DCL - I Beg To Differ

[TN_Vixen]

For the billionth time, nobody knows anybody on line.

Nobody knows anybody on line. Nobody knows anybody on line. Nobody knows anybody on line. Don't let this stir you to the depths of your epidermis, much less your soul.

I will forever disagree with this comment.

 

[Guest]

I know you accidently started the thread,

but,


I still like the ass shot in your AV.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[TN_Vixen]

I know you accidently started the thread,

but,


I still like the ass shot in your AV.

There was nothing accidental about it. I intentionally started this thread so DCL would see it.

 

[Guru]

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I have to agree that that statement is false. I happen to know people online that I've known for years. Both on and offline. So yes I do KNOW somebody online - therefore the statement nobody knows anybody online is incorrect.


dixi

 

[Cheyenne]

I will forever disagree with this comment.

Amen to that, sister!

 

[Guest]

There was nothing accidental about it. I intentionally started this thread so DCL would see it.

___

Sorry.

Guess I didn't really know.





I still like the ass shot in your AV!

 

[Guest]

Lining up behind TN.

Right behind *brat*

 

[brokenbrainwave]

yeah he was pretty much wrong about this. while I let very few people online get close to me, (something to do with a stalker that tried, with no succes I can happily say, to destroy my marriage) the ones I let close pretty much know most everything about me. plus the fact of proving DCL wrong is just fun.

 

[Guru]

 

[WaxNWane]

Lining up behind DCL.

To quote American Beauty: "Never underestimate the power of denial."

 

[MissTaken]

Well, who is this MissTaken!

I see her name and text all over, but have not idea who she really is!



Seriously, you can know people from on line. But, as I have repeatedly stated, the relationship has limits until you make it real time. I do believe there are limits to how well you can know and read a person unless you have at least, heard their voice.

It all depends on honesty and willingness to open up.

 

[Tantanah]

Lining up behind TN.

I'm right behind you.

 

[Guest]

I'm right behind you.

___________

OK.

OK!


We officially have a daisy ring started.

 

[MissTaken]

I am not joining the Conga line unless I get first dibs on tn_vixen!

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[alexandraaah]

I think took what applies to him and generalized it for everyone.

Unless there's been some DCLit-together that no one speaks about.

 

[Texan]

DCL doesn't need my support, but I agree with him in this case.

You might be able to become acquainted with people online. And once you get to really know someone in real-life, you might be able to maintain a friendship online. But it is too easy for people to hide too much of themselves online. You can only know what a person wants you to know. Hell, this is even true in real-life up to a point.

I don't know how many times I've heard people say that it's easier to get to know the "REAL" person online. That's bullshit (IMO). Some people seem to think that "appearances" only distract from the "beautiful" person inside, and that online we can get to know the inner beauty of a person without appearances interfering. IMO, this is also bullshit.

Appearance is a part of a person, just like posture, table manners, facial expressions, hygene, grooming and style. In addition, to really know a person, you have to know how they handle stressful situations, as well as, how they interact with other people of all types. All of these aspects of a person, are just not a part of the person you get to know online.

More importantly, you can not possibly know if a person is HONEST, through online communications. Many people spend a lot of time online because they have real-life problems that can be hidden when they are online. If you don't believe that, you are either blind or naive.

How many times have you heard stories about people that were friends or lovers online; but when they actually met, the relationship self-distructed? That shouldn't surprise anyone.

just one man's thoughts...

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I will forever disagree with this comment.

Then you will be forever wrong. Like Pat Buchanan and Disco.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Then you will be forever wrong. Like Pat Buchanan and Disco.

shut up "lady". hehe

What was wrong with Disco, huh?

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

If you have to ask then there's probably a whole phone book's worth of stuff you're wrong about.

 

[Guest]

CV...quit fondling my ass!

You gotta give my butt-cheek up too, babe.
It's only fair.

 

[Gingersnap]

I have a problem with absolutes. Too often I have seen them proved very wrong. It is possible to get to know someone online. If both people are totally honest.

I knew Roger extremely well through our converstations and discussions before I met him. Come on admit it DCL you are wrong about this one. You can get to know someone very well online. Enough to consider them a friend and lover. Enough to move halfway round the world to be together.

 

[Wrong Element]

You might be able to become acquainted with people online. And once you get to really know someone in real-life, you might be able to maintain a friendship online. But it is too easy for people to hide too much of themselves online. You can only know what a person wants you to know. Hell, this is even true in real-life up to a point.

Now, that last part couldn't be more true. With all the people who I know in real life who have lied to me, I could hardly have higher expectations for my online relationships.

The idea of considering someone you know only online to be your "lover" is perhaps different than considering someone a friend. I've flirted online and had cybersex, but (at least for me) it doesn't remotely approach the intensity of a true love relationship. That's just me, however, and I don't discount the possibility that that could change. But I have no problem saying that I've made friends online. Maybe some of the friendships would collapse if we ever met in real life, but again, it's easy enough to lose non-cyberfriends in real life too.