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HumpDayHoratio
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I can’t imagine trying to date in this day and age…
Wok
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Being out of the game nearly 27 years is one.
NehaGin
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1) are you sure your date had a much more recent experience? More likely than not, she is in the same boat.
2) just be yourself and enjoy the company. I mean, what's the point to pretend that you are someone different? Sooner or later she will figure it out anyway and if that quality happens to be important to her, it is not going to end well.
3) Go into it with no higher expectations than just to spend time with somebody. If it leads to more - great. If not - you still had a nice Friday evening movie date, Sunday morning hike, or whatever it was that you were doing.
2) just be yourself and enjoy the company. I mean, what's the point to pretend that you are someone different? Sooner or later she will figure it out anyway and if that quality happens to be important to her, it is not going to end well.
3) Go into it with no higher expectations than just to spend time with somebody. If it leads to more - great. If not - you still had a nice Friday evening movie date, Sunday morning hike, or whatever it was that you were doing.
NewOldGuy77
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On-line dating for older guys is horrible. Women are the worst. They all want someone “active”. Shit. I’m over 60, if you ever see me running, it’s only because I’m being pursued by an apex predator.
Plus, older women don’t make it a priority. I’m on the site (Bumble, OKCupid) for a reason - I’m older, lonely and I want a partner my age who’s not interested in just my money. We’re on the site for a reason, let’s fucking DO this!
Beautiful older women may be on the site, but it’s not a priority - they’re concentrating on their grandkids, their knitting groups, their gardening, and their fucking pickleball. It takes forever to get a match response. Once you connect, it shouldn’t take a damned United Nations resolution to set up a coffee date! Ladies, get your head in the damned game!
In case you think I’m merely engaging in misogyny, I’m not. I was listening to an female anthropologist on the “Dating While Gray” podcast who confirmed that men are more romantic and go at this faster, women like to take things s-l-o-w.
It’s maddening.
Plus, older women don’t make it a priority. I’m on the site (Bumble, OKCupid) for a reason - I’m older, lonely and I want a partner my age who’s not interested in just my money. We’re on the site for a reason, let’s fucking DO this!
Beautiful older women may be on the site, but it’s not a priority - they’re concentrating on their grandkids, their knitting groups, their gardening, and their fucking pickleball. It takes forever to get a match response. Once you connect, it shouldn’t take a damned United Nations resolution to set up a coffee date! Ladies, get your head in the damned game!
In case you think I’m merely engaging in misogyny, I’m not. I was listening to an female anthropologist on the “Dating While Gray” podcast who confirmed that men are more romantic and go at this faster, women like to take things s-l-o-w.
It’s maddening.
NehaGin
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You want the opposite perspective? Most men on these sites are married! All they want is to talk, to entertain the idea of being able to cheat on their wives. A coffee date in public? Absolutely not! Sure, they might take a woman to a hotel if she is so inclined. I wonder how many are. Do they say it in their profiles? No. Do they disclose their status after a week of chats? Still no. After a month - maybe.
Another pretty big group are business travelers. They are in town for a few days every 3-4 months and want to have a reliable fuck away from home. Em... That's what escort services are for, not the dating sites.
Does it mean that it's impossible to find somebody reasonable for a woman over 50? No. It just takes time and common sense to cut down on bullshit early on.
NehaGin
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Also, are you sure that active refers only to running? To me active means that you can (and want!) to do more than watch sports on the couch. Can you go on a 2-3 hour hike? On a kayak ride? Nothing too crazy, no white water rafting, just a nice calm river. Do you have any hobbies that you spend time on? Volunteering? Do you actively DO anything at all? Older women might have knitting groups, but do YOU belong to any group at all?
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I've basically been single for the past 12 years. At this point I embrace the friendships I have and find things that give me happiness and fulfillment. As a 55 year old divorced man, I believe that ship has sailed when it comes to finding a romantic partner, and I'm ok with that. I did the online dating thing and it has left me weary.
NewOldGuy77
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UPDATE to my May 30 post: Hell froze over. After a really disastrous coffee date I was ready to bag it all and join a monastery, but on June 8 tried one more coffee date with a new woman who was funny as hell and who responded right away to my witty comment. Within three minutes, it became clear we had real chemistry and scheduled a 2nd date, which led to a third and fourth within a week. We’ve had lunches, dinners, even gone on a 5-mile hike! I’m crazy about her, and all signs point to her feeling the same way. Fingers crossed!
NewOldGuy77
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My dude, 55 is young as fuck! Hell, I learned to ride and got my MC license at 58! As you can see from my posts, online dating can be a shitshow, but it’s a game of numbers, and you have to know exactly who/what you want in a partner. It took me a while to figure it out, (smart, funny, and local, because fuck LDRs) - but once I did I found the right person. Now, emotionally I’m 17 again. My 64-year-old gf is one of the hottest women I’ve ever been with and I’m stupid crazy about her!
Please listen to the “Dating While Gray” podcast - it’s really eye-opening. I wish you luck!
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I haven't dated in ages, but I always loved dating. The mystery, the unknown. It might work out, it might not, but it was fun. 
I miss it, but my wife won't let me go out on dates anymore.
I miss it, but my wife won't let me go out on dates anymore.
Inthelastrow
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I chatted with my twenty-something son about modern dating the other day. He told me about the use of the modern dating app - swipe left, swipe right. I asked afterward if anyone ever just walks up to someone they like and asks them out. His response? "Why would anyone do that!"
live4thebj
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You get used to it. If you are observant as me and do online dating, pics alone you can pick out the easy ones just by their picture.
NehaGin
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I wonder what an "easy" means in this context... Easy to text with? Easy to talk to in person? Easy to get in your bed?
live4thebj
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I thought that was a given. Easy in the sense at some point on the first date I would either get a BJ or full blown sex. Some didn’t even want to go on a date. They just wanted to fuck. And keep in mind some of these woman had in their profile they are not looking for a one night stand. Yeah right!
NehaGin
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Yes, this is what it usually means.
But this thread is about DATING, not fucking. And getting sex on the first date often means that you are not going to get too many of follow up dates.
live4thebj
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Well I have dated one woman for two years that gave me such a BJ I couldn’t get the words out when I tried to warn her I was going to blow. Good thing she always swallows. Most sexual mom I ever had the pleasure of having sex with.
That wasn’t even a date. More like a meet and greet.
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AnnieLit
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I just saw an ad on FB and thought some of you guys might find this a bit less intimidating. It's a sort of matching app, but you go to dinner as a group of 6 strangers, 3 men, 3 women, that are matched based on a questionnaire. No obligations, no expectations, if you click - great. If not, you hopefully had a nice chat during the dinner. Might be worth a try.
https://timeleft.com/
https://timeleft.com/
