Defining "Horny"

[Snugbug]

Okay, let's be honest, this is probably one of those you know it when you see it (or feel it, rather) kind of things. However I did have a short conversation about this once and I kinda want to expand on it.

How do you know you're horny? Are there levels to it?

Me for example there's three levels. Most common is neutral horny where I'm always just kinda down for sex or sexual activities with the right person or persons. That's kinda my everyday and I don't know if it counts as horny because if so I'm always horny, but that doesn't sound right.

Another level is not as common but can last extended periods. Where I am definitely not horny, usually due to me being unhappy with my sexual partner. It shuts down my sex drive to the point I can go months without masturbating without the thought crossing my mind.

And finally, an extreme horny feeling where sexual activity becomes more a need than a want. Usually happens when I get over sex drive shut down or if I'm ovulating.

Further curiosities, is horny an emotion or a state of being? Like feeling happy vs being thirsty.

 

[Naughtyboy31]

3 levels here also. Either masturbating or sex.

Level 1 is going a day with out pleasuring myself. Kinda horny but tolerable.

Level 2 is 2 days without pleasuring it. Multiple erections throughout the day.

Level 3 not pleasuring it for 3 days or more. Extremely horny, especially when I see a sexy woman. Will probably play with it twice. Once in the morning and once at night.

Usually can't go more than 2 days without playing with it. I get extremely horny and it can make me irritated. I work in a restaurant where ALOT of sexy business women come in during lunch, both mature and younger.

 

[Snugbug]

Interesting. I guess it's kinda fun to let it build up?

 

[Naughtyboy31]

Sometimes. Some say if a guy doesn't cum for days it builds up to one big load. That's not always true. I can sometimes cum more if I masturbate every day compared to not cumming for 3 days. Longest I went was 4 days i believe. Think I cummed twice that time.

 

[Snugbug]

Sometimes. Some say if a guy doesn't cum for days it builds up to one big load. That's not always true. I can sometimes cum more if I masturbate every day compared to not cumming for 3 days. Longest I went was 4 days i believe. Think I cummed twice that time.

I actually was told once that if a guy masturbates regularly, like at a certain time everyday, his body starts producing more cum at that time out of habit.

 

[Naughtyboy31]

Hmm Haven't heard that but it could be possible.

 

[tw63]

Sometimes I'm horny because I'm looking for something to turn me on. In this state I'm flacid, not even a little engorged.

Sometimes I unexpectedly find myself getting aroused. Like the other day, I was entering a building, a young woman in front of me. I noticed the thin material that her pants were made with and how form fitting it was. Each buttock was clearly distinct and rubbing against the other. By the time I entered the building I was getting an erection. I was surprised as I wasn't thinking sex related thoughts.

For the most part I find myself seeking to be turned on - and I use Literotica to accomplish it.

 

[suckonsimon]

Very interesting discussion this!

As an older guy [64] it's got me reflecting on how horniness has changed over the decades for me. There was a time when horniness was of two distinct kinds:

I'd have horn cuz of sexual opportunity on its way or recently achieved. That was as delicious as the sex session itself - looks and verbal teases and gropes even several hours before the opportunity was going to come, and then basking in the delight of my woman's orgasmic bliss long long after the event. Chief among that post-coital horniness being those huge morning glories after fucking her into deep sleep for the both of us.

Then there was the horniness borne out of lack of opportunity, which as a younger man I found so frustrating, and never really satisfied solo; my need was always to fuck! to pleasure the other! stroking and spurting was no more than a third rate release to me.

Now: Damn do I love it that I'm horny as hell daily a lot of the day, and I enjoy it immensely quite regardless of whether there is sex on the horizon or not! There's something about having worked through all my demons and anxieties and self-worth issues, I'm thoroughly content being who I am, delighting in being a fit guy who women find attractive still, and having given and taken so very much extreme pleasure with the woman I love and desire. So, my life-story makes me horny! and, wow does seeing younger men and women on a similar path make me horny! In a fractious world, I simply adore the notion of all the great attraction, connection, and copulation goin' on!

And I have to confess ... my kink of wearing a steel or aluminium band around my whole junk all day every day heightens the horn in me; it's like I'm constantly aware of my equipment, the nice bulge in my jeans, and the pleasure of the ring 'catching' every arousing thought or sight I enjoy and 'bigging' it, in my mind and in my pants.

Yeah, sixty four and oh so sexual!

 

[live4thebj]

When my dick and balls start pulsating I am horny. When I look at a woman and picture me bending her over whatever is around and shoving it in her ass dry I know I am horny. When I had Easter lunch with my mother with an Aneros in my ass the whole time I know I am horny. When I jerk off I know I am horny. When I fuck and get sucked and eating pussy I know I am horny.

Hell I was horny when I was REALLY young and yet didn't know I was horny, but I sure was horny! Legs and stockings did it to me every single time.

 

[Snugbug]

Sometimes I'm horny because I'm looking for something to turn me on. In this state I'm flacid, not even a little engorged.

Sometimes I unexpectedly find myself getting aroused. Like the other day, I was entering a building, a young woman in front of me. I noticed the thin material that her pants were made with and how form fitting it was. Each buttock was clearly distinct and rubbing against the other. By the time I entered the building I was getting an erection. I was surprised as I wasn't thinking sex related thoughts.

For the most part I find myself seeking to be turned on - and I use Literotica to accomplish it.

So it can be mental or physical for you, depending.

 

[Snugbug]

Very interesting discussion this!

As an older guy [64] it's got me reflecting on how horniness has changed over the decades for me. There was a time when horniness was of two distinct kinds:

I'd have horn cuz of sexual opportunity on its way or recently achieved. That was as delicious as the sex session itself - looks and verbal teases and gropes even several hours before the opportunity was going to come, and then basking in the delight of my woman's orgasmic bliss long long after the event. Chief among that post-coital horniness being those huge morning glories after fucking her into deep sleep for the both of us.

Then there was the horniness borne out of lack of opportunity, which as a younger man I found so frustrating, and never really satisfied solo; my need was always to fuck! to pleasure the other! stroking and spurting was no more than a third rate release to me.

Now: Damn do I love it that I'm horny as hell daily a lot of the day, and I enjoy it immensely quite regardless of whether there is sex on the horizon or not! There's something about having worked through all my demons and anxieties and self-worth issues, I'm thoroughly content being who I am, delighting in being a fit guy who women find attractive still, and having given and taken so very much extreme pleasure with the woman I love and desire. So, my life-story makes me horny! and, wow does seeing younger men and women on a similar path make me horny! In a fractious world, I simply adore the notion of all the great attraction, connection, and copulation goin' on!

And I have to confess ... my kink of wearing a steel or aluminium band around my whole junk all day every day heightens the horn in me; it's like I'm constantly aware of my equipment, the nice bulge in my jeans, and the pleasure of the ring 'catching' every arousing thought or sight I enjoy and 'bigging' it, in my mind and in my pants.

Yeah, sixty four and oh so sexual!

Yeah, I can see how being confident in yourself can make your sex drive higher.

Does the ring leave you hard?

 

[suckonsimon]

Yeah, I can see how being confident in yourself can make your sex drive higher.

Does the ring leave you hard?

A ring chosen for continuous wear around the whole of a guy's junk is a not-too-tight one, just tight enough to enhance the swelling up of cock when a bit of arousal happens, and then 'holding' it big for a while longer than would be otherwise. If it's a case of full-on erection for a sex session, then this type of ring does these things for a guy [and his partner]:

The girth of his whole shaft is enhanced.
The prominence of veins and ridges and the helmet ridge is heightened.
The hardness extends into the glans such that initial penetration is more of an experience for both of the couple.
If the woman gets orgasmic by g-spot stimulation this will happen much more readily on account of the harder helmet ridge 'raking' on it.
Once a guy is well used to the heightened experiences of fucking with this kind of ring on him, he is likely to last much longer and have more control over the timing of his ejaculation.

At least that's my experience.

 

[KimBKitty]

for me its typically just days without being able to orgasm, the longer the more im thinking about it and the more i want to do whatever to get that orgasm

 

[Naughtyboy31]

So horny right now.

 

[tw63]

So it can be mental or physical for you, depending.

Yeah, I'd have to agree. It had been a rather long time since a fully clothed woman started arousing me without any sexual thoughts on my part. It really took me by surprise. It was nice, but a surprise.

 

[delicious_man]

Okay, let's be honest, this is probably one of those you know it when you see it (or feel it, rather) kind of things. However I did have a short conversation about this once and I kinda want to expand on it.

How do you know you're horny? Are there levels to it?

Me for example there's three levels. Most common is neutral horny where I'm always just kinda down for sex or sexual activities with the right person or persons. That's kinda my everyday and I don't know if it counts as horny because if so I'm always horny, but that doesn't sound right.

Another level is not as common but can last extended periods. Where I am definitely not horny, usually due to me being unhappy with my sexual partner. It shuts down my sex drive to the point I can go months without masturbating without the thought crossing my mind.

And finally, an extreme horny feeling where sexual activity becomes more a need than a want. Usually happens when I get over sex drive shut down or if I'm ovulating.

Further curiosities, is horny an emotion or a state of being? Like feeling happy vs being thirsty.

I would suggest that the only 'level' which you describe that counts as horny is the final level - "where sexual activity becomes more a need than a want." Surely the definition of feeling horny is a level of arousal above and beyond what's normal for you. Many people have a constant background feeling of being open to sexual experiences. But when you're horny its got to mean more than a casual interest. It means you're experiencing sexual desire and arousal much more than is normal for you.

Horny means something different to everybody. For somebody relatively asexual it could mean a slight interest in sexual activity. For somebody who has a strong libido it could mean a desire to fuck again and again.

In answer to your final question, I think what you're getting at when you talk about a "state of being" is a physiological need. After all, we feel thirsty because we wouldn't survive without water. However, we can survive without sex (although it would be a much more boring existence). I would therefore argue that feeling horny is an emotion rather than a state of being, just a particularly strong one. But it can be transitory, even if is hard to ignore.

 

[hedonisatlurist]

I will define Horny, I am sorry if somebody has already said what i am saying but my time is limited.

HORNY is a feeling of being aroused, it has several stages to go through before it becomes a climax, it is often used to describe somebodies state of mind, as they become aware of a sexual desire within themselves. They really want an orgasm, alone or with somebody.

 

[suckonsimon]

... Further curiosities, is horny an emotion or a state of being? Like feeling happy vs being thirsty.

I like Delicious Man's answers just now. Your question and his answers prompt me to suggest:

Horniness can be a choice. It's when a guy or a gal chooses to pick up with that constant level of sexual awareness which they have, and play with it, whether solo or with another.

So, we're washing up after guests have gone and I sneak up close behind my woman and feel her ass and she wiggles a bit and I have chosen to turn up horniness, in myself and if I do it right in her too.

I'm on lit and notice someone else I get electric easily with is online too and I choose to pm and whooosh there's a whole lot of solidity and strained pants for an hour.

Yeah: 'flick the switch' horniness!

 

[lexdw32]

For me, horny is when I am sexually distracted. Sexual thoughts intrude into what I’m doing. I feel my nipples against the fabric of my bra or dress etc. more easily. I can feel fidgety between my legs and a warmth there. I notice things that I am attracted to in others more readily.

Sometimes the feeling will fade away on it’s own. Other times, especially if I choose to engage those distracting thoughts and feelings, then it needs to be taken care of one way or another!

 

[vibes]

For me, horny is when I am sexually distracted. Sexual thoughts intrude into what I’m doing. I feel my nipples against the fabric of my bra or dress etc. more easily. I can feel fidgety between my legs and a warmth there. I notice things that I am attracted to in others more readily.

Sometimes the feeling will fade away on it’s own. Other times, especially if I choose to engage those distracting thoughts and feelings, then it needs to be taken care of one way or another!

So is it your choice?

 

[lexdw32]

So is it your choice?

No, the distracted feeling can come upon me at unexpected times, like when I’m working or out shopping with a friend. Of course there are times when I can generate that feeling myself by indulging myself and sexual thoughts or stories or visuals.

 

[vibes]

No, the distracted feeling can come upon me at unexpected times, like when I’m working or out shopping with a friend. Of course there are times when I can generate that feeling myself by indulging myself and sexual thoughts or stories or visuals.

No, I meant if the feeling has to be taken care of or if it can be left to fade away

 

[Snugbug]

I would suggest that the only 'level' which you describe that counts as horny is the final level - "where sexual activity becomes more a need than a want." Surely the definition of feeling horny is a level of arousal above and beyond what's normal for you. Many people have a constant background feeling of being open to sexual experiences. But when you're horny its got to mean more than a casual interest. It means you're experiencing sexual desire and arousal much more than is normal for you.

Horny means something different to everybody. For somebody relatively asexual it could mean a slight interest in sexual activity. For somebody who has a strong libido it could mean a desire to fuck again and again.

In answer to your final question, I think what you're getting at when you talk about a "state of being" is a physiological need. After all, we feel thirsty because we wouldn't survive without water. However, we can survive without sex (although it would be a much more boring existence). I would therefore argue that feeling horny is an emotion rather than a state of being, just a particularly strong one. But it can be transitory, even if is hard to ignore.

You make an interesting point about horniness being more an increase in sexual desire, which means I only recently started experiencing horniness. I've definitely had a healthy interest in sexual things for years, but the tense almost need is new to me.

 

[Snugbug]

I will define Horny, I am sorry if somebody has already said what i am saying but my time is limited.

HORNY is a feeling of being aroused, it has several stages to go through before it becomes a climax, it is often used to describe somebodies state of mind, as they become aware of a sexual desire within themselves. They really want an orgasm, alone or with somebody.

This is a good definition I think

 

[Snugbug]

I like Delicious Man's answers just now. Your question and his answers prompt me to suggest:

Horniness can be a choice. It's when a guy or a gal chooses to pick up with that constant level of sexual awareness which they have, and play with it, whether solo or with another.

So, we're washing up after guests have gone and I sneak up close behind my woman and feel her ass and she wiggles a bit and I have chosen to turn up horniness, in myself and if I do it right in her too.

I'm on lit and notice someone else I get electric easily with is online too and I choose to pm and whooosh there's a whole lot of solidity and strained pants for an hour.

Yeah: 'flick the switch' horniness!

That is true, sometimes horniness is a choice. Sometimes you aren't horny but you decide you want to be and make it happen.