Deeply shallow question

[EmilyMiller]

One directed at anyone who wants to answer it. But it might be interesting to get the views of cis boys and girls, gay boys and girls, and bi boys and girls.

So, my boyfriend and I were at the rock gym at the weekend and had a fit of giggles when we realized we were both checking out the same girl. Which led to a discussion about the process.

Now I know not all cis guys are the same, but what he confided was that - especially in an environment where girls are often wearing leggings or shorts and contorting their bodies to climb - he often has his eyes drawn to asses first. Though he said sometimes hair as well. He then admitted that he checks out her face next. If it’s all good, then it depends on what she is doing and what she is wearing. He might look at her legs or breasts. Or he might look away feeling embarrassed.

Now it was interesting that - as a bi girl - I sort of went on different things (some the same of course). But, without immediately revealing what I do when I look at a girl, how about you? This can extend to checking out guys for cis / bi women and gay / bi guys if you like.

Em

PS I haven’t mentioned checking out guys as I don’t have a very visual approach to men, it’s different with women for me at least

 

[KeithD]

Probably body form, moving to face--for all genders.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

It is really situation dependent. If the girl/woman is walking, then the first thing that I notice is the way she moves, especially if she is wearing heels. Girls who walk like guys are a big turn-off for me. Elegance and gracefulness attracts me immediately. If she is in a swimsuit or in anything more revealing, my eyes fall on ass/legs first, moving to face quickly and then everything else.
Breasts attract me only if they are emphasized somehow, otherwise they aren't an important factor. Really big breasts are also a turn-off for me, not to mention big silicone ones. I also notice hands/feet and nails. I don't like cut-off nails or the vulgar - too long nails. The way woman cares for her hands/feet and nails tells me a lot about her.
The biggest turn-off are probably duck-like lips that many women go for these days, as it has become so cheap to inject some crap into lips. I immediately discriminate such women and peg them as morons, as bad as that sounds.

 

[SimonDoom]

The circumstance is all-important. It depends what she's doing and what she's wearing.

As a runner I tend to notice a woman's legs. I notice her form, the way she moves. People have such different ways of running. Some run awkwardly and others run with an animal grace.

If I were in a rock climbing gym and she was wearing tight-fitting shorts I might notice her ass.

If I encountered her up close for the first time I'd probably notice her face first.

 

[EmilyMiller]

It is really situation dependent. If the girl/woman is walking, then the first thing that I notice is the way she moves, especially if she is wearing heels. Girls who walk like guys are a big turn-off for me. Elegance and gracefulness attracts me immediately. If she is in a swimsuit or in anything more revealing, my eyes fall on ass/legs first, moving to face quickly and then everything else.
Breasts attract me only if they are emphasized somehow, otherwise they aren't an important factor. Really big breasts are also a turn-off for me, not to mention big silicone ones. I also notice hands/feet and nails. I don't like cut-off nails or the vulgar - too long nails. The way woman cares for her hands/feet and nails tells me a lot about her.
The biggest turn-off are probably duck-like lips that many women go for these days, as it has become so cheap to inject some crap into lips. I immediately discriminate such women and peg them as morons, as bad as that sounds.

That sounds a bit like my boyfriend - not sure about what he thinks on nails and lips, then I have unenhanced lips. Collagen fillers eek!

On the positive side, the two bits of my body I am most happy with are my ass and legs

Em

 

[onehitwanda]

I'm so terribly shallow.

Is her bum nice? Rawr.
Does she look like she smiles a lot? Double rawr.

Is she doing something with skill and grace? Bring the spatula, because you're going to need to scrape me up off the floor. Especially if that thing she's doing involves skin-tight clothing.
It's just...

https://thumbs.gfycat.com/UnrulyGoldenHogget-size_restricted.gif

That said... these days, I guess it's becoming more like watching fae or nymphs - girls in their twenties these days seem to be an almost entirely different species in some ways. They're lovely to watch, like gazelles. But these days it's more like being a proud aunt than anything else A woman in her mid to late thirties or onward in a nice pair of tights? Yes please! Two, to go!

 

[John_Vandermeer]

I do not know if I have a set order, but one thing I probably do most than most guys is have a good look at her pelvis. More than ass and breasts. That is closer to where I can find satisfaction after all! And I am looking for one that is flat to concave, rather than convex. And how it is framed by the hips, and how it extends to the thighs: hence contiguous areas. Fitted jeans are usually a good garb to do that assessment in. Breasts and ass I am making sure they are not too big. I also check out hair as I have strong preferences in that regard too.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I'm so terribly shallow.

Is her bum nice? Rawr.
Does she look like she smiles a lot? Double rawr.

Is she doing something with skill and grace? Bring the spatula, because you're going to need to scrape me up off the floor. Especially if that thing she's doing involves skin-tight clothing.
It's just...

https://thumbs.gfycat.com/UnrulyGoldenHogget-size_restricted.gif

That said... these days, I guess it's becoming more like watching fae or nymphs - girls in their twenties these days seem to be an almost entirely different species in some ways. They're lovely to watch, like gazelles. But these days it's more like being a proud aunt than anything else A woman in her mid to late thirties or onward in a nice pair of tights? Yes please! Two, to go!

I really want you to read my LW story when it publishes .

Em

 

[NotAFool]

From what you wrote about what your man says he looks at when a woman is wearing leggings or shorts (most likely lycra or similar) he's leaving out the guaranteed fact that he is looking at her pussy. And if you are bi female, so are you. We all do. When a woman has her body on display in very tight clothing her vagina is going to be one of the first things a man or woman is going to check out.

I can't say if a man's cock is viewed the same way when it is being displayed in tight clothing because men don't normally dress that way and even as a straight or cis man, I'm going to notice and look. It's not gonna arouse me or make me turn gay if I notice the size of it. We are built to have sex as our primary function in life.
Tell your man to be completely honest with you and you be the same. You both were looking at pussy. Bottom line.
here is the edited part I added after the fact.

Of course all the other body parts are taken into account. Face, breasts, ass, calves, thighs those are pretty much in order of what I check out but if her pussy is there on display for viewing that's where my eyes are going in equal too the other parts.

 

[onehitwanda]

I really want you to read my LW story when it publishes .

Em

Oh, I've already reserved a slot in my bunk!

Oh... oh wait... LW? Um... um...

https://imgpile.com/images/9GOSnL.md.png

 

[Red_Herring4]

I saw "deeply shallow" and assumed this thread would be about the ocean floor and the wonders it contains. Sigh ...

At the climbing gym, I notice legs first. You know you're watching a skilled boulderer/climber when their toes are whisper-quiet on the holds and they move with grace and purpose. It's riveting, especially if they're climbing a hard problem that you were flailing on earlier. If the climber is wearing a tank top or crop top, I notice their upper back and shoulders, the way the muscles contract and tighten as they move up the wall, that lovely line running down the center of the lower back. If I'm feeling really creepy, I may also sneak a glimpse of their chest later when they aren't on the wall.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

From what you wrote about what your man says he looks at when a woman is wearing leggings or shorts (most likely lycra or similar) he's leaving out the guaranteed fact that he is looking at her pussy. And if you are bi female, so are you. We all do. When a woman has her body on display in very tight clothing her vagina is going to be one of the first things a man or woman is going to check out.

I can't say if a man's cock is viewed the same way when it is being displayed in tight clothing because men don't normally dress that way and even as a straight or cis man, I'm going to notice and look. It's not gonna arouse me or make me turn gay if I notice the size of it. We are built to have sex as our primary function in life.
Tell your man to be completely honest with you and you be the same. You both were looking at pussy. Bottom line.
here is the edited part I added after the fact.

Of course all the other body parts are taken into account. Face, breasts, ass, calves, thighs those are pretty much in order of what I check out but if her pussy is there on display for viewing that's where my eyes are going in equal too the other parts.

I believe you are generalizing things here based on your own preferences. I don't think I've ever looked at a clothed woman's pussy, or tried to notice the labia through some tights or something. I'd even say that I find camel-toes vulgar and off-putting. I am pretty sure that visual fixation on pussy isn't universal.

 

[onehitwanda]

I saw "deeply shallow" and assumed this thread would be about the ocean floor and the wonders it contains. Sigh ...

At the climbing gym, I notice legs first. You know you're watching a skilled boulderer/climber when their toes are whisper-quiet on the holds and they move with grace and purpose. It's riveting, especially if they're climbing a hard problem that you were flailing on earlier. If the climber is wearing a tank top or crop top, I notice their upper back and shoulders, the way the muscles contract and tighten as they move up the wall, that lovely line running down the center of the lower back. If I'm feeling really creepy, I may also sneak a glimpse of their chest later when they aren't on the wall.

oh god why did you have to plant this image in my braaaaaainnnnnnnnn

 

[NotAFool]

I believe you are generalizing things here based on your own preferences. I don't think I've ever looked at a clothed woman's pussy, or tried to notice the labia through some tights or something. I'd even say that I find camel-toes vulgar and off-putting. I am pretty sure that visual fixation on pussy isn't universal.

You are not wrong with your reply. It was pretty general.
That should be pretty obvious when a person posts a reply or comment. Unless specified that it is or isn't general or meant for every person. But someone would have to be pretty ignorant to think that every person is the same.

 

[onehitwanda]

When a woman has her body on display in very tight clothing her vagina is going to be one of the first things a man or woman is going to check out.

I know I'm being horribly pedantic, but if a woman's vagina is on display in public then she's got some serious medical issues on the go.

 

[HordHolm]

One directed at anyone who wants to answer it. But it might be interesting to get the views of cis boys and girls, gay boys and girls, and bi boys and girls.

So, my boyfriend and I were at the rock gym at the weekend and had a fit of giggles when we realized we were both checking out the same girl. Which led to a discussion about the process.

Now I know not all cis guys are the same, but what he confided was that - especially in an environment where girls are often wearing leggings or shorts and contorting their bodies to climb - he often has his eyes drawn to asses first. Though he said sometimes hair as well. He then admitted that he checks out her face next. If it’s all good, then it depends on what she is doing and what she is wearing. He might look at her legs or breasts. Or he might look away feeling embarrassed.

Now it was interesting that - as a bi girl - I sort of went on different things (some the same of course). But, without immediately revealing what I do when I look at a girl, how about you? This can extend to checking out guys for cis / bi women and gay / bi guys if you like.

Em

PS I haven’t mentioned checking out guys as I don’t have a very visual approach to men, it’s different with women for me at least

I'm pretty much the same as your boyfriend. Particularly if the girl's hair is in a ponytail. But then I think it's in part due to the form fitting nature of leggings.

And BTW... "deeply shallow question" heh! heh! I see what you did there...

 

[NotAFool]

I know I'm being horribly pedantic, but if a woman's vagina is on display in public then she's got some serious medical issues on the go.

You forgot the narcissistic issues

 

[Rob_Royale]

Body form, moving to face.

Yes. The shape of her body as a whole first, then her face. A cheery smile on a pretty face will melt me like chocolate.

 

[Smuttyandfun]

Eyes and smile always attract me first, no matter the gender. You can tell a lot by a person's smile and the look in their eyes.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I saw "deeply shallow" and assumed this thread would be about the ocean floor and the wonders it contains. Sigh ...

At the climbing gym, I notice legs first. You know you're watching a skilled boulderer/climber when their toes are whisper-quiet on the holds and they move with grace and purpose. It's riveting, especially if they're climbing a hard problem that you were flailing on earlier. If the climber is wearing a tank top or crop top, I notice their upper back and shoulders, the way the muscles contract and tighten as they move up the wall, that lovely line running down the center of the lower back. If I'm feeling really creepy, I may also sneak a glimpse of their chest later when they aren't on the wall.

Oh! A climber. What sort of climbing do you do, hun?

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

I believe you are generalizing things here based on your own preferences. I don't think I've ever looked at a clothed woman's pussy, or tried to notice the labia through some tights or something. I'd even say that I find camel-toes vulgar and off-putting. I am pretty sure that visual fixation on pussy isn't universal.

What he said

 

[EmilyMiller]

You are not wrong with your reply. It was pretty general.
That should be pretty obvious when a person posts a reply or comment. Unless specified that it is or isn't general or meant for every person. But someone would have to be pretty ignorant to think that every person is the same.

You told me to get my bf to be honest and to be honest with myself. Pretty in my face, don’t you think? Not sure how that’s compatible with your later comments TBH.

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

I know I'm being horribly pedantic, but if a woman's vagina is on display in public then she's got some serious medical issues on the go.

Psst - if you are a guy, vulva = vagina

 

[EmilyMiller]

And BTW... "deeply shallow question" heh! heh! I see what you did there...

Glad someone did .

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

You forgot the narcissistic issues

When in hole, do you:

1. Keep digging
2. Stop digging
3. Cum

Em