Dating a stripper

[betamale30]

Fiancé has been working as a hostess at this strip club for a few months (fully clothed as hostess).. she was offered a slot as being one of the dancers tonight which comes with a lot more pay, after debating what to do for the past few days last night she accepted. She left for work at 7 o’clock I’m sitting home alone tonight not being able to contain the cuck wannabe in me. Can’t get It out Of my head.

Anyone else in relationship with an exotic dancer? If so how do you deal with all these emotions?

 

[JohnsonLongwood]

I did once. Same thing, she started as a waitress, too. I used to drop her off for work and pick her up after they closed. I just saw it as another job. I kind of liked that my girlfriend was a striper as it gave me an air of sexual prowess, not entirely undeserved of course, and made other guys envious.

 

[13Fantasies]

No. Never had the opportunity

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

Is she doing private dances?

 

[ChrissyCD64]

Fiancé has been working as a hostess at this strip club for a few months (fully clothed as hostess).. she was offered a slot as being one of the dancers tonight which comes with a lot more pay, after debating what to do for the past few days last night she accepted. She left for work at 7 o’clock I’m sitting home alone tonight not being able to contain the cuck wannabe in me. Can’t get It out Of my head.

Anyone else in relationship with an exotic dancer? If so how do you deal with all these emotions?

Our bi CD son met his wife when they were both working their way through college, she as a nude dancer and him performing in a drag queen show at the same club.

 

[miska_darling]

You really have to see it for what it is: just a job. But also it’s very important that you communicate your feelings and any concerns you may have issues as to avoid any issues that would develop in your relationship from miscommunication, jealousy, resentment etc.

I also waitressed/bartended at a strip club in the past and was offered the opportunity to go as a dancer. I had previously danced at a different club/city years prior for a very short time and as such the idea wasn’t a big deal for me.

Although, at the point my relationship was new and more important than the job and I would have stopped if it had been an issue or became an issue for him/us. So I asked him if he was alright with it and invited him to communicate and while it was fine, it is definitely important for a partner to be truthful. Especially when you’re still fresh in a relationship and are still ‘figuring’ each other and getting to know and building trust. The communication and not holding anything is important for trust and to make sure you get no weird sentiments lingering underneath the surface.

It’s the same if you’re ending up both playing yourself a fantasy about it, make it clear that you’re distinguishing reality vs the conniving fantasy that the two of you intimately share.

 

[policywank]

Fiancé has been working as a hostess at this strip club for a few months (fully clothed as hostess).. she was offered a slot as being one of the dancers tonight which comes with a lot more pay, after debating what to do for the past few days last night she accepted. She left for work at 7 o’clock I’m sitting home alone tonight not being able to contain the cuck wannabe in me. Can’t get It out Of my head.

Anyone else in relationship with an exotic dancer? If so how do you deal with all these emotions?

I used to work as a stripper. We did do private dances so lots of men had their hands on me. I got propositioned a lot. The job was sometimes stimulating, but for the most part it was just a job.

Insecurity can manifest itself in a variety of ways and I would say that most of my boyfriends at the time experienced at least some of that. The best ones kept it in check, but I don't think that they could simply turn it off. A few were enamoured of the fact that I was a stripper in a way that might be considered a little bit cuckold like. That can be just as problematic as classic male insecurity if not kept in check.

Personally I think it is best to embrace these complex emotions. It is true that dancing on stage and writhing in a guy's lap (and feeling his dick get hard) is not as sexy as it might seem from the stripper's perspective. But it isn't exactly a job at Walmart either. It was pretty rare to find a client attractive or sexually stimulating but it did happen. And I did sometimes find the overall experience empowering and stimulating. Other dancers saw it through a more negative light and even resented their clients. However one feels, I think that one would have to be a sociopath to be completely and utterly indifferent to it at all times.

I don't think it is productive to pretend otherwise. In fact, denial usually exacerbates whatever feelings you may be having because it doesn't work and that reality adds another layer of unresolved emotions. It is best to accept that your fiancé can and does feel sexually attracted to other men. That is natural. But it in no way means she will act on that attraction - whether you want her to or not. Don't try to pretend feelings of jealousy, insecurity or stimulation are wrong or unfounded because that isn't true. If you feel them they are valid. But they are for you to manage, not her. Whether you are feeling insecure or are wanting her to fuck other guys it isn't up to her to act to resolve those emotions for you. It is up to you to manage them in a constructive way which includes communicating with her and keeping them from getting out of hand. But you can only do that if you acknowledge and embrace them. Don't try to sweep them aside, explain them away or invalidate them.

 

[doowopdoowop]

Fiancé has been working as a hostess at this strip club for a few months (fully clothed as hostess).. she was offered a slot as being one of the dancers tonight which comes with a lot more pay, after debating what to do for the past few days last night she accepted. She left for work at 7 o’clock I’m sitting home alone tonight not being able to contain the cuck wannabe in me. Can’t get It out Of my head.

Anyone else in relationship with an exotic dancer? If so how do you deal with all these emotions?

I dated a dancer/sex worker (escort) for about 4 months. We were acquaintances in a large friend group, and I found out she had an OnlyFans account. Maybe a month into getting to know each other there, she asked if I ever wanted to hang out sometime, told me she thought I was cute... I was stunned.
So things got more intense after that, but she would also tell me about her clients. Many of them were longtime regulars from the clubs. Some of them were into daddy/daughter stuff, one was into having her pop balloons sexually...
This was after I understood that I, myself, didn't and don't hold any kind of possessive feelings to my partners... maybe it's where I'm at in life currently or maybe it's always been like that, I dunno.
I never went to see her dance, which I kind of regret, but she works in New Orleans now and we're still friends. I'll definitely go see her next time I'm down there.. sex was top tier, she smoked a lot of pot, we had a great time together, first person to give me a prostate orgasm/blowjob.
My thoughts, enjoy the ride and have some experiences along the way.

 

[Billyglide]

I dated a couple of dancers some years ago. I wasn't jealous. They were both in it for the money. I trulydon't believe they ever did anything sexual with the customers. It's a real ego trip when she got off work and I walked out with her!

 

[wildp]

just depends like has been asked does she do private dances and stuff like that. If you trust her nothing wrong with it. Knowing she gettting all those looks and lightly touched but then comes home to you with a wad of cash

 

[cubbyfire04]

Not quite the same, but my fiance used to be a stripper. She tells me about many experiences that certainly turn me on and bring out a bit of a "cucky" feeling, but this all happened before me. Nonetheless, her experience was very professional and I would imagine I'd be ok with it if we were together then.

 

[ericalauren]

One of my best friends from college works as a stripper (part-time) now. She's not thrilled about it but she needs the money. Sex work is work. You shouldn't feel jealous or possessive when your fiance goes to her job.

 

[KelvinCraig]

I can understand that this is a difficult situation for you, and it's natural to have a range of emotions in response to your fiancé's job as a stripper. It's important to remember that your fiancé is her own person and has the right to make decisions about her career. Moreover, many good strippers stay loyal to their better halves (like my brother, who works for https://www.follybeachmalestrippers.com/). So often you don't have to worry about that.

 

[stressedsubject]

It's just a job. Part of it I think is partially body positivity as well as just being comfortable with their sexual prowess. I doubt the majority of strippers want to get with any of their clients. If you do feel a bit cucky just know they are with you at the end of the day