Dating disasters

[LustfulIntentions2]

So… I keep being encouraged to start dating.
Seems like a terrible idea.
For oh so many reasons
Share with me the examples of why I should skip the whole thing

I mean, have you *met* most people?

Don't do anything until you feel like you're ready to expose a bit of yourself again. That's my two cents, at least.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Courting is dating with the intent of marriage at the end. Dating is seeing if you can tolerate each other long enough to fuck.

Courting is better. You find out if you actually like and enjoy the person's company, or if your just attracted cause they are "Hot"

What is it if you want something between the two? More than fucking but not looking for marriage?

 

[Noor]

That's sort of the way it was for earlier generations. It was not necessarily romantic; it was more reality-based. People of, say, my grandparent's age (born 1899-1904) were not focused so much on "happiness" or self-fulfillment. For one thing, they were too busy working - the women too, even if they were at home. (No Uber Eats or frozen pizza back then.)

I did a study during university on dating habits of long married couples 40+ yrs. Most of the women I talked to told me that their parents would not allow them to date one person exclusively until they were basically at engagement stage and both sets of parents had met. In order to see the guy they wanted they had to go out with several others in between.
I have often wondered if people get coupled too quickly and has created a generation of serial monogamous rather than successful long term relationships.

 

[StillRain]

My girlfriend and I met on Tinder for sex. After we met in person, we both realized that we were in love. That was four years ago and we are still together. So you never know.

In love on the first tinder fuck? Sheesh you guys move fast.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I haven't dated in 27 years.

I met the woman I currently am married to at work and for the first few months, we couldn't stand each other.
We were friends for two, then she mentioned how she missed me when I went on vacation because she thought about me all the time.
We started dating for two months. During that time I met her parents and was respectful.
I proposed a few weeks before Thanksgiving. We married two months later.
We are the two most stubborn people on the planet because with everything we put each other through, we're still together.
They all don't end like that, but sometimes you get lucky.

 

[Escierto]

In love on the first tinder fuck? Sheesh you guys move fast.

Yeah, I know. It was very strange for both of us.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Courting is dating with the intent of marriage at the end. Dating is seeing if you can tolerate each other long enough to fuck.

Courting is better. You find out if you actually like and enjoy the person's company, or if your just attracted cause they are "Hot"

I think marriage was not quite mandatory back then, but it was certainly encouraged. Not every courtship resulted in a marriage, but I don't think the term "dating" was even used, say, in the 1920's or earlier.

Of course, it was hardly an ideal world. My grandfather told me stories about his father, who was a cop in New York around the 1890's and early 1900's, and how he saw that there was plenty of prostitution and the resulting graft in the city back then. So it wasn't necessarily entirely a better time, but it was certainly different for the average person.

 

[StillRain]

Yeah, I know. It was very strange for both of us.

That’s almost faster than most lit relationships move.

 

[StillRain]

If you’re actually ready, then date. If you’re still heart broken or have not done the work on yourself to move on from the trauma of the last relationship’s demise, I say hold off a while and be on your own for a bit.

As tempting as it is to find a band-aid some wounds need air to heal.

This I know to be true.^

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Dude dating disasters are the worst. Like that time she did not put out on first date.

 

[StillRain]

Dude dating disasters are the worst. Like that time she did not put out on first date.

I’m sorry.

It takes a second to spread ‘em.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

I’m sorry.

It takes a second to spread ‘em.

You are forgiven. I will try and be more patient. With you. Only you though.

 

[StillRain]

You are forgiven. I will try and be more patient. With you. Only you though.

I’ll definitely be easier for you.

 

[deft]

I’ll definitely be easier for you.

Lucky bastard

 

[Mo_Bandy]

I’ll definitely be easier for you.

You love teasing me.

 

[StillRain]

You love teasing me.

I love you.

 

[deft]

I love you.

Lucky bastard

 

[Mo_Bandy]

I love you.

 

[Dribble]

Wait half the time of the length of the relationship. Of course this varies...but not really.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Wait half the time of the length of the relationship. Of course this varies...but not really.

I’ve also herd the opposite. That it is twice the time. So a six month relationship means you wait a year.

Personally I think you are ready when you are ready. Some are able to move on quickly other need extended time to heal. Others eventually become so numb that they never feel again.