Dear Litster... (continued)

[SoulAssasin247]

You are really harshing my heartache here. Yes, you are taking the larger view and it's a useful and creative way to proceed. My head agrees. My heart says, "Fuck, no. Fuck, fuck, fuck no. Fuck that." When you've built something over years with someone, you love them and want to try harder and the other person says, "um, no," well, that's just hard to accept.

It's reality, but it's still hard to accept.

Thank you, though. Your words are wise.












Thank you. I wish you huge, huge positivity going forward. You are a sweet entity on planet earth.

I've been there brother. You need to vent and let out that emotion. I hope you have good people around you don't stay alone. Try to let out that energy in a positive fashion. I wish you the best.

 

[RoyceConnors]

Dear Litster

If it's easier and better not to say anything, why are you posting this ?

Signed - Really tired of whining and complaining

Dear really tired, don't read it if it bothers you.

IMC Litster

 

[cowslinger64]

Dear Litster-Who-Will-Never-Read-This,

Mistakes are inadvertent errors. I made them but I can no longer regret them. I am human and imperfect, so mistakes are inevitable on this level of life. All anyone can do in response to mistakes, is to take responsibility for them, apologize to any injured parties, try to work to undo what damage was done and act to do what is possible to ensure that the same mistakes are not repeated.

Because I did these things, I know I did what I could to repair our relationship. One thing I could never do is get you to accept my repeated apologies, or allow me to try to act to repair the damage. I couldn't even get you to talk with me about what happened. That will always make me sad, but not regretful; I know in my heart I did everything I could to make things right, or rebuild them on new ground.

One thing I do regret is accepting full responsibility for "killing us" by my two errors. I did need to accept responsibility for my errors and their impact - that part was true. Truthfully, I would have said anything at that point to try to save us and have a chance at repairing the damage I'd caused; I was and am deeply sorry that I caused you and us such pain.

But culpability in this case was shared, even if I bore the bulk of the blame. There were choices you made, words you could have spoken in the moment and actions you could have taken. You're big on "owning your shit." Well, I have owned mine; in this case, you never have.

I believe we could have repaired or rebuilt things, but one person can't make another try. I couldn't make you listen, or even respond. Silence in response to my 13 attempts stands in testament.

I didn't kill us. I injured us, and I'm deeply sorry for that. You let the injured body bleed to death on the floor, while I banged on the door with the EMS personnel.

I don't know or need to know what transpired here.. you are getting lots of support from the board which is nice. IMO, and like I say I don't want to know what happened, but sometimes people don't deserve a second chance. I've got people from my past that fucked up in monumental ways, and I really don't want their apology and have zero desire to ever hear from them or see them again.

It certainly sounds like you are sorry and that's great that you take responsibility for your actions.. but perhaps putting the blame on her for what you did and her response to it is a bit harsh.

I've seen people call cheating a "mistake" when it's anything but. We all make conscious decisions and sometimes the penalty for them is brutal..

Just a couple cents I had layin around I thought I'd add. No offense at all intended.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

To my favorite litster,

I wish I could help you. I'm really struggling over here and my heart is heavy for you and your family. I'm angry at the universe right now, for the karmic shitstorm that has landed on your lap and I'm pretty much powerless to step up and help you. I'm still thinking of things I can do. Keep your chin up, we love you.

Yours,

Desperately seeking for solutions.

 

[tnman03]

Dear clichés Lister....


Ditto....BTDT...have t-shirts... Way better in so many ways now...living well and being happy is rewarding...

just another guy...

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I don't know or need to know what transpired here.. you are getting lots of support from the board which is nice. IMO, and like I say I don't want to know what happened, but sometimes people don't deserve a second chance. I've got people from my past that fucked up in monumental ways, and I really don't want their apology and have zero desire to ever hear from them or see them again.

It certainly sounds like you are sorry and that's great that you take responsibility for your actions.. but perhaps putting the blame on her for what you did and her response to it is a bit harsh.

I've seen people call cheating a "mistake" when it's anything but. We all make conscious decisions and sometimes the penalty for them is brutal..

Just a couple cents I had layin around I thought I'd add. No offense at all intended.

You raise some thoughtful points. No, it was nothing like that, nor were they conscious errors.

Humans have the freedom to engage, proceed or leave as they see fit. If I implied otherwise, I was in error. I also never intended to hijack this thread, although I appreciate the comments I have received.

 

[RollingOntheBed]

This may sound harsh but you're most likely better off. Some relationships were meant to die. We can use that pain to better ourselves and come out as someone stronger. Without pain and love loss how can we truly appreciate true love. Without the struggle and years looking how can we understand the value of true love. Best of luck.

So true. All life comes to an end. There was a reason for you to do what you did which led to the demise of the relationship. Unhappy relationships may linger for years but we will subconsciously find ways to sabotage them until they spectacularly detonate or a big gulf of distance between the two parties occurs.

 

[barefootgirl69]

You raise some thoughtful points. No, it was nothing like that, nor were they conscious errors.

Humans have the freedom to engage, proceed or leave as they see fit. If I implied otherwise, I was in error. I also never intended to hijack this thread, although I appreciate the comments I have received.

Dear Posting in a Thread Litster...I'm just here to give you a hug, because sometimes you just need one. Sometime I just need to give them! So here is yours {{{{HUGS}}}} There's more where that came from, so stop in for a daily refill if need be!



Huggy Litster

 

[RollingOntheBed]

Dear Litster,

I miss an old Litster I used to talk to. I don't know much about him. He wasn't very nice to me in the end, but I still long for him. His deep voice still reverberates within me.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Dear Green-eyed One
I'm sorry you're hurting and that you had a standing relationship severed as a result of mistakes you made.

I can't really give good advice here because I'm one of those people who once my limit has been reached I'm totally done with you.

Perhaps there were other signs that lead up to the break? Not asking what atrocities you might have committed, but maybe the things you did were just the straw that broke the camel's back?

At any rate, don't beat yourself up over it if you can avoid it. What's done is done and dwelling on what might have been or could have happened is truly the definition of "exercise in futility."

Signed,
Just thinking out loud and really wishing you healing

 

[Endless_Night]

Dear Litster,

I wonder. I wonder very much indeed....

Wondering Litster

* * *

DGE.

It is okay to let this go.

 

[RollingOntheBed]

Dear Litsters,

I hope all your blues go away. Some candlelight, a bath, a funny sitcom to wash your woes away.

Reset for a new dawn.

 

[pfflyerhot]

Dear Litster,
What if some of these "dear litster" things are directed at me and I can't figure it out?
Oh... but... wha..?
signed,
Neverminding me, Litster.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Dear Litster,
What if some of these "dear litster" things are directed at me and I can't figure it out?
Oh... but... wha..?
signed,
Neverminding me, Litster.

Dear PF Lister,

I can only speak for myself but, if I ever have something to you it'll be my pleasure to bring it to your attention personally. If you would like I would do it in voice message form

 

[LizzieEr]

Dear green eyed Litster,
You have always been kind.
I feel your pain. Sometimes the EMS personnel just can't break through because someone else has barred the door. Sometimes, we bar it ourselves. Either way, it always hurts.
Wish I had some thing wise to say Litster.

 

[starrynightin64]

peeks in...

 

[butterfly_flip]

Dear Litster

Nobody is owed anything, there is no obligation to explain, no right to an explanation.
Nobody is obligated to accept an apology....if an apology is made on the condition that it's accepted, then it's not much of an apology at all.

 

[Penuche]

Dear fed-up-with-getting-none-of-the-desired-respondants Litser,

Dree your own weird if that's worked for you, at all, so far.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Dear Posting in a Thread Litster...I'm just here to give you a hug, because sometimes you just need one. Sometime I just need to give them! So here is yours {{{{HUGS}}}} There's more where that came from, so stop in for a daily refill if need be!



Huggy Litster

Dear Green-eyed One
I'm sorry you're hurting and that you had a standing relationship severed as a result of mistakes you made.

I can't really give good advice here because I'm one of those people who once my limit has been reached I'm totally done with you.

Perhaps there were other signs that lead up to the break? Not asking what atrocities you might have committed, but maybe the things you did were just the straw that broke the camel's back?

At any rate, don't beat yourself up over it if you can avoid it. What's done is done and dwelling on what might have been or could have happened is truly the definition of "exercise in futility."

Signed,
Just thinking out loud and really wishing you healing

Dear Litster,

DGE.

It is okay to let this go.

Dear green eyed Litster,
You have always been kind.
I feel your pain. Sometimes the EMS personnel just can't break through because someone else has barred the door. Sometimes, we bar it ourselves. Either way, it always hurts.
Wish I had some thing wise to say Litster.

Thank you.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Dear Gummy Bear Litster,

I forgot about the bagels, whipped cream cheese, and two jars of Nutella.





Signed,
Bite Me Again Litster

 

[AbsintheFather]

Dear Bra-less Litster -

I appreciate the educational video on how to stretch out my back. However, I had a very difficult time paying attention to a word you were saying.

Signed -

Feeling much, much better already

 

[Violetvixen1]

Dear ADD Litster~

There were words, I swear! No go stretch that thing out!

Giggling litster

 

[AbsintheFather]

Dear ADD Litster~

There were words, I swear! No go stretch that thing out!

Giggling litster

Dear Giggling Litster

It is stretched now.

Signed - No ADD when it comes the important things

 

[Violetvixen1]

Dearest ADD Litster~

That wasn't the stretch I was talking about!

Show me the stretch Litster

 

[EroticRomanticMan]

Dear mermaid litster. I miss you. Signed Seafaring litster