feel comfortable with to learn what works and what doesn't...Also time of day may be a factor...It may be more difficult to come closer to the time you take the pill, but easier before you take your next dose (when there is less in your system.)

Some women though, if the have even the slightest insecurities about their performance will feel that they've done something wrong if you can't come...the best thing to do is to explaining it to them (or learn to fake it really well-which with a condom on CAN be done.)

Also having worked in the sex education field (training doctors) I've learned that men CAN orgasm without exjaculating, that is feel intense mindblowing pleasure, but not necessarily "shoot a wad."

Some things to consider...

If you are just starting to take the pills, the first month or so your body is building up in your system...In this period is where a lot of side effects happen, then taper off...So the difficult may lessen, or even dissappear...

Talk to your doctor about your sexual concerns, a lot has changed in the field of medicine since I was on them, they probably have answers or suggestions on how to make it better...It may mean decreasing the dosage, changing meds, suggesting herbal supliments, there might be another drug to take along side of the paxil.

Be careful with accidental "Double Dosing" I was once on an anti depressant in the morning, and supposed to take a different pill at night to counter the drug enough so I could sleep...One night I took the wrong pill and gave myself a double dose of the same med, which cause "Priapism" a painful erection that nothing would reduce.....I took an asprin which lowered my blood pressure enough to make it go down...Otherwise it would've meant an embarrasing trip to the hospital....

The next morning I called the head of the Psychiatric Dept at the medschool I worked at and told him what happenned, after laughing his ass off, he told me that the aspirin was a good idea....

Oh and for God sakes, if you drink alcohol, STOP... Alcohol and antidepressants are not a good combination...The effects of the alcohol are increased, and the effects of the anti-depressant decreases, and the depresson crash is bad, and may even cause suicidal urges even if you aren't the suicidal type....and your inhibitions are lowered too, and sometimes aggressivness is increased during the combination of booze and anti-depressants, which can put you into some potentially embarrasing or dangerous situations...You may find yourself doing things you never even dreamed of, and not caring...SO DON"T DRINK...

Best of luck, and keep me posted.

 

[borg3of4]

The aspirin really was a good idea

 

[mcopado]

The aspirin really was a good idea

One of the few times a TV commercial inspired me to take action, it was around the time that Bayer apirin was saying to take an aspirin a day to thin your blood and reduce your chances of a stroke....I'm so glad it worked, I found out later how dangerous priapism could be, guess it can cause a bursting of the tiny blood vessels, not a good thing at all.