Daily Poll #58

[IhateClowns]

Thanks for playing along.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thanks for playing along.

*waits*

I like your polls, Clowns.

 

[IhateClowns]

*waits*

I like your polls, Clowns.

Thanks Honey. I am glad you and a few others do. I find them interesting.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thanks Honey. I am glad you and a few others do. I find them interesting.

even when I don't post, I still read them.


voted. if I can't have sex and chocolate at the same time,

then i'll take the sex first, and have the chocolate later.

it's that important.

 

[Trixareforkids]

I like the polls too. Silly, serious or somewhere in between. Even when I don't comment I vote and read the comments.

I very selfishly am hoping that you're new gig will leave you enough time to keep them up, even if not quite so regularly.

I am also hoping that you're new gig is all that you want it to be and more. It makes me happy when good things happen to good people.

 

[janeyl]

I'm my relationship, the foundations and brickwork of it are our mutual respect, love, trust and that we genuinely like each other, the sex is the cement that holds it all together. We're both very sexual creatures...We were before we met and we love that side of each other. It would be difficult to imagine any relationship for me where there wasn't a sexual element to it...especially in the initial stages. I see so many unhappy people around me who have let that side of it slip...because, while my self esteem isn't purely based on whether or not someone finds me desirable, out of that sexual element comes so much else...intimacy, closeness, comfort, laughter and from all of them, other things develop too...

 

[suckonsimon]

I've gone for the top one. Before I started dating my wife I knew myself to be a profoundly sensual creature - and as a man I choose that word for myself carefully, knowing that it is about much more than the action of sexual expression with another.

Thankfully I fell in love with a woman with the same sense of bodily pleasure and sharing and it soon became a big part of the heart of who we are together and how we find energy and inner resourcing for what has been for both of us the considerable challenges and demands of our lives and our work.

Frankly, it frightens me sometimes. We had nearly two years when for health reasons penetrative intercourse was out and intimacy was only about consolation and not about the beauty of pleasure. I was a wreck through that time! I found Lit!

With a new chapter of good health these nearly two years now, and with us being just turned 60, we find we want to make the most of every opportunity - and to create the opportunities - to give each other the profound joy and release and renewal which a couple who learnt their love-craft together over years, and are still in love, can give each other.

I know I prattle on about this on Lit, but, other than her, who can I tell? Just sometimes it comes out in conversation - with our grown children, with close friends - but not the specifics of what we have. So I am really, really grateful to friends here on Lit who are willing to delight it what I have with my wife. Thank you.

Simon

 

[suckonsimon]

Bump - low poll rate today so far ... c'mon folks ...

 

[Little_Sister]

It ranks up there with food, water, and the air we breath. Very important.

If we didn't have sex because of choice I would leave. If we didn't have sex because he couldn't (medical) I would stay. It is VERY important to me but only a deal breaker if it is a choice on his part not to have sex.

 

[Miles Long]

#1 all the way. Muy importante.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

i'm surprised (and relieved! ) that so many voted it #1.

but I guess, this being a porn site, that I shouldn't be.

 

[may_I_please]

I voted the second

We have had phases when sex has not been part of our lives for various reasons ...small children, health...we adapted, we survived

I am delighted and hopeful that we have left those times far behind us, but if they reoccur we will grieve, adapt and survive and find other bonds of pleasure I am sure..not as fulfilling perhaps but humans are innately adaptable

So important

But not essential

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I voted the second

We have had phases when sex has not been part of our lives for various reasons ...small children, health...we adapted, we survived

I am delighted and hopeful that we have left those times far behind us, but if they reoccur we will grieve, adapt and survive and find other bonds of pleasure I am sure..not as fulfilling perhaps but humans are innately adaptable

So important

But not essential

to be truthful, i'm sure I voted it #1 in part because my marriages were just big, long 'phases.'

I imagine that if I were getting quality intimacy on a frequent basis, I would feel able to knock it down to #2.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I voted number one. It's right up there with food, water, and shelter.

Though, as Little_Sister, May, and Simon all pointed out - as important as it is, if there is something external that stops it, such as health, then I can patiently wait (he says with his right hand in a fast blur).

 

[BongoGal]

Do people interpret 'sex life' as something necessarily involving a partner?
I mean, I can go without sex with a partner for weeks and months on end and still be perfectly happy, but if I were unable to have orgasms on a regular basis, I'd go nuts.

 

[Jake0126]

If we didn't have sex because of choice I would leave. If we didn't have sex because he couldn't (medical) I would stay. It is VERY important to me but only a deal breaker if it is a choice on his part not to have sex.

I agree. Cant understand people that make that choice

 

[beachbaby179]

I agree. Cant understand people that make that choice

Well then thank your lucky stars that you're not in a relationship where someone has made that 'choice'. There are a million reasons - I'm not sharing mine but it's only one of many. But it's not something I want, and it's not a 'choice' in the traditional sense. When you're married to someone you no longer trust, communicate with, or have a lot in common with, it just happens. And then you stay for a million more reasons - kids, etc.

It's not medical, so I guess it falls into the 'choice' category. But it's not really a choice either. And before you ask, yes I'm taking steps to get out of my situation.

Sorry. End of rant. But this one struck a chord today.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Do people interpret 'sex life' as something necessarily involving a partner?
I mean, I can go without sex with a partner for weeks and months on end and still be perfectly happy, but if I were unable to have orgasms on a regular basis, I'd go nuts.

it is infinitely more than just 'sex' for me.
it's a huge part of the foundation of my relationship, or would be, ideally.

Simon says it far better than I.