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imemkay
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LOL Safety first!!
NightL
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Just a thought, you could actually leave the house and socialise just a little bit. Perhaps get the chance to pass on that message in person. A somewhat dated idea, but it used to work quite well. Might even save you some time. Even if you don't score a date on a night out, you might enjoy the company and still have a good time.
I did it once and there was sex on the first get-together... then we realised that over the next several weeks that all the correspondence we had prior to that meant absolutely nothing. You don't actually start to get to know a person truly until you meet face to face. I would now just leave out the online searching thing and make it happen quicker and more meaningful by getting out among people.
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Don't know what style of music you play or the environment that you perform in, but if you play in a hotel band etc you are in the best possible position to meet people.
Just get out into the audience between sets and start flirting. Chances are word will already be getting out there that you will be free soon. Smiling, flirting, playing in a band - no problem. I'm surprised you have not started already.
Just get out into the audience between sets and start flirting. Chances are word will already be getting out there that you will be free soon. Smiling, flirting, playing in a band - no problem. I'm surprised you have not started already.
dollface007
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Why can't he do both? Dating is a numbers game, and online dating is really efficient if you look at it that way. I'm not sure how old the OP is, but I barely know anyone age 25-35 who isn't doing online dating or hasn't done it in the past. If it's not for you, that's fine...but there's no stigma/disadvantage to online dating as far as I'm concerned...especially in the hookup arena. It's just a different set of expectations.
I met my wonderful boyfriend online, I have met some total duds online, and I've met nsa hookups online. I've done all those things in real life too. It's not a zero-sum game between going out and meeting people and online dating.
For what it's worth, OKCupid is the most popular site in my city and it's free. I met my bf there, and my friends have no trouble hooking up through OKC.
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I too sing the praises of okcupid based on success with it.
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No fair. Chicks dig musicians. Just start jamming to "When the Saints..." and you will have to beat them off with a stick!
No! You must stick to one or the other.
Now I will give you my bit of adivce...You can take up new hobbies that will help take your mind off the divorce and get you out there. My suggesion is clog dancing....oh how the hotties that will be attracted to a trombone playing clog dancer! Just think of it.
While you are rebounding you may consider professional company. Get a membership to TER and ISG. PM me if you want to know more about this option. There is help out there and it costs 180$-500$/hour.
NightL
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Na, just get a visible "I play trombone" tattoo, then you will have to beat them off with a stick!
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POF is a good one.. i also use that one.
facebook too, but who doesn't have a fb now in days.
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I met a really nice man on their, made a bunch of friends, and even got a roommate out of it.
Lots of good sex came with it, beware the weirdos (this should go unsaid, but this happens everywhere online these days)
Free/free/free and they've forums just like Lit.
I met a really nice man on their, made a bunch of friends, and even got a roommate out of it.
Lots of good sex came with it, beware the weirdos (this should go unsaid, but this happens everywhere online these days)
Free/free/free and they've forums just like Lit.
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Yeah, OKCupid is popular. I met one person there who was reasonably pleasant, but nothing much came of it.
Actually, I've had better luck meeting people on sites that aren't explicitly dating sites. Forums or open chat rooms give me a chance to interact with people and get to know them through their comments, rather than their demographics.
Actually, I've had better luck meeting people on sites that aren't explicitly dating sites. Forums or open chat rooms give me a chance to interact with people and get to know them through their comments, rather than their demographics.
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I actually know of three adult couples that met playing online games. One was World of Warcraft, one was a MUD, and I'm not sure what the third was.
Don't know if any of them are still together.
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This is totally my opinion, so take that for what it's worth. The reason I'm saying this is because I watched my best friend do the exact thing you're doing, get a divorce and start on a dating site immediately.
I don't know why your marriage ended. But I'm going to suspect that, like in all divorces, your actions had some part in it. I'd recommend, before dating again, that you evaluate the issues you had in the marriage before you move on. I'm watching my buddy and everything that was an issue in his marriage is coming up as an issue in his dating.
That's all. I don't mean to be offensive or preachy. Just hoping I can give maybe a small bit of helpful advice. Best of luck.
To answer the original question, eharmony worked well for him. It's not free though, as you said you wanted. But he met several really nice girls there. A few nutters too.
I don't know why your marriage ended. But I'm going to suspect that, like in all divorces, your actions had some part in it. I'd recommend, before dating again, that you evaluate the issues you had in the marriage before you move on. I'm watching my buddy and everything that was an issue in his marriage is coming up as an issue in his dating.
That's all. I don't mean to be offensive or preachy. Just hoping I can give maybe a small bit of helpful advice. Best of luck.
To answer the original question, eharmony worked well for him. It's not free though, as you said you wanted. But he met several really nice girls there. A few nutters too.
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