Daddy's Little Girl

[INeedLove]

I have a few question for my fellow girls...

Assuming you are submissive, and very into the daddy dom/girl dynamic, could you switch to a master/sub relationship? Could you see yourself calling your dom "master"?

(I'm single and have been chatting with a dom who is looking for a sub. He calls himself master. He knows I'm into daddies. I find it almost creepy to even think about calling him master---or anyone else. But I thought some advice might be helpful.)

Thank you in advance. Have a wonderful weekend!!!

 

[cascadiabound]

I have a few question for my fellow girls...

Assuming you are submissive, and very into the daddy dom/girl dynamic, could you switch to a master/sub relationship? Could you see yourself calling your dom "master"?

(I'm single and have been chatting with a dom who is looking for a sub. He calls himself master. He knows I'm into daddies. I find it almost creepy to even think about calling him master---or anyone else. But I thought some advice might be helpful.)

Thank you in advance. Have a wonderful weekend!!!

Okay - I'll bite.
"Master" is a very powerful word isn't it? I know for me it conjures up all kinds of stuff from feudalism (the history of medieval times and serfs that lived in terrible conditions) to the terrible history in the US of slavery. I for one, am not and could not be a slave in my power exchange relationship and so the word is... difficult.
When my husband and I first explored being more deliberately D/s I told him I wanted to call him "Sir" when we were in that mode. It felt "right" to me.

I love this Daddy thread because I very much identify with many of the aspects of D/lg play. Good girl spankings, and being doted on a bit... gentle discipline and a relationship that while deeply submissive is also built on a profound trust and kindness. That he has my best interests at heart. Like a good dad.
My dom is completely squigged out by being called "daddy" - it does nothing for him, even though in many ways our actual relationship is far closer to the Daddy Dom/ lg model than he might like to admit.

Anyway - I digress.

After a time, my husband decided that he wanted me to call him "Master" - especially at certain times when we are together. Frankly, like you, it made me feel very weird. But... I had asked him to help me in this journey of D/s and it seemed a very small thing. If this was what he wanted.... if this was the term of respect that felt right to him... well... what could I say?
So, I found myself calling him "Master" as he requested. And this utterly stuck in my throat every single time. I had to make myself say it. But I love him. And I wanted this. I wanted to submit to him. And this was something he was asking for. A simple word. It did not mean, in our context that I was his slave. I was still his sub. I was still his wife who he adores.

Over a period of many months, I called him "Master" whenever he asked me to. And called him "Master" during the times he wanted me to. Sometimes interchangeably using "Master" and "Sir". It did not get particularly easier. It still stuck in my throat. It still felt - weird. Odd. Kinda wrong. But he liked it. It mattered to him. And I am HIS sub. And above all - I want to please him. And so I squelched the objections, the ancient and not so ancient connotations that "Master" has in my head, and brought to the forefront in my mind, who he is to ME... and how he makes me feel; and how he treats me. I am not his slave and he has not and will never treat me that way. So this word... "Master" has a specific meaning to us and to him and between us. It has been stripped of all those old ugly connotations of the past and it simply becomes him. The man I love and trust. My Master.

And then there was a moment ~ a moment of deep intimacy and passion, when instead of it sticking in my throat and having to work to say it, remember to say it... that calling out "Master" again and again and again was the only thing I wanted to do.. the ONLY word accessible in my brain and the only thing that was "right" and correct to call him.

It has never stuck in my throat since.

You asked for advice, and I gave you a story.
My advice is this... what does is mean to HIM for you to call him "Master"? And what kind of Dom would he be to you? If he is offering you the kind of control, the kind of dominance that feeds your soul - in the end... does it really matter what you call him?

Good luck.
cb

 

[curvyangel1969]

This is lovely.

Okay - I'll bite.
"Master" is a very powerful word isn't it? I know for me it conjures up all kinds of stuff from feudalism (the history of medieval times and serfs that lived in terrible conditions) to the terrible history in the US of slavery. I for one, am not and could not be a slave in my power exchange relationship and so the word is... difficult.
When my husband and I first explored being more deliberately D/s I told him I wanted to call him "Sir" when we were in that mode. It felt "right" to me.

I love this Daddy thread because I very much identify with many of the aspects of D/lg play. Good girl spankings, and being doted on a bit... gentle discipline and a relationship that while deeply submissive is also built on a profound trust and kindness. That he has my best interests at heart. Like a good dad.
My dom is completely squigged out by being called "daddy" - it does nothing for him, even though in many ways our actual relationship is far closer to the Daddy Dom/ lg model than he might like to admit.

Anyway - I digress.

After a time, my husband decided that he wanted me to call him "Master" - especially at certain times when we are together. Frankly, like you, it made me feel very weird. But... I had asked him to help me in this journey of D/s and it seemed a very small thing. If this was what he wanted.... if this was the term of respect that felt right to him... well... what could I say?
So, I found myself calling him "Master" as he requested. And this utterly stuck in my throat every single time. I had to make myself say it. But I love him. And I wanted this. I wanted to submit to him. And this was something he was asking for. A simple word. It did not mean, in our context that I was his slave. I was still his sub. I was still his wife who he adores.

Over a period of many months, I called him "Master" whenever he asked me to. And called him "Master" during the times he wanted me to. Sometimes interchangeably using "Master" and "Sir". It did not get particularly easier. It still stuck in my throat. It still felt - weird. Odd. Kinda wrong. But he liked it. It mattered to him. And I am HIS sub. And above all - I want to please him. And so I squelched the objections, the ancient and not so ancient connotations that "Master" has in my head, and brought to the forefront in my mind, who he is to ME... and how he makes me feel; and how he treats me. I am not his slave and he has not and will never treat me that way. So this word... "Master" has a specific meaning to us and to him and between us. It has been stripped of all those old ugly connotations of the past and it simply becomes him. The man I love and trust. My Master.

And then there was a moment ~ a moment of deep intimacy and passion, when instead of it sticking in my throat and having to work to say it, remember to say it... that calling out "Master" again and again and again was the only thing I wanted to do.. the ONLY word accessible in my brain and the only thing that was "right" and correct to call him.

It has never stuck in my throat since.

You asked for advice, and I gave you a story.
My advice is this... what does is mean to HIM for you to call him "Master"? And what kind of Dom would he be to you? If he is offering you the kind of control, the kind of dominance that feeds your soul - in the end... does it really matter what you call him?

Good luck.
cb

 

[barefootgirl69]

I have a few question for my fellow girls...

Assuming you are submissive, and very into the daddy dom/girl dynamic, could you switch to a master/sub relationship? Could you see yourself calling your dom "master"?

(I'm single and have been chatting with a dom who is looking for a sub. He calls himself master. He knows I'm into daddies. I find it almost creepy to even think about calling him master---or anyone else. But I thought some advice might be helpful.)

Thank you in advance. Have a wonderful weekend!!!

Does he consider himself a Master, or is it just a name he likes to use? As cb said, some Daddies prefer to be called Sir, it's just a name.

Is he looking for a M/s dynamic? If so, I would hesitate.

I have had a Master, and the dynamic simply wasn't something that I could continue. It wasn't simply a name that I called, it was a relationship.

 

[Amalgamation]

Interesting discussion here. Reminds me of a thread I used to take part in on the Fetish boards.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Interesting discussion here. Reminds me of a thread I used to take part in on the Fetish boards.

You're more than welcome to contribute!

 

[Amalgamation]

You're more than welcome to contribute!

I don't want to detract from the conversation, but I'll say that I would never use the word Master as a name for myself, simply because of the historical connections that I, and my ethnicity, have with the word. Different strokes for different Dominants though. I don't begrudge anyone a preference.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I don't want to detract from the conversation, but I'll say that I would never use the word Master as a name for myself, simply because of the historical connections that I, and my ethnicity, have with the word. Different strokes for different Dominants though. I don't begrudge anyone a preference.

Hmmm, I never thought about it like that. But, that is the dynamic in BDSM. It's not something I will try again, mostly because I think I've found my place. To each their own, it's not for me.

 

[Amalgamation]

Hmmm, I never thought about it like that. But, that is the dynamic in BDSM. It's not something I will try again, mostly because I think I've found my place. To each their own, it's not for me.

Yep. To each his or her own. My sweet spot is as a Sir or Daddy. Tis the gentleman Dominant in me that enjoys the doting characteristics of that dynamic.

 

[DarkSimian]

again....not to distract, but many years ago, I was involved in a LD phone relationship with a woman. There was no hint of BDSM, but she liked calling me "My Lord". As in "My Lord, I want to ______ your ____". It was highly erotic. And I certainly enjoyed it. Have never found anyone else that would do that for me, though.

 

[cascadiabound]

I don't want to detract from the conversation, but I'll say that I would never use the word Master as a name for myself, simply because of the historical connections that I, and my ethnicity, have with the word. Different strokes for different Dominants though. I don't begrudge anyone a preference.

It was definitely this...as I indicated above, that made it so difficult for me to adopt. And I think because he knew how hard it was for me...he wanted me to do something that set me off balance. Which is why I think he insisted on the word. Not because we are in the M/s dynamic.

 

[LusciousLoralie]

I have a few question for my fellow girls...

Assuming you are submissive, and very into the daddy dom/girl dynamic, could you switch to a master/sub relationship? Could you see yourself calling your dom "master"?

(I'm single and have been chatting with a dom who is looking for a sub. He calls himself master. He knows I'm into daddies. I find it almost creepy to even think about calling him master---or anyone else. But I thought some advice might be helpful.)

Thank you in advance. Have a wonderful weekend!!!

I have the least experience with this than everyone else here but I thought I might as well add my two cents. This is the internet, after all.

1) I find it endlessly fascinating how people perceive certain words to be good or bad. You mention that calling someone "master" is creepy to you but like "daddy" very much. I feel the same way but for everyone one of us, there is another person who feels the opposite way. It reminds me of this thread.

2) Personally, the only time I would be okay with calling someone "master" would be during an "I Dream Of Jeannie" roleplay, complete with pink harem girl costume and ridiculously high ponytail.

 

[cascadiabound]

http://40.media.tumblr.com/2ae8a92dae18d0ed50c55ff7c0d136de/tumblr_nrfy3d5b111tlfshyo1_500.jpg

Daddy/ Master/Sir/ My Lord/ ???
I just know he loves me when he strokes my hair like this...

 

[Freya_Gin]

Does anyone know about or link to the kind of daddy's girl stories where she's really the dominant one? Not necessarily the kind where she's a full-blown dominatrix as per my usual style but is sort of his spoilt princess and he makes her the center of his world?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

"Sir?", "Master?".... More likely to get me to call him " Lord Farquaad" if the previous are a requirement.

 

[Amalgamation]

"Sir?", "Master?".... More likely to get me to call him " Lord Farquaad" if the previous are a requirement.

How'd you find out my nickname!?

 

[cascadiabound]

Is he looking for a M/s dynamic? If so, I would hesitate.

I have had a Master, and the dynamic simply wasn't something that I could continue. It wasn't simply a name that I called, it was a relationship.

I think that bfg brings up an important point for INL.

I would say that for someone who lives for and strongly identifies in the DD/lg dynamic this is the most important question. And the one I was also pointing to at the end of my initial post.

Just as bfg found that a M/s type of dynamic did not suit her, I doubt it would be satisfactory to INL, from what little I know of her. I know I would not like it myself, which is why I tried to be so clear about its use in my relationship.

These things always go back to communication, communication, communication.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

How'd you find out my nickname!?

D/s, M/s just aren't my thing. DD/ bg is where I fall, and my Dominant will know that my respect for him does not require an honorific. The requirement that a title be used, IMO, diminishes the freedom with which I give my love and respect.

And as weird as it sounds, he will have to be able to best me in some way, become a teacher of a sort. If you have nothing to offer me and I have nothing to offer you, mentally, physically, and spiritual, I fail to see any benefit in pursing one another.

P.S.. You are far from a Farquaad.

 

[cowslinger64]

My beautiful babygirl is getting ready now.. Putting on her new corset, stockings, sexy high heels.. Has fixed her hair, nails freshly done, makeup.. So her and I and a couple other women can go to our fetish party.. Where I'll put her gorgeous collar on... And I'll get to use my floggers and paddles for the first time in a couple weeks..

She calls me daddy more than anything and I have to admit I like that better than any other term. Sir sometimes too.. I'm not interested in being her master..

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I'm still so very happy for you, Slinger.

 

[cascadiabound]

I'm still so very happy for you, Slinger.

Me too.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Does anyone know about or link to the kind of daddy's girl stories where she's really the dominant one? Not necessarily the kind where she's a full-blown dominatrix as per my usual style but is sort of his spoilt princess and he makes her the center of his world?

I don't have a clue where you would find something like that.

 

[barefootgirl69]

What I do know is this...there is someone that I consider a dear friend that I cannot help but feel a pull towards. He doesn't try to be Dominant, and I don't try to sub...but it happened. I didn't 'choose' him, there isn't a 'gift' of my submission...I simply cannot help myself. If anything, I would be begging for him to allow me to be his sub, not asking him to be my Dom.

I don't need to search for a Dom...he will come along when it is right, and there will be an undeniable pull toward each other.

 

[Freya_Gin]

I don't have a clue where you would find something like that.

Yeah, I haven't found anything like that either. I find some daddy-daughter stories hot, but I don't need a daddy-type authority figure myself.

 

[cascadiabound]

Yeah, I haven't found anything like that either. I find some daddy-daughter stories hot, but I don't need a daddy-type authority figure myself.

Sounds like you should write it yourself.