Daddy's Little Girl

[Farawyn]

Submission. It's a commonality and absolutely integral. From there I don't think it is 100% of anything because we're all so different.

What you're asking is hard to answer. Even various degrees of age levels... middles, littles, toddlers, babies. And, many of us really don't put an age on ourselves, we just are. Littles like to cuddle, but so do submissives. Some age players are into binkies, bottles, diapers... some aren't. Some like stuffies and coloring.

When I first came here, I was exploring my sexuality. I knew myself, but it seemed like a great thing to have the labels to define myself. Now, I couldn't care less.

I agree. I’m not a little. I am submissive. And I’m not quite Daddy’s Little Girl.
I like humiliation and pain too much, I think.
But I am a Good Girl.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I agree. I’m not a little. I am submissive. And I’m not quite Daddy’s Little Girl.
I like humiliation and pain too much, I think.
But I am a Good Girl.

Who says humiliation and pain negate being an lg?
In the end, we ARE submissives. I'm going to think about this a bit more.

 

[LostGirlTink]

Who says humiliation and pain negate being an lg?
In the end, we ARE submissives. I'm going to think about this a bit more.

Damn I read something really great about this the other day. Let me see if I can find it again.

 

[Matt_Next_Door]

I have never really tried to figure out or justify what exactly it is to others because I myself don't live within perfect lines, definitions or boundaries and have my hands full just focusing on what it all is to me. And I think that's the important part....finding that balance and not worrying about whether all the pieces fit to others puzzles..and know that they find their own definitions with their partners and should just be respected to have the right to find what works for them. I don't see a right way and wrong way on a grand scale....just on the individual level where we all find our own place.

 

[Farawyn]

Who says humiliation and pain negate being an lg?
In the end, we ARE submissives. I'm going to think about this a bit more.

Damn I read something really great about this the other day. Let me see if I can find it again.

I don’t know. ???
I was just throwing out something beyond age play that would make me a little.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Yep, it is a hard question...but that's why I'm grappling with it. I understand that at the end of the day a label is just a label, but at some points in the journey they matter. I'm at one of those points.

I never really paid attention to "other people" and have been a pretty close circle kinda person my whole life. I was never really aware that normal for me in a relationship wasn't really normal for everyone. It is those abnormalities that I'm trying to determine if they are by and large a commonality for littles. If so then my next step in understanding me would be to try to figure out when and why I came by those behaviors. My friend from college says I've been that way forever. I think even through high school...I'm just trying to understand me.

Ahhh, I think I understand better.

"When and why...came by those behaviors" is it truly imperative that you discover this? Do you not believe that you truly just ARE who you are? Do Doms suddenly become a Dom because they were the tallest and the teacher always made him lead the class when they walked single file?

Honestly, I did ponder this myself... looking back over my life. All I really saw was being a princess forever. My brothers, my uncles, my step-father... girls were precious, even as we were taught to play football, baseball, boxing (I still laugh!)... my sense of wanting to serve to make people (male and female) happy (not sexually). I call it my servant's heart. My need to be cuddled and petted, I had it ALL my life. I didn't suddenly become this way.

And, I don't think you did, either.
At the end of the day, we just are who we are.


And... a shout out to my Daddy. I love you for letting me be myself and for all that you are. You are so very special.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I couldn't find the article, but I know this was part of it
1. Those who do not regress
One does not need to regress in order to be a babygirl, or a little. Many people simply have child-like attributes to their personality and may also enjoy this dynamic. Daddy/little is often much less formal than a master/slave relationship, with an emphasis on the nurturing aspect of the daddy role. Many have also said that the bond between between partners in this dynamic runs much deeper than any other.

2. Those whose regressed state is a separate entity from their adult state.
Many people have an entirely separate persona when they regress. Oftentimes this means they will have a different name, age, likes, and dislikes from their adult personality. It is also possible for someone to have multiple different entities for their regressed state, each one regressing to varying ages. As a general trend, there is a "switch" that is activated as someone changes from big to little - kind of like night and day.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I don’t know. ???
I was just throwing out something beyond age play that would make me a little.

It's a feeling inside you. It's not the fact that you(anyone) color or wear frilly panties (I WANT some!) ... but how you ARE.

And, even if you discover you aren't, that's okay. We love you anyway.

 

[Farawyn]

I couldn't find the article, but I know this was part of it
1. Those who do not regress
One does not need to regress in order to be a babygirl, or a little. Many people simply have child-like attributes to their personality and may also enjoy this dynamic. Daddy/little is often much less formal than a master/slave relationship, with an emphasis on the nurturing aspect of the daddy role. Many have also said that the bond between between partners in this dynamic runs much deeper than any other.

2. Those whose regressed state is a separate entity from their adult state.
Many people have an entirely separate persona when they regress. Oftentimes this means they will have a different name, age, likes, and dislikes from their adult personality. It is also possible for someone to have multiple different entities for their regressed state, each one regressing to varying ages. As a general trend, there is a "switch" that is activated as someone changes from big to little - kind of like night and day.

Okay. I like 1.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I couldn't find the article, but I know this was part of it
1. Those who do not regress
One does not need to regress in order to be a babygirl, or a little. Many people simply have child-like attributes to their personality and may also enjoy this dynamic. Daddy/little is often much less formal than a master/slave relationship, with an emphasis on the nurturing aspect of the daddy role. Many have also said that the bond between between partners in this dynamic runs much deeper than any other.

2. Those whose regressed state is a separate entity from their adult state.
Many people have an entirely separate persona when they regress. Oftentimes this means they will have a different name, age, likes, and dislikes from their adult personality. It is also possible for someone to have multiple different entities for their regressed state, each one regressing to varying ages. As a general trend, there is a "switch" that is activated as someone changes from big to little - kind of like night and day.

Yessssss! I suddenly feel little, or like I need to be little at a certain point.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think being a little involves a different flavor of vulnerability than does being submissive but not a little.

 

[Farawyn]

I think being a little involves a different flavor of vulnerability than does being submissive but not a little.

What do you mean?

I’ve never been this vulnerable before, could I be more so if I was a little?
Not challenging you, Hiney. Asking.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

What do you mean?

I’ve never been this vulnerable before, could I be more so if I was a little?
Not challenging you, Hiney. Asking.

I can't answer that yet. I'm not sure I know how to separate being submissive from being little yet.

I'll let you know when I do.

 

[Farawyn]

I can't answer that yet. I'm not sure I know how to separate being submissive from being little yet.

I'll let you know when I do.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

There are definitely times when I feel submissive, but not little.

And there are times when I feel more (or less) little than others.

That's all I know so far.

 

[KeltAssassin]

Can you be submissive but not vulnerable?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Can you be submissive but not vulnerable?

Yes, but why would you want to?

 

[barefootgirl69]

There are definitely times when I feel submissive, but not little.

And there are times when I feel more (or less) little than others.

That's all I know so far.

Yes...this. I am always submissive, but not always little. Though the "little" attributes are still there.

Can you be submissive but not vulnerable?

I don't think so

 

[KeltAssassin]

Just trying to discern between submissive and little. Lol butting in.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I don't think so

I think it's possible to be submissive in body, but not in mind or heart.

For me, that would be pointless. I want the power exchange in every aspect.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I think it's possible to be submissive in body, but not in mind or heart.

For me, that would be pointless. I want the power exchange in every aspect.

You might be obedient... but I can't think of submission as taking place anywhere but the heart and mind.

*ponders* this is going to take time and thought.

(I'm very pleased this is being discussed)

 

[barefootgirl69]

I have never really tried to figure out or justify what exactly it is to others because I myself don't live within perfect lines, definitions or boundaries and have my hands full just focusing on what it all is to me. And I think that's the important part....finding that balance and not worrying about whether all the pieces fit to others puzzles..and know that they find their own definitions with their partners and should just be respected to have the right to find what works for them. I don't see a right way and wrong way on a grand scale....just on the individual level where we all find our own place.

I didn't see your post right away... sorry, Matt.

I think this way, too. Now. At first I was "okay, I know what I am...does it have a name, do I fit the description of this or that?"

I see the OP of this question might be right where I was.

 

[Farawyn]

You might be obedient... but I can't think of submission as taking place anywhere but the heart and mind.

*ponders* this is going to take time and thought.

(I'm very pleased this is being discussed)

I agree.
Submissiveness to me is a state of mind. Different than obeying, or following orders.
My MIND wants to be his. As well as my body.

 

[KeltAssassin]

Drilling down to it. What aspects of being little are unique that aren’t also submissive and as a aside, in addition to the pull of vulnerability, the attraction to being nurtured, separates the two.

 

[LostGirlTink]

All of what is being said resonates with me.
My “little” side is just a softer, less jaded version of me.