Deep throat!

[curvycutie69]

Recently I've encountered issues with a partner and my stupid gag reflex. I've never had this issue before and would love some tips and tricks to get him in my throat! Thanks xo

 

[DeadZone33]

hey there...are you looking for a guys perspective or a females?

i'm a male and have never give head lol but i could give you some pointers that my partners have used

let me know

 

[curvycutie69]

hey there...are you looking for a guys perspective or a females?

i'm a male and have never give head lol but i could give you some pointers that my partners have used

let me know

I'd love to hear from anyone and everyone. Whatever advice a giver can give and whatever insight a receiver may have

 

[DeadZone33]

i pmed you ... dunno if you'd rather hear here or there .... let me know

 

[NippleMuncher]

Two key elements, relax and practice, whether with your partner or a toy, relax and practice.

Good luck and report back.

 

[BertrandRussell]

Practice a lot. On him, of course. If you do gag, tell him it is because he is too big. Whether you succeed or fail it cannot go badly for you. He'll be happy either way.

 

[TeaforMe]

This works for me: When I get him as deep as I think it will go, I stop for a second, breathe through my nose a few times to relax, then go a little deeper. I do this a few times until I can make the thrusting motion a little quicker. It just might be you have to retrain your reflexes a bit. Slow and steady, then build the pace to your comfort level. With frequency, this should get better for you.

Good luck and have fun, I am sure you will get your mojo back!

 

[SouthernBiGuy]

2 quick tips

- When you are brushing your teeth, take your took brush and try and stick it as far back as it will go on the soft pallet. You will feel your gag reflex but try and surpress it. If you keep doing this eventually it will start to fade away.

- When he is deep in your mouth, stick the tongue out on the bottom of the shaft. The tongue takes up a lot of room in your mouth and will push the penis upward, making it harder to go deeper.

 

[MatthewVett]

If you rub salt around the inside of your mouth, it reduces your gag reflex for a while, so that's one possibility.

 

[LittleSparks]

OP has yet to actually identify the specific issue...so what is it?

 

[suckonsimon]

curvy cutie, let me say as a man who loves this, you are a fine woman indeed! Thank you, on behalf of all the guys, that you really want to do this for your guy!

An exercise to calm your gag reflex: how about you do it with your own fingers. That is, if you have short nails. Otherwise borrow someone else's fingers but you do the controlling. It's the middle three together, slowly in, rest, a bit further, let the saliva develop and try not to swallow it. Rest. Again. Until you are calm and comfortable with three fingers in as far as they will go resting at the top of your throat. You might then try with your guy's fingers, first with you controlling his hand, then let him control his own hand.

Could it be that he has more girth than you have encountered before? If so, there is the possibility that his girth is too much for your point-of-swallow, in which case don't try any more and he and you both accept it can't be done.

On the other hand if he is big but you do believe you can take him, how about getting playful not long after he has ejaculated and will take that bit longer to get rock hard again; get him right in your throat while he's still swelling up and he will adore you for that.

Cutie, take care of yourself. Don't go too hard for this. You let him fuck you, yes? that is immensely generous of you and you don't have to do any other stuff at all.

Si

 

[Eilan]

i pmed you ... dunno if you'd rather hear here or there .... let me know

Why not share your vast knowledge with all of us?

 

[curvycutie69]

Thank you all for your tips. I've been practicing some on my own with a toothbrush as someone had suggested and will try it on him tonight! Thanks again, you guys rock! xo

 

[KatnissSexiBi90]

i dont deep throat, but I do give bjs... no one complains... I find guys just like some attention down there and deep throating is over rated

 

[JustMi]

What's wrong with gagging? Most guys like that anyway. Try looking up at him after gagging with tears running down your face.

 

[eroticpenpalPDX]

when the time is such that you feel a gag, think yawning not swallowing. you will swallow so don't think you have to try and swallow like food . yawn yawn yawn. relaxes and opens the throat.
have fun

 

[TildaS]

Have heard the yawning and toothbrush trick but never the 3 fingers one. Kind of preacticed on my own with my own back in the day but now got something hot to do with my man when see him next so thanx all xx

 

[bigjbowski]

I would have to agree with whoever said it.Deep throating is overrated.Most girls that can do it think that they've just gave you the best blowjob of your life.And thats not allways the truth.If he's big(7-9 inches) with a little practice you should do pretty good a few drinks to relax might help too.If he's real big(9 inches or bigger) he should be happy in the fact that your willing to even give him a blowjob.Let alone have sex with him.Alot of girls won't attempt to give blowjobs to huge cocks.So the guy might have to settle for a hand job.

 

[SkylarFalling]

hey!

Just something that really helped me was actually me lying on the bed on my back with my head off the edge and him standing by my head and putting his dick in my mouth that way.
It sounds really scary and out of control because he can essentially fuck your face if he wants (fun, but not ideal if you keep gagging), but lying with your head tilted back straightens your throat out, which makes it a lot easier to get cock down it without it pushing on the bit where the gag reflex is worst as much.
Just hold his hips lightly with one or both hands (I tend to need one on his cock) so you control how he goes in and out and he pays attention to that.
I struggle to go quick like it, bt he can go all the way down, and he seems to enjoy feeding himself into my mouth and watching it disappear down my throat.

So, great for getting more down without gagging as long as he is wiling to move as you want him to. If you need to stop for a breather it is very easy to lick all over his balls in the meantime.

If that's not what you're after then have you tried 69 position, but just sitting over his chest? It's easier to take that way because then he curves with your throat rather than against it. Plus mine kind of likes it because when he can't see what I am doing I can startle him, so not being able to look is ok sometimes. Plus he might finger you - I always find that if I'm struggling it helps if he does something to me, gently of course, not to distract from what you're doing to him.

Generally speaking, wait longer after you have eaten. I don't know why, and I might be making it up, but my gag reflex is most relaxed first thing in the morning, I guess because my stomach is empty.

This stuff might be obvious, it might not be, but I love blowjobs and this is what makes my life easier.

Good luck and have fun

 

[learningmore85]

teeth and deep throating

My husband really wants me to deep throat him and I've working with him to do it. However I sometime struggle to keep my teeth off of is cock, especially when he picks up the pace and is facefucking me. I have actually left bruises on hid cock and feel horrible about it. Any suggestions on how to prevent this?

 

[NightL]

especially when he picks up the pace and is facefucking me.

tell him before you start that if he starts to facefuck you will bite hard then stop completely. You will only need to do it once.

Joking or not - you have to be in charge and in control. Deep throating has to be on your terms otherwise it just won't work. It is a gift you give him, not something he takes from you.

 

[learningmore85]

The thing is that I love it when he is aggressive like that and takes what he wants, I just don't want to hurt him in the process. It is a gift and I want him to enjoy my mouth to the fullest extent. So is there some technique or position that will help with the teeth part? If I just giving a regular bj there havent beeb any issues.

 

[SkylarFalling]

tell him before you start that if he starts to facefuck you will bite hard then stop completely. You will only need to do it once.

Joking or not - you have to be in charge and in control. Deep throating has to be on your terms otherwise it just won't work. It is a gift you give him, not something he takes from you.

Absolutely true. If he wants yo to get any good ithas to be at your pace.

 

[SashaGaga999]

Recently I've encountered issues with a partner and my stupid gag reflex. I've never had this issue before and would love some tips and tricks to get him in my throat! Thanks xo

I actually made a post about this exact thing a while ago. Here's a link: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=798148

It can definitely be an impediment in some situations, but is totally something that you can learn to control, WITH PRACTICE. I talked a lot about what I did to get mine under control, but would be happy to go into more depth via PM. It can be difficult to describe exactly what its like, but something I often tell people is that it feels a bit like "holding back a sneeze..."

Also, as someone noted here, many guys actually are kind of into it when girls gag, as long as they don't give up--i.e., for a lot of guys, the sight/sound of you choking/gagging a bit on their dick as you suck it actually adds to the sexiness, as long as you keep at it and don't just give up as after gagging the first time.

There are ways around this, even if you aren't able to/interested in learning to control yours.

 

[suckonsimon]

Have heard the yawning and toothbrush trick but never the 3 fingers one. Kind of preacticed on my own with my own back in the day but now got something hot to do with my man when see him next so thanx all xx

Tilda, deep-in-fingers? his? yours? pleasant? May hear from you. Si.