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[Runbow]

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[Dandum1570]

So I am interested in meeting plus size women for romantic purposes. However, a friend advised me that I shouldn’t post anything in my dating profiles, or anywhere else, I like BBWs, as that will turn them off and think of me as some creep who fetishises plus size women.

Is there a way to indicate or imply that I like bigger women without coming off poorly? Or should I leave that entirely off any dating profiles, lest I suffer the dreaded swipe left.

I would say post in your ad or profile that you DON'T like BBW. Then end by claiming your fingers were crossed, or it's "opposite day." That way they get the message, but it doesn't come off all creepy like. You're welcome.

 

[biwifecurious]

So I am interested in meeting plus size women for romantic purposes. However, a friend advised me that I shouldn’t post anything in my dating profiles, or anywhere else, I like BBWs, as that will turn them off and think of me as some creep who fetishises plus size women.

Is there a way to indicate or imply that I like bigger women without coming off poorly? Or should I leave that entirely off any dating profiles, lest I suffer the dreaded swipe left.

If I were looking I would like to see the gentleman was looking for real or curvy ladies. I would feel like I could be totally open and honest with you... I am a BBW and have learned to love myself for WHO I am not WHAT I am.. "Thanks to stereotypical ways of our society"

 

[Runbow]

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[PapaDan]

So I am interested in meeting plus size women for romantic purposes. However, a friend advised me that I shouldn’t post anything in my dating profiles, or anywhere else, I like BBWs, as that will turn them off and think of me as some creep who fetishises plus size women.

Is there a way to indicate or imply that I like bigger women without coming off poorly? Or should I leave that entirely off any dating profiles, lest I suffer the dreaded swipe left.

If you want to attract a woman who may be a plus size, put in your ad: "I don't judge a person by their size, but by their heart."

 

[Jada59]

So I am interested in meeting plus size women for romantic purposes. However, a friend advised me that I shouldn’t post anything in my dating profiles, or anywhere else, I like BBWs, as that will turn them off and think of me as some creep who fetishises plus size women.

Is there a way to indicate or imply that I like bigger women without coming off poorly? Or should I leave that entirely off any dating profiles, lest I suffer the dreaded swipe left.

I agree with your friend! There used to be a guy with long red hair who was always on various talk shows. He was a BBW lover. He was always on when they had BBWs on and he'd be smiling at them from the audience. Indeed, I thought he was a creep.

Used to be some club for BBWs and men who appreciated them and it was a fetish type thing for sure. Not sure if it still exists or not. Can't remember the name.

I don't know what dating site or app you are using but some allow you to choose the body type(s) you prefer. If you have that option, put "any" or "does not matter. Chances are they will match you with BBWs. I put those options for men and indeed, most of my matches were larger men. I'm not particularly into larger men. I just don't really care one way or the other.

But bottom line, people don't want to be desired for what they have or how they look. And while some people are into fetishes, I am not. I got very turned off by a local guy after he started listing off his fetishes. No thanks. I like variety.

 

[Jada59]

If you want to attract a woman who may be a plus size, put in your ad: "I don't judge a person by their size, but by their heart."

Excellent.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

If you want to attract a woman who may be a plus size, put in your ad: "I don't judge a person by their size, but by their heart."

Excellent.

Or...

Sexy isn't a waistline, it's an attitude.

 

[box13]

Back in the day when there were dating sites by mail, I tried to get creative with my ad by saying something like "not frightened by cellulite" thinking it would make some nicely shaped woman of my dreams with wonderful wide hips swoon over my fantastic ad.

What I got in the mail, after sending it to the people who managed the list, was a list of men looking for women.

Fail.

Honestly, I'm leaning towards thinking that women who aren't comfortable with their body will be really uncomfortable with you loving it for what they dislike most. There might be a clever way of saying it, but I just wouldn't claim they'd ever believe you over their own mind telling them what the real "truth" is. If they dislike themselves being "overweight" then they must eventually dislike you for being sexually turned on by it.

But. I dunno. Being kicked or seeing someone in tears has convinced me it's not a simple matter that can be phrased in clever wording so that only some understand it. You (and everyone else here) already understand the negative perception you face. Why women are taught to reject men who accept them I don't understand. Totally understand your inclination though. Good luck.

 

[Runbow]

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[lady_jennaxx]

Or...

Sexy isn't a waistline, it's an attitude.

This is great!

 

[Dandum1570]

I still like my idea best....

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I agree with your friend! There used to be a guy with long red hair who was always on various talk shows. He was a BBW lover. He was always on when they had BBWs on and he'd be smiling at them from the audience. Indeed, I thought he was a creep.

Used to be some club for BBWs and men who appreciated them and it was a fetish type thing for sure. Not sure if it still exists or not. Can't remember the name.

I don't know what dating site or app you are using but some allow you to choose the body type(s) you prefer. If you have that option, put "any" or "does not matter. Chances are they will match you with BBWs. I put those options for men and indeed, most of my matches were larger men. I'm not particularly into larger men. I just don't really care one way or the other.

But bottom line, people don't want to be desired for what they have or how they look. And while some people are into fetishes, I am not. I got very turned off by a local guy after he started listing off his fetishes. No thanks. I like variety.

One such club was Chubby Chasers. They even had conventions.

 

[Conager]

Just find a woman to date. More likely than not, time and dinner dates will take care of the rest.. . .

 

[cookiecat]

You like what you like. You like BBW shapes. I don't see this as a fetish. I like hairy guys. I don't see this as a fetish, just a preference. That being said, the man I married was as smooth as a hard boiled egg. Go figure.

As a plus size chick, I like knowing someone desires my body type. The folks who suggested using something like "size is just an attitude" - that's a good start but don't overthink putting in something like "size might just be an attitude but I appreciate women with lots of attitude".

Good luck!

 

[Conager]

If you want to attract a woman who may be a plus size, put in your ad: "I don't judge a person by their size, but by their heart."

Or...

Sexy isn't a waistline, it's an attitude.

You like what you like. You like BBW shapes. I don't see this as a fetish. I like hairy guys. I don't see this as a fetish, just a preference. That being said, the man I married was as smooth as a hard boiled egg. Go figure.

As a plus size chick, I like knowing someone desires my body type. The folks who suggested using something like "size is just an attitude" - that's a good start but don't overthink putting in something like "size might just be an attitude but I appreciate women with lots of attitude".

Good luck!

Good stuff.

Stay away from, "I wanna pound yer pounds!" Or "I'll love ya lots if there's lots ya to love!"

On a serious note, "curves" is probably the most socially acceptable descriptor for that which you seek.

 

[box13]

You like what you like. You like BBW shapes. I don't see this as a fetish. I like hairy guys. I don't see this as a fetish, just a preference. That being said, the man I married was as smooth as a hard boiled egg. Go figure.

As a plus size chick, I like knowing someone desires my body type. The folks who suggested using something like "size is just an attitude" - that's a good start but don't overthink putting in something like "size might just be an attitude but I appreciate women with lots of attitude".

Good luck!

Somebody gets it.

 

[tnhardon]

So I am interested in meeting plus size women for romantic purposes. However, a friend advised me that I shouldn’t post anything in my dating profiles, or anywhere else, I like BBWs, as that will turn them off and think of me as some creep who fetishises plus size women.

Is there a way to indicate or imply that I like bigger women without coming off poorly? Or should I leave that entirely off any dating profiles, lest I suffer the dreaded swipe left.

With you mentioning swiping, I assume you are talking about tinder. I don’t have a tinder, but my understanding is that you only connect with people you match swipes with. Therefore, if you only swipe on women who are thicker, those are the ones you will connect with.

 

[BBWSugarKitty]

If you want to attract a woman who may be a plus size, put in your ad: "I don't judge a person by their size, but by their heart."

As a BBW in the dating scene I'd much prefer this over "looking for BBWs" anyday, usually the guys with that in their profile are just looking for one night stands or are fetishising (in my experiences).

 

[Runbow]

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[Jada59]

As a BBW in the dating scene I'd much prefer this over "looking for BBWs" anyday, usually the guys with that in their profile are just looking for one night stands or are fetishising (in my experiences).

Very much agree.