Sounds like you should write it yourself.
Okay - I'll bite.
"Master" is a very powerful word isn't it? I know for me it conjures up all kinds of stuff from feudalism (the history of medieval times and serfs that lived in terrible conditions) to the terrible history in the US of slavery. I for one, am not and could not be a slave in my power exchange relationship and so the word is... difficult.
When my husband and I first explored being more deliberately D/s I told him I wanted to call him "Sir" when we were in that mode. It felt "right" to me.
I love this Daddy thread because I very much identify with many of the aspects of D/lg play. Good girl spankings, and being doted on a bit... gentle discipline and a relationship that while deeply submissive is also built on a profound trust and kindness. That he has my best interests at heart. Like a good dad.
My dom is completely squigged out by being called "daddy" - it does nothing for him, even though in many ways our actual relationship is far closer to the Daddy Dom/ lg model than he might like to admit.
Anyway - I digress.
After a time, my husband decided that he wanted me to call him "Master" - especially at certain times when we are together. Frankly, like you, it made me feel very weird. But... I had asked him to help me in this journey of D/s and it seemed a very small thing. If this was what he wanted.... if this was the term of respect that felt right to him... well... what could I say?
So, I found myself calling him "Master" as he requested. And this utterly stuck in my throat every single time. I had to make myself say it. But I love him. And I wanted this. I wanted to submit to him. And this was something he was asking for. A simple word. It did not mean, in our context that I was his slave. I was still his sub. I was still his wife who he adores.
Over a period of many months, I called him "Master" whenever he asked me to. And called him "Master" during the times he wanted me to. Sometimes interchangeably using "Master" and "Sir". It did not get particularly easier. It still stuck in my throat. It still felt - weird. Odd. Kinda wrong. But he liked it. It mattered to him. And I am HIS sub. And above all - I want to please him. And so I squelched the objections, the ancient and not so ancient connotations that "Master" has in my head, and brought to the forefront in my mind, who he is to ME... and how he makes me feel; and how he treats me. I am not his slave and he has not and will never treat me that way. So this word... "Master" has a specific meaning to us and to him and between us. It has been stripped of all those old ugly connotations of the past and it simply becomes him. The man I love and trust. My Master.
And then there was a moment ~ a moment of deep intimacy and passion, when instead of it sticking in my throat and having to work to say it, remember to say it... that calling out "Master" again and again and again was the only thing I wanted to do.. the ONLY word accessible in my brain and the only thing that was "right" and correct to call him.
It has never stuck in my throat since.
You asked for advice, and I gave you a story.
My advice is this... what does is mean to HIM for you to call him "Master"? And what kind of Dom would he be to you? If he is offering you the kind of control, the kind of dominance that feeds your soul - in the end... does it really matter what you call him?
Good luck.
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I have the least experience with this than everyone else here but I thought I might as well add my two cents. This is the internet, after all.
1) I find it endlessly fascinating how people perceive certain words to be good or bad. You mention that calling someone "master" is creepy to you but like "daddy" very much. I feel the same way but for everyone one of us, there is another person who feels the opposite way. It reminds me of this thread.
2) Personally, the only time I would be okay with calling someone "master" would be during an "I Dream Of Jeannie" roleplay, complete with pink harem girl costume and ridiculously high ponytail.
"Sir?", "Master?".... More likely to get me to call him " Lord Farquaad" if the previous are a requirement.
I know that this is something that has bothered me for a long time, but more so lately. It doesn't matter how long it's bothered me, and I'm not sure it even matters WHY it bothers me. I just need to say this.
Unless we have a relationship, you are NOT my Daddy!
I know a lot of Daddies, I'm sure we all do. None of the Daddies I talk to do this, but whenever there is someone new (not necessarily at Lit) who discovers that I identify as a lg/princess - I'm suddenly barraged with things such as "Let Daddy do that" "Do this for Daddy" etc.
Do I call other Dominants 'Sir'? Yes, there are times I do - when they've earned respect, even when they aren't MY Sir. But, I grew up in a military house with a Southern mama, and 'Sir/Ma'am' is a way of life. My children are taught to say Sir/Ma'am.
On the other hand, I do not mind being called Princess, just don't call me your Princess.
Am I alone in this?
It makes me wonder if he knows what/how important that position is, if he truly is a 'Daddy'.
I know that this is something that has bothered me for a long time, but more so lately. It doesn't matter how long it's bothered me, and I'm not sure it even matters WHY it bothers me. I just need to say this.
Unless we have a relationship, you are NOT my Daddy!
I know a lot of Daddies, I'm sure we all do. None of the Daddies I talk to do this, but whenever there is someone new (not necessarily at Lit) who discovers that I identify as a lg/princess - I'm suddenly barraged with things such as "Let Daddy do that" "Do this for Daddy" etc.
Do I call other Dominants 'Sir'? Yes, there are times I do - when they've earned respect, even when they aren't MY Sir. But, I grew up in a military house with a Southern mama, and 'Sir/Ma'am' is a way of life. My children are taught to say Sir/Ma'am.
On the other hand, I do not mind being called Princess, just don't call me your Princess.
Am I alone in this?
on this, we agree
