Dating & Sex

[Lifeguard326]

I'm new to dating, Again. My question is how many dates with someone befor having Sex?

 

[tigerjen]

I'm new to dating, Again. My question is how many
dates with someone befor having Sex?

I'd say if the chemistry is right and you and your
partner are comfortable with each other, go for it!

(don't' forget protection though!)

Good luck!


tigerjen

 

[Minx of Mayhem]

I doubt that anyone can give you the amount of dates one should have before they put out becuase that's really something that depends on you and not other peoples standards. It all comes down to what you're looking for in a relationship and how comfortable you feel with your partner.

If your looking for a quick fix, then by all means, jump right into bed (but not before you're sure you're partner is clean!) But if, like most of us, you're looking for a serious relationship, I think it's best to wait you're ready to give yourself to your partner and take the relationship to the next level.

When you begin to feel like the moment's right (or if your partner is pushing you for a hot sex), discuss it with him/her. Don't rush yourself before you aren't ready otherwise you could very well hurt yourself.

 

[JRaven]

It depends...

on the very fickle mood of a woman.
Once, I dated a guy about 10 times over the course of two months. Dumped him and we never did anything but kiss.

Another time, I gave a guy a blowjob in a mall parking lot. A month later we had our first date.

Now I realize that these are extremes. But it is what you're up against!

Jenny

 

[Willing and Unsure]

if you have to ask, then you're obviously not ready yet. you'll know when the time is right and it's just something that you know when you're there. You can try to plan it, but it most likely wont be as good as if it were to just happen.

 

[watergirl]

hmm

Eleventy-two.

When you trust each other. Use protection. Be clear about what you want/need from each other.

Fuck buddy? Romantic love? Friends with benefits?

 

[SnoopDog]

I'm new to dating, Again. My question is how many dates with someone befor having Sex?

I always find it kinda funny and strange that especially for americans there have to be 'rules' for dating and sex.

Here in Germany, you would normally know a person for quite some time before dating him/her. Then there are no rules for having sex on the third, fourth date or whatever. It just happens as it develops. Sometimes planed but most times spontaneous.

But Americans seem to ask someone for a date with both people knowing that they will go out for dinner once, have quite some laughs. Then there's the movies the second time around and on the third date he should bring a condom.

That's weird.

Snoopy

 

[Lifeguard326]

Re: hmm

Eleventy-two.

When you trust each other. Use protection. Be clear about what you want/need from each other.

Fuck buddy? Romantic love? Friends with benefits?

Thank you for your thoughts Tirgerjen, Minx, JRaven, W & U, & Watergirl. Nice to see that your thoughs kinda follow the same line.

I little more about myself, I'm 41 coming off a 18 marrage. So the dating thing is a whole new world again.

Watergirl to answer your question, I would have to put it closer to friends w/ benefits vs fuck buddies, maybe with a touch of the romance... Don't think I'm ready for the longterm thing anytime soon.

 

[watergirl]

Thanks for the update.

I can see how dating gets hard when you haven't for a long time... I started dating after a 4 and half year relationship, and it was tough. At first, for almost a year, I didn't want to trust my heart to anyone, and I hadn't really gotten it back from my ex.

So it took a while... as long as both you & your partner are on the same page, or at least know what page you're on, respectively, that's good.

Just do what your conscience tells you, I figure.

 

[Lifeguard326]

Re: Thanks for the update.

I can see how dating gets hard when you haven't for a long time... I started dating after a 4 and half year relationship, and it was tough. At first, for almost a year, I didn't want to trust my heart to anyone, and I hadn't really gotten it back from my ex.

So it took a while... as long as both you & your partner are on the same page, or at least know what page you're on, respectively, that's good.




Just do what your conscience tells you, I figure.

Thanks Watergirl, For your time & thoughts

 

[alluringwhisper]

Honestly romance comes from the heart,not your balls...if you have to ask that shows your immaturity,let it find you within the moment,not the other way around.

 

[Noor]

Re: Re: Dating & Sex

I always find it kinda funny and strange that especially for americans there have to be 'rules' for dating and sex.

Here in Germany, you would normally know a person for quite some time before dating him/her. Then there are no rules for having sex on the third, fourth date or whatever. It just happens as it develops. Sometimes planed but most times spontaneous.

But Americans seem to ask someone for a date with both people knowing that they will go out for dinner once, have quite some laughs. Then there's the movies the second time around and on the third date he should bring a condom.

That's weird.

Snoopy

I agreed that is why I really don't date in that sense and rarely americans. The idea of going out with someone I don't know in the dark, maybe even in their car doesn't appeal to me.
I prefer to get to know people, their philosophy of life, whatever, spend non intense time with them way before I move to sex. I also talk about abortion and birth control way before. I think it is important to think about the man's potential as a father before you sleep with him. I mean pregnancy does happen and why risk it with someone you wouldn't want as a possible co parent? I usually wait until I am absolutely sure, and can't stand not having sex any longer. I carry my own condoms.

 

[SnoopDog]

Re: Re: Re: Dating & Sex

I carry my own condoms.

You're a reaonnable girl.

Snoopy

 

[Jezebelle1458]

dates?dates? we are supposed to date first?man,howcome no one tells me these things?(like i would listen anyway)

 

[SnoopDog]

dates?dates? we are supposed to date first?man,howcome no one tells me these things?(like i would listen anyway)

Lol.

Snoopy

 

[ReadyOne]

I had a friend who lived in a smaller town and worked in the city while I lived. One Saturday he brought a girl over on an effective first date, having talked to her a couple of times at the roller skating rink.

They stopped in mid-morning and we did a couple of things as a trio and late that afternoon we were back at my place feeling a bit tired.

She said she needed a nap and went into my bedroom and lay down on my king bed. He followed, and when I looked in a coupe of minutes later the were laying close by, not touching, just resting.

When they noticed me, she ask if I wanted to lay down too, as it was my bed, so the three of us lay close, not touching.

Then all of a sudden, he and I just started giving her a relaxing massage, one thing led to another, and we started petting her and eventually her cloths were mostly off and she was orgasming.

After the maybe the third one, she fell asleep, he cuddled her, and I got up to fix a meal. We kept our pants up and she just took from us, not returning the favors.

A few months later, they were still together. I was visiting his town, looked him up, and she asked me why we had not gone ahead and fucked her, saying that she fully expected us to and would have enjoyed it very much.

I told her that I didn't mostly because they were on their first real date, I wanted to show her as good a time as I could on his behalf, and that I didn't want her to think that we were just using her.

Though they never invited me into their bed, he had me stand up as best man at his wedding.

 

[ckerwd1]

Along the the lines ... maybe

What are your suggestions for dating for the first time. I have all the ideas in the world but cna't put into application.