Daily (sorta) Poll #68

[IhateClowns]

Thanks for playing along.

 

[Bunnylily]

More polls! Wheee!

 

[ydahecnot]

Hey, where's "other"?

 

[IhateClowns]

Hey, where's "other"?

I figured complex summed up the rest.

 

[walkawayrenee]

I figured complex summed up the rest.

I think romantic love is the courtship. Its what fires passionate love. These will mix together and smolder into intimate love. The definition of intimacy is: closeness, togetherness, affinity, rapport, attachment, familiarity, friendliness, friendship, amity, affection, warmth, confidence. It doesn't necessarily burn as bright, but I think it is what sustains the longest. In a perfect world, there would still be plenty of romance and passion in intimate love.

 

[jameslewis]

Intimate love - it's got to be about connection on many levels, deep connections and sharing. Trust is huge, and accepting your partner, willing to let them be themselves and share themselves with you, openly. And you able to be totally yourself with them. Both of you knowing and accepting each other makes for both lasting friendships, and lasting romance.
I think.

 

[someoneskitten]

Intimate love. When both of you connect and find a way to help each other be the person you have hidden from the world.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

C.S. Lewis talks about there being four kinds of love:

affection
brotherly love
romance
unconditional love

Lewis believed affection to account for 9/10 of all solid and lasting human happiness.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Loves#cite_ref-8

looking over my most rewarding, most successful, healthiest relationships, i would have to agree. although ideally, they would (and do) include all four types of love. for me, it is very often a natural progression from affection to the other types.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I'm going with passionate love. It's intimate, romantic and complex.

As long as the passionate fucking is greater than the passionate fighting, you have it made.

A friend told me this.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

C.S. Lewis talks about there being four kinds of love:

affection
brotherly love
romance
unconditional love

Lewis believed affection to account for 9/10 of all solid and lasting human happiness.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Loves#cite_ref-8

looking over my most rewarding, most successful, healthiest relationships, i would have to agree. although ideally, they would (and do) include all four types of love. for me, it is very often a natural progression from affection to the other types.

The greeks had these four as well:
Eros: erotic, sexual, romantic love
Agape: Brotherly love, charity, godly love
Philia: Affectionate love, for a friend
Storge: parental love

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

The greeks had these four as well:
Eros: erotic, sexual, romantic love
Agape: Brotherly love, charity, godly love
Philia: Affectionate love, for a friend
Storge: parental love

they're the same four, silly. but you've got them mixed-up just a bit.

Eros is right.
Agape is godly, charity
Philia is love for a friend, 'brotherly'
Storge is affection (which of course can include parents)

 

[lakesailer_mi]

they're the same four, silly. but you've got them mixed-up just a bit.

Eros is right.
Agape is godly, charity
Philia is love for a friend, 'brotherly'
Storge is affection (which of course can include parents)

Wikipedia failed me again...

 

[DoRaMe]

I chose complex. For me the biggest part in a relationship is respect. I cannot love a man I don't respect and I would hope my partner would respect me. That is my foundation for which I gauge a relationship. I can build most anything else on top of that. Guess I learned that from my experiences. It may not be the same for others.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Wikipedia failed me again...

hehe did you click my link?

(which is not the same thing as ringing my bell. )

 

[Miasorrow]

Why try and analyze love?
I think there is one such feeling. One love.

"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails..."

I Corinthians 13:4-8a

 

[JudasIscariot]

Complex I'd say.

I do however think passionate and intimate could perhaps be in the same bracket. The issue with a passionate love affair is that the flame can always go out. Once the passion has gone, rarely does it come back. You now that person inside and out, therefore you realise why it failed etc and know why you'd prefer not to refer back to it.

Romantic, hmm personally I think it's a craving more than a sustainable loving relationship. Romance only gets a person so far before the novelty can wear off. For me romance should is pleasure, a surprise if you will; not an everyday thing.

I think complexity holds a stronger love because complex relationships keep us guessing, keep us curious. We go through a wider range of emotions in a complex relationship and therefore experience both highs and lows which tease our inner human. Furthermore, breaking up in a complex relationship can leave you questioning, wondering what if and has more chance of rekindling that love as you never know what's around the corner.

 

[Thandi]

Complex I'd say.

I do however think passionate and intimate could perhaps be in the same bracket. The issue with a passionate love affair is that the flame can always go out. Once the passion has gone, rarely does it come back. You now that person inside and out, therefore you realise why it failed etc and know why you'd prefer not to refer back to it.

Romantic, hmm personally I think it's a craving more than a sustainable loving relationship. Romance only gets a person so far before the novelty can wear off. For me romance should is pleasure, a surprise if you will; not an everyday thing.

I think complexity holds a stronger love because complex relationships keep us guessing, keep us curious. We go through a wider range of emotions in a complex relationship and therefore experience both highs and lows which tease our inner human. Furthermore, breaking up in a complex relationship can leave you questioning, wondering what if and has more chance of rekindling that love as you never know what's around the corner.

I like this answer.

 

[Miasorrow]

Love fails all the time.

Not in the end..No.

 

[Bunnylily]

I think complexity holds a stronger love because complex relationships keep us guessing, keep us curious. We go through a wider range of emotions in a complex relationship and therefore experience both highs and lows which tease our inner human. Furthermore, breaking up in a complex relationship can leave you questioning, wondering what if and has more chance of rekindling that love as you never know what's around the corner.

This

 

[suckonsimon]

C.S. Lewis talks about there being four kinds of love:

affection
brotherly love
romance
unconditional love

Lewis believed affection to account for 9/10 of all solid and lasting human happiness.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Loves#cite_ref-8

looking over my most rewarding, most successful, healthiest relationships, i would have to agree. although ideally, they would (and do) include all four types of love. for me, it is very often a natural progression from affection to the other types.

I like the mention of the four loves, Honey. Greek has a different word entirely for each of them. The second in its full form being "Philadelphia".

 

[cowslinger64]

I consider myself knowledgeable about a lot of things.. But when it comes to love, other than love of family.. There isn't a subject I could possibly know less about. Perhaps some day I'll learn.. I'm in no hurry tho..

 

[suckonsimon]

My vote, from my experience, is 'complex'.

I say that because what I share with my wife of nearly 39 years is a 'complex' of connections: our passion for the environment; our spiritual journey; delight in hospitality for others; space for being apart and doing our own thing; admiration for the strengths and gifts of the other which we do not share; a total freedom to be ourselves in unguarded ways with each other; agonies and failures and disappointments lived through in common or shared with the other. And all that comes together in coming together bodily often and in a whole variety of moods from consoling through amorous to passionate or hilarious to wild or slowly exquisite.

Is that a living out of 'complex' love?

 

[suckonsimon]

Love fails all the time.

Not in the end..No.

Is that how having different words for different kinds of love can be a help? the 'Agape' - unconditional love - which the 1 Corinthians piece is about is the kind of love which never fails. The guy who wrote that knew about kinds of love which can fail, which is why, writing in Greek with its four loves, he celebrates this kind so effusively.