Daily Poll #46

[IhateClowns]

Thanks for playing along. Hopefully the spelling errors are kept to a minimum this time.

 

[Leigh81]

If any, failure.
I just tell myself don't be a pussy because failure isn't an option.

L

 

[IhateClowns]

Love the none of these I fear votes. I think you can't live if you don't have some fears.

 

[Leigh81]

My biggest fears would be plans going awry, stuck somewhere listening to pop music with no escape, poodles.
A real fear for me would be far offshore in a small boat during bad weather.

L

 

[Mebtaz2000]

I already posted my thoughts on fear on a different thread that asked something similar. So I wont repost the same thought. (See poll #43 if you have to know what I said) But I am wondering why the numerous posts about fears lately IHC?

 

[IhateClowns]

I already posted my thoughts on fear on a different thread that asked something similar. So I wont repost the same thought. But I am wondering why the numerous posts about fears lately IHC?

Just find the topic interesting. Plus with a baby and a relatively new dad, being unemployed, and a mother in law battling leukemia, I have a lot of fears in my life right now.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

Some of these fears could be situational. For me I have no fear of heights, but there could be an instance where I may think twice before I do something. I have no fear of flying but if the plane hits some nasty turbulence I may have to change my shorts.

 

[beachbaby179]

Put me in front of a room full of strangers. Its what I do for a living. Give me a no win situation. If I fail at least I tried. But snakes and spiders...I go off the deep end. I turn all girly and shrieky. Its not a pretty sight!

 

[LadyVer]

I'm not sure how to vote.

At 60, I've learned that fear and everything else that I dealt with when I was younger hasn't abated. If you think getting older means we reach nirvana, I hate to disappoint you.

The biggest fear I'm probably dealing with right now is this: how do I deal with the fact that I'm older and women who get older are not appreciated, by most people, even family?

I recently started a new daily meditation. I focus on a positive trait, like self-confidence, maturity, professionalism, humor, cheerfulness, etc. I could go on. The thing is, at my age, I am fragile, spiritually, physically, mentally. And I have some upcoming cancer diagnostics to go through. Also, even at my age, I still have to tell myself I have to act my age, that even though I feel 14, I can't act like 14, because it is really not appreciated by others.

Life is not linear, although it looks like it. We like to think it is. Shit happens and we still have to deal with a lot of the insecurities we had when younger.

 

[Mebtaz2000]

Just find the topic interesting. Plus with a baby and a relatively new dad, being unemployed, and a mother in law battling leukemia, I have a lot of fears in my life right now.

You have a lot on your plate IHC. And with all that you still find time to give us something to think about. I appreciate your strength to keep going.

 

[IhateClowns]

You have a lot on your plate IHC. And with all that you still find time to give us something to think about. I appreciate your strength to keep going.

Thanks. This place has allowed me not to lose my mind. It hasn't been easy, so coming on here allowed me to forget the real world for a little while. I have always been an account sales rep or manager. I love getting to know people. This allows me to do that.

 

[IhateClowns]

I'm not sure how to vote.

At 60, I've learned that fear and everything else that I dealt with when I was younger hasn't abated. If you think getting older means we reach nirvana, I hate to disappoint you.

The biggest fear I'm probably dealing with right now is this: how do I deal with the fact that I'm older and women who get older are not appreciated, by most people, even family?

I recently started a new daily meditation. I focus on a positive trait, like self-confidence, maturity, professionalism, humor, cheerfulness, etc. I could go on. The thing is, at my age, I am fragile, spiritually, physically, mentally. And I have some upcoming cancer diagnostics to go through. Also, even at my age, I still have to tell myself I have to act my age, that even though I feel 14, I can't act like 14, because it is really not appreciated by others.

Life is not linear, although it looks like it. We like to think it is. Shit happens and we still have to deal with a lot of the insecurities we had when younger.

Thanks for opening up a bit on the subject LV.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

did you leave off the "other" option on purpose?


i'm not keen on rejection, but my biggest fear is abandonment.

 

[LadyVer]

Thanks for opening up a bit on the subject LV.

You're welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. I've had a type of blood cancer, and it's not easy. Blood cancer is different than most cancers. With other cancers, there's a tumor, that one hopes to blast to kingdom come. With blood cancers, there's a lot of watching and waiting, then a possible blast, which is usually marketed as as a "low" or "mild" treatment. After the last "low" treatment I went through, I'm considering other options.

 

[IhateClowns]

did you leave off the "other" option on purpose?


i'm not keen on rejection, but my biggest fear is abandonment.

. It's what 95% of people are afraid of. I figure if they weren't afraid of one of these then they would say what they are afraid of. Putting other down gives someone the chance to just vote other without saying what their answer really is. I have the option of move of these which is just as good as other.

 

[IhateClowns]

You're welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. I've had a type of blood cancer, and it's not easy. Blood cancer is different than most cancers. With other cancers, there's a tumor, that one hopes to blast to kingdom come. With blood cancers, there's a lot of watching and waiting, then a possible blast, which is usually marketed as as a "low" or "mild" treatment. After the last "low" treatment I went through, I'm considering other options.

Hers is getting worse. Her WBC is over 68 and her platelets are very low. The chemo is kicking her ass.

 

[ElasticMermaid]

I'm not sure how to vote.

At 60, I've learned that fear and everything else that I dealt with when I was younger hasn't abated. If you think getting older means we reach nirvana, I hate to disappoint you.

The biggest fear I'm probably dealing with right now is this: how do I deal with the fact that I'm older and women who get older are not appreciated, by most people, even family?

I recently started a new daily meditation. I focus on a positive trait, like self-confidence, maturity, professionalism, humor, cheerfulness, etc. I could go on. The thing is, at my age, I am fragile, spiritually, physically, mentally. And I have some upcoming cancer diagnostics to go through. Also, even at my age, I still have to tell myself I have to act my age, that even though I feel 14, I can't act like 14, because it is really not appreciated by others.

Life is not linear, although it looks like it. We like to think it is. Shit happens and we still have to deal with a lot of the insecurities we had when younger.

Fuck the world. I hate being a woman.

I voted for rejection but failure is almost the same thing.

 

[Bitesback]

I enjoy flying, and seeing the views from tall buildings. I've always wanted to go hot air ballooning, and I think the freedom of falling from a plane and parachuting would be an amazing experience, I just need to get over my fear of heights.

 

[37_ttej]

Fear of heights.
Bit of a drawback having to find vines no more than 3ft off the ground ...

 

[1sickbastard]

Fear of ear hair.
Because ew.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I voted fear of failure but I'm not sure yet how I define failure. The past decade or so, I've really put effort into creating a life that I want - not just one I can tolerate. It's taken so much work that I suppose my biggest fear is that it will all be for nothing.

I also have this provider anxiety that I never expected to have as a single woman with children. I think men are wired for it.. or reared for it.. a little differently than women are. It's difficult to balance the provider side of me with the nurture side of me.

I used to have an irrational feel of the vegetable peeler. No matter what I was making, the thought of taking off a layer of skin would make me nauseated. It might be the reason I learned to eat potato skins.

.. so.. in summary.. I have a fear of failing while attempting to make potato salad to provide for me family who needs to eat convenience food because I'm busy trying to advance my career.

 

[greeneyedvirgin]

I had to vote fear of intimacy.

I don't have a problem with any of the other fears listed. The first time I flew in an airplane was a four-seater Cessna so if I can fly in one of those tin cans with wings I don't think a commercial flight would bother me.

I've been rejected so many times that it doesn't really bother me anymore--it still hurts--but it's always me, right?

Death is what it is....I just hope I go quietly in my sleep and my final plans are already in place.

Now about this fear of intimacy....

Any guys want to help me out?

 

[availableslave2u]

um, good thing i don't have a fear of heights

i have a fear of rejection. my siblings have told me all my life that i'm not good enough, so i'm always afraid that others won't think i'm good enough, that i don't matter. my brother went as far as to tell me i shouldn't get a divorce from my ex-husband (who was mentally abusive) because i'd never find anyone else to be with me. that's probably why i stayed in the marriage so long.

 

[masterslave00]

Now about this fear of intimacy....

Any guys want to help me out?

If you're are as hot as your writing, I am all for...

 

[elli1]

i voted fear of failure. but since honey mentioned it, my fear of abandonment is probably just as bad.