Dating disasters

[LostGirlTink]

So… I keep being encouraged to start dating.
Seems like a terrible idea.
For oh so many reasons
Share with me the examples of why I should skip the whole thing

 

[English_guy_bkk]

So… I keep being encouraged to start dating.
Seems like a terrible idea.
For oh so many reasons
Share with me the examples of why I should skip the whole thing

I wear socks with shorts. Oh and sandals.

 

[Donotrustanybody]

So… I keep being encouraged to start dating.
Seems like a terrible idea.
For oh so many reasons
Share with me the examples of why I should skip the whole thing

If you are healed from your last relationship, you shouldn't skip it and put yourself out there

 

[LostGirlTink]

I wear socks with shorts. Oh and sandals.

I wear socks with shorts. Oh and sandals.

Yikes!

 

[LostGirlTink]

If you are healed from your last relationship, you shouldn't skip it and put yourself out there

No one ever really heals from relationships.
People just carry different baggage, no matter what they say.

 

[RIPAphrodite]

I date both sides and between work and family it’s hard to find what I want. To all the singles out there, I wouldn’t worry about being alone

 

[Noor]

If you do well with toys, I’d stick with them , more reliable, replaceable, turn on when you want them to…
Seriously, I don’t really do dating. The idea of being alone with a strange man to do some activity and afterwards they try to kiss you, yuck!!!
I prefer to meet and get to know a variety of people through friends, mutual interests to get to know, hang out with and go from there if we both feel like it . If I wouldn’t want a them as a long term friend, I don’t want to date them. You can make friends almost anywhere much better than dating which is kind of archaic anyway.

 

[SoCalAshley]

Where do I begin? I have been dating for about three years. That is when I broke up with my longtime boyfriend. Probably the worst is when a co-worker tells you he will be perfect for you. Run. Run as fast as you can. They are never perfect for you.

 

[LostGirlTink]

If you do well with toys, I’d stick with them , more reliable, replaceable, turn on when you want them to…
Seriously, I don’t really do dating. The idea of being alone with a strange man to do some activity and afterwards they try to kiss you, yuck!!!
I prefer to meet and get to know a variety of people through friends, mutual interests to get to know, hang out with and go from there if we both feel like it . If I wouldn’t want a them as a long term friend, I don’t want to date them. You can make friends almost anywhere much better than dating which is kind of archaic anyway.

I honestly feel like this is kind of where I am. It’s good to know I’m not the only one that feels that way

 

[The_Weeping_Angel]

So… I keep being encouraged to start dating.
Seems like a terrible idea.
For oh so many reasons
Share with me the examples of why I should skip the whole thing

Don't date. Court or be courted. Far better. Far more romantic.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Honestly if you are looking to date to find a life partner, I would skip it. I started dating 2 years ago, after nearly 30 years of being single, and have yet to find a guy who wants to date/a relationship. They are all mostly interested in having a FWB/FB.

 

[English_guy_bkk]

Honestly if you are looking to date to find a life partner, I would skip it. I started dating 2 years ago, after nearly 30 years of being single, and have yet to find a guy who wants to date/a relationship. They are all mostly interested in having a FWB/FB.

Quite a sweeping opinion. Sorry.

 

[StillRain]

If you do well with toys, I’d stick with them , more reliable, replaceable, turn on when you want them to…
Seriously, I don’t really do dating. The idea of being alone with a strange man to do some activity and afterwards they try to kiss you, yuck!!!
I prefer to meet and get to know a variety of people through friends, mutual interests to get to know, hang out with and go from there if we both feel like it . If I wouldn’t want a them as a long term friend, I don’t want to date them. You can make friends almost anywhere much better than dating which is kind of archaic anyway.

I have not found this to be true. Real friendships, I find, are rare gifts and hard to forge as you get older. That initial connection and chemistry and maintenance is as important to me with friendships as it is with dating. I find making lasting and true new friendships as an adult in the real world, way harder than dating.

 

[Indie]

Call me tomorrow and I’ll fill you in on all my awful Tinder experiences.





And then I’ll encourage you to do it anyway.

 

[StillRain]

I think it’s important to understand anyone on Tinder is after sex and sex only.

Having not that long ago been on Tinder, can confirm.

 

[Noor]

I have not found this to be true. Real friendships, I find, are rare gifts and hard to forge as you get older. That initial connection and chemistry and maintenance is as important to me with friendships as it is with dating. I find making lasting and true new friendships as an adult in the real world, way harder than dating.

It depends what you end goal is in dating. Yes, I can pick up guys even at my extreme old age pretty easily, but since I want more than an escort, body, arm candy it’s not worth it.
People in short acquaintances can be pretty darn attractive but until you get to know them, you don’t know if you’d want to keep them on any level.
My interest in casual sex is almost non existent, and I don’t like the artificial feeling of dating.
I think it depends why you are dating. I have plenty of friends to hang out with, go out with and fo activities with, so why a stranger. My friends are a safe known quantity sand I know we will have fun.
It’s true good friends are hard to find, and lovers are a dime a dozen depending on standards, but what is the end game of dating?

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Quite a sweeping opinion. Sorry.

Not an opinion. It is my experience.

 

[Escierto]

I think it’s important to understand anyone on Tinder is after sex and sex only.

Having not that long ago been on Tinder, can confirm.

My girlfriend and I met on Tinder for sex. After we met in person, we both realized that we were in love. That was four years ago and we are still together. So you never know.

 

[English_guy_bkk]

Not an opinion. It is my experience.

Ah ok sorry. I wasn't trying to be augmentative.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I have a friend who lost her hubby two tears ago.
She was encouraged to date by her therapist and started two months later.
She is still dating because the majority of the guys she is with want the sexy part and not the rest of it even though she is an awesome person.

Dating is a crap shoot to be honest.
You have to go through all the duds to find the studs.
It's up to you what your tolerance level is and also to ensure that the person you make happy is the one looking back at you in the mirror.

Honestly, Tink, I am rooting more for you to be happy than to find someone.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Don't date. Court or be courted. Far better. Far more romantic.

That's sort of the way it was for earlier generations. It was not necessarily romantic; it was more reality-based. People of, say, my grandparent's age (born 1899-1904) were not focused so much on "happiness" or self-fulfillment. For one thing, they were too busy working - the women too, even if they were at home. (No Uber Eats or frozen pizza back then.)

 

[gunhilltrain]

Not an opinion. It is my experience.

There are always exceptions, but I think your experience is becoming more common. I'm almost glad that I'm too old for all that is going on in the dating scene now.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

She is still dating because the majority of the guys she is with want the sexy part and not the rest of it even though she is an awesome person.

That is my experience as well. I finally gave up and gave in.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

There are always exceptions, but I think your experience is becoming more common. I'm almost glad that I'm too old for all that is going on in the dating scene now.

Oh I know there are exceptions. It is also why I keep giving in a chance.

 

[The_Weeping_Angel]

That's sort of the way it was for earlier generations. It was not necessarily romantic; it was more reality-based. People of, say, my grandparent's age (born 1899-1904) were not focused so much on "happiness" or self-fulfillment. For one thing, they were too busy working - the women too, even if they were at home. (No Uber Eats or frozen pizza back then.)

Courting is dating with the intent of marriage at the end. Dating is seeing if you can tolerate each other long enough to fuck.

Courting is better. You find out if you actually like and enjoy the person's company, or if your just attracted cause they are "Hot"