DEATH -soon!

[millennium_bard]

I don't know if anyone is listening up there... But my prayers are with you.

And no matter what the outcome of the report, I am certain that everyone here will be thinking good thoughts and hoping for a full recovery.

 

[fifty5]

Re: Life's not fair, is it?

You're worried about getting cancer and dying.
I'm worried about living and would rather die.
It would be a relief know when I was going to pass on.
That's the problem we have, you know? Worrying WHEN.

God's not very fair, is he? taking those who want to stay, and making those live who don't.

Hi Horny,

"Tomorrow and tomorrow creeps on its petty pace..." or "Life's a bitch - and then you die"

BUT...

"To thine own self be true" and you'll be able to go, when it does happen, with your self-respect intact. That, it seems to me, is the real 'bottom line"

Or, to use yet another quotation cum cliché: "nil illegitimum carborundum" - don't let the bastards grind you down!

Eff (Wondering why the fuck someone else has always said what I want to, better than I can phrase it?)

 

[Guest]

I know we've been "PMing", but I just wanted to say here that you are often in my thoughts.

"To thine own self be true" indeed.

Thanks.

Lou

 

[lucky-E-leven]

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Hi, Fifty5,

I've been putting off responding to this because I honestly don't know what to say. Sometimes I feel like I've had enough of this, but I think that's probably just mental posturing. If it ever came down to hearing that my time was limited, I doubt I'd feel the same way.

All I can say is that my thoughts and best wishes are with you. I have no idea of how I'd react. I honestly wonder whether I'd even want to know.

---dr.M.

 

[fifty5]

First, thanks again for all the posts of good wishes. (I'll name no names, since I mean ALL of you!)

Second, another question. Same scenario - so you've got the time to arrange it, plus, say, a month to do it before things get out of hand. Given that, what would you do?

(Top of my list is to pop across to China to see my grand-daughter again, but I'm sure there was something else as well that crossed my mind before I sat down with that big gin. Maybe someone else's thoughts might remind me...)

Eff

 

[fifty5]

Bump...

Is there really no-one with a 'dying ambition'?

Eff

 

[rgraham666]

Well, since you insist.

There's a young lady I will find, and we'll spend, oh, a week or so in bed and other places.

Not your young lady either Eff.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Well, since you insist.

There's a young lady I will find, and we'll spend, oh, a week or so in bed and other places.

Not your young lady either Eff.

How about Lucky for the young lady. Look at her AV. You would have a hard time finding somebody more appealing.

You would also have a hard time finding somebody more peeled.

If you don't want her, I'll certainly take her.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

To just have one night. One whole night, that's all I'd need.

 

[matriarch]

To just have one night. One whole night, that's all I'd need.

Ditto. *sigh*

 

[amicus]

Hello Fifty5....and thank you for your choice to make this time in your life an open book.

I sense a kindred spirit in your posts....the sailboat, the gin, the smokes...a life well and full lived...the travels...the loves and the lost loves and the yearnings for a few more good times.

I echo your thoughts about the folks on this forum, I read each post and then look to see who...after several months here, one begins to recognize the inner self of those who share thoughts and ideas and even outrages.

The thank you is sincere...as you have provided a rare opportunity for many to seriously consider finding themselves in similar circumstances.

Some years back my mother suffered the first of several cardiac problems that eventually left her unable to care for herself. I answered her plea of her desire to live her remaining time at home and not be placed in a nursing home.

After four years and 59 visits to the emergency room, an organization called Hospice came to her assistance and to mine. The procedure is usually not spoken of but is in general a means to ease out of this life under a morphine haze. She welcomed the release, I think, although I could not remain to watch the final act.

I offer that personal insight in a worst case scenario as I would not wish to linger for a long period of time in a dependent and debillitated state of existence.

The best case is that you get a positive result and have options and opportunities to tie up loose ends and tidy up things that need tidied.

Again....thank you and my best wishes are with you.


amicus...

 

[Just-Legal]

Well, since you insist.

There's a young lady I will find, and we'll spend, oh, a week or so in bed and other places.

Not your young lady either Eff.

Have I been claimed? *winks and grins*

A month? Geez. America. I *need* to see a lot of people before I go. New Zealand. Canada.

One hell of a bender.

And a threesome. I always wanted one.

 

[fifty5]

Have I been claimed? *winks and grins*

A month? Geez. America. I *need* to see a lot of people before I go. New Zealand. Canada.

One hell of a bender.

And a threesome. I always wanted one.

New Zealand and Canada are probably beyond my scope, but a threesome - if your fiancé is willing - I can do.

From experience, that's even better for a female than for a male - and it's pretty damn good for a male.

Honest!

Eff

 

[fifty5]

Hello Fifty5....and thank you for your choice to make this time in your life an open book.

...

After four years and 59 visits to the emergency room, an organization called Hospice came to her assistance and to mine. The procedure is usually not spoken of but is in general a means to ease out of this life under a morphine haze. She welcomed the release, I think, although I could not remain to watch the final act.

My Dad's seem to me to be a pretty good way to go. (OK, second best, but second ain't that bad.)

He lived with us.  We went on holiday, so he went into temporary care. When we got back, they (the medics) decided he should stay in care because...

Actually, having heard that, he passed away overnight.

It's seemed to me that he simply didn't want anyone mucking about, he was ready to rest.

I do wish I'd been able to get there before he went, but despite that, he did seem to go when he wanted - which seems to me a pretty damn good way to go: when HE decided.

Death is very, very rarely funny, but doing it with dignity is the right way.

Eff

 

[nushu2]

Sorry Eff

First time I looked at this thread. I've probably read a lot more from you than you've read from me.

The biggest regret in my life is not what I have done but what I haven't. I think I would like to get back in touch with friends that I lost contact with. I would travel.

When my mother died, suddenly and unexpectantly of a stroke, her last words were, "You've never disappointed me." Gracious till the end.

 

[oggbashan]

Way to go

One of my bookselling colleagues showed me the best way to go.

He was at his 70th birthday party, after a good meal, near the end of an evening in the company of his friends, holding the second glass of a good cognac and smoking his favourite Havana cigar, when he had the last and fatal heart attack.

He put his cigar down carefully, finished the glass, slumped back in his chair and died with a smile on his face.

Og

 

[Guest]

 

[oggbashan]

I think Sir W.S.Gilbert (of Gilbert and Sullivan comic operettas) went the way he would have wanted to.

At the age of 75 he dived fully dressed into his swimming pool to rescue a young (over 18 years) lady in difficulties. That caused him to have a fatal heart attack. The young lady survived. He enjoyed his reputation as a ladies' man.

Og

 

[fifty5]

Og, I need to get to know you, or you to get to know about me - or whatever's necessary to get into one of your posts!

Your last 2 do relate 'fun' ways to go!

Eff

 

[Just-Legal]

New Zealand and Canada are probably beyond my scope, but a threesome - if your fiancé is willing - I can do.

From experience, that's even better for a female than for a male - and it's pretty damn good for a male.

Honest!

Eff

*blush*

 

[fifty5]

Shit!

I was pretty laid back, but now I'm running for the post every day to look for results. It's becoming worse waiting than I feel that a positive outcome might be!

Like I said,

Shit!

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Shit!

I was pretty laid back, but now I'm running for the post every day to look for results. It's becoming worse waiting than I feel that a positive outcome might be!

Like I said,

Shit!

So what you're saying is you need some distraction...

Happens to be a specialty of mine, if things get any worse.



Try and relax? (I know it's trite, but time is precious and worry is wasteful.)

~lucky

 

[fifty5]

So what you're saying is you need some distraction...

Happens to be a specialty of mine, if things get any worse.



Try and relax? (I know it's trite, but time is precious and worry is wasteful.)

~lucky

After 23 days, when they said "10 days to a fortnight", yeah, it's getting a bit edge-of-the-seat - and yeah, I think I do need some distraction, Lucky...

I trust that 'no news is good news' but it'd be bloody good to have that confirmed!


Eff