Dangerous Thoughts

[Misty_Morning]

Ever been in a mood that isn't what would be considered really great?

One that is a summation of various negative moods and experiences that might taint how you might normally respond to certain situations and/or people at a particular moment in time?

Maybe the next day things seem different. Maybe not.

If you wait to express yourself and then discover that you should have spoken...it's too late.

If you go ahead and speak what's on your mind...you risk making a costly mistake, one that you'll regret.

I'm kinda feeling that way now. Not knowing whether to put up or shut up.

There have been times when I wished I could have kept my mouth shut, and still others that I wish I had said something.

So I am just wondering....

Does anyone wish to share some of their experiences with me and the rest Lit so that others may glean some knowledge from your experiences?

 

[Recidiva]

I've been in that position often. And it's not a bad mood.

I just know that if someone pushes me the wrong way, I'll push back hard and be happy about it.

It's just a hair trigger sense.

Usually if it gets serious, I'll call into work and take the day off, give myself some space away from people so I don't push them into a fight.

Again - it doesn't feel bad, it just feels...hot.

 

[yui]

Yeah. I feel the same way at times. To me, it's the What-if Syndrome. I'm not confrontational by nature, but if you back me into a corner, or I'm just so miserable I can't stand it, I'll push back. There is a song lyric, to paraphrase, "Like a soldier under fire, any change comes as a relief." That's the point I get to ... any change is better than the expectation, the fear, the complacency. Dunno. Broke up with a guy I lurved over spitballs ... I might not be the best judge.

 

[TE999]

Been there, done that, got in trouble and lived.

I'm an even-tempered guy by nature, but push my buttons and I'm on you like a robin on a worm.

I am not afraid to speak my mind or worry unduly about the consequences.

Take me as I am or not at all.

In a work situation (which I assume you are referring to) and someone is harshing your mellow, tell 'em about it--in a nice way of course.

Nine times out of ten they'll back off. The tenth one requires gettin' nasty. Don't worry about it--they deserve it.

Life's too short for aggravating bullshit.

 

[Trombonus]

I feel that way all the time. I'm more inclined to speak my mind about things that really bother me, especially when I feel strongly about it, or it's to someone I don't know really well. It's a little harder doing that with friends and good people, but like you said, if you don't say anything you open the door for things to get worse.

Sometimes when you open up you may seem like a big jerk, but that's the chance you have to take sometimes. I've spoken my mind and had people turn on me before. However it's those moments when you learn who your true friends are. As long as you have a valid point, be constructive and don't flame people, most people should reciprocate.

But yeah, I know what you mean.

 

[cloudy]

I am not afraid to speak my mind or worry unduly about the consequences.

Take me as I am or not at all.

um, yeah...this is me.

 

[DeeZire]

Yeah. I just got totally pissed off at the 'where do you buy music thread'. People are stealing music and laughing about it. But I guess you can't teach integrity. Either you have it or you don't.

There. Now I feel better.

 

[TE999]

um, yeah...this is me.

High Five, Cloud Warrior!

Fuck 'em if they can't take the truth.

 

[cloudy]

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[starrkers]

Yeah. I just got totally pissed off at the 'where do you buy music thread'. People are stealing music and laughing about it. But I guess you can't teach integrity. Either you have it or you don't.

There. Now I feel better.

Read your own sig lately?

 

[xssve]

What do ou have to gain? What do you have to lose?

 

[Guest]

What do ou have to gain? What do you have to lose?

That is a marvelous set of questions about Misty's original post.

It is difficult to know what to do as every situation would be unique.

There are times in my life that I've held back even though it made me feel positively ill inside.

There are times that I have let someone have it, even when I felt it was truly deserved, only to regret it later.

Right now I'm in a situation where my hurt over an issue has been replaced by serious anger. Flames. When I see this person again, I want to demonstrate that anger. Loudly. I want pain. I'm thinking nuclear weapons.

I don't think it will help the situation at all. In fact, I'm certain it will further damage the issue.

But damn it. I'll sure as hell feel better. At least temporarily.



(On second thought Misty - you'd better not listen to me.)

 

[DeeZire]

Read your own sig lately?

Yeah, I have, and I don't understand how not approving of stealing makes me pompous. I would argue that stealing fits the sig better, (assuming other people's property is yours for the taking) but, apparantly, I'm missing something.

 

[Trombonus]

I think we're getting away from the whole point of this thread. I don't think Misty meant for this to be a place to discuss our opinions and judgements on certain issues. I think that conversation would be best handled in the offending thread itself.

DeeZire, I understand you are upset about this issue you have addressed. Obviously this holds some deep personal significance for you. However I don't feel it is appropriate to address and discuss that here as it is unrelated to what we are talking about.

I also don't think it is appropriate to get into a name-calling/venom spewing match here. That sort of thing is neither constructive nor valuable. I may sound a bit hypocritical as I myself have been guilty of this sort of thing. However, I inevitably feel a great deal of guilt, and don't think very highly of myself when I get trapped in that sort of situation. Also know that for every situation of this type that I let myself slip into, there are ten times as many that I manage to control myself.

I also remember how badly hurt I was when someone did this to me. I hope no one ever feels as bad as I did then. Even now I have a hard time initiating a conversation with this person. Once we've started then things are ok, but I'll always be hesitant with them now. That incident also made me very hesitant to voice my opinion, or speak up when I feel something is wrong. I am afraid that another person I care about will turn on me. Even the simplest comment can be misinterpreted and twisted to sound negative. I just don't want to go through that again. Perhaps that makes me a weak person. Yes even kindness can be both a gift and a curse.

I know I am naive, and perhaps a bit too innocent as well. Perhaps I have many more hard lessons to learn, in fact I know I do, but I can't help but feel there's a better way.

 

[DeeZire]

I didn't realize there were legitimate uses for free download sites. Sorry about that.

But this is an illustration of how bad thoughts can be triggered by a stereotyped situation - copyright infringement.

I went back to the music thread and explained, so, sorry to go all OT on you all.

Peace

 

[Trombonus]

I didn't realize there were legitimate uses for free download sites. Sorry about that.

But this is an illustration of how bad thoughts can be triggered by a stereotyped situation - copyright infringement.

I went back to the music thread and explained, so, sorry to go all OT on you all.

Peace

It's all good. I know how you feel.

 

[Misty_Morning]

I think we're getting away from the whole point of this thread. I don't think Misty meant for this to be a place to discuss our opinions and judgements on certain issues. I think that conversation would be best handled in the offending thread itself.

DeeZire, I understand you are upset about this issue you have addressed. Obviously this holds some deep personal significance for you. However I don't feel it is appropriate to address and discuss that here as it is unrelated to what we are talking about.

I also don't think it is appropriate to get into a name-calling/venom spewing match here. That sort of thing is neither constructive nor valuable. I may sound a bit hypocritical as I myself have been guilty of this sort of thing. However, I inevitably feel a great deal of guilt, and don't think very highly of myself when I get trapped in that sort of situation. Also know that for every situation of this type that I let myself slip into, there are ten times as many that I manage to control myself.

I also remember how badly hurt I was when someone did this to me. I hope no one ever feels as bad as I did then. Even now I have a hard time initiating a conversation with this person. Once we've started then things are ok, but I'll always be hesitant with them now. That incident also made me very hesitant to voice my opinion, or speak up when I feel something is wrong. I am afraid that another person I care about will turn on me. Even the simplest comment can be misinterpreted and twisted to sound negative. I just don't want to go through that again. Perhaps that makes me a weak person. Yes even kindness can be both a gift and a curse.

I know I am naive, and perhaps a bit too innocent as well. Perhaps I have many more hard lessons to learn, in fact I know I do, but I can't help but feel there's a better way.

Yes, being the polite one or taking the higher road is often difficult. This is a problem I have come to realize later in my life. In my younger days, I NEVER hesitated to speak my mind...and was rewarded. I was seen as a "go getter."

But as time goes on, one is expected to be more of a team player. You have to sacrifice for the glory of the team. I never got this. I always wanted and want to improve the team.

If I hold my tongue, I think I am forsaking the team.

Again, if I had not been placed in a very unfortunate position a few years ago, I would not be questioning myself. But now I am.

Sometimes a team needs a really hard assed manager like Billy Martin. But then again, Billy got the boot more than once for being right.