D/S Readers and Writers

[JasonClearwater]

Those of you who enjoy d/s in your stories - as a reader, what trigger phrases and words do it for you? What kind of situations excite you, and feed your need?

Writers of d/s, how do you explore it? Why do you write it? What's satisfying about it? Do you write from the point of the dominant or the submissive?

- Researching -

 

[SamScribble]

Gosh. I’m pleased that you explained D/S. Not a familiar term in my part of the woods. I guess, as a writer, I’m an equal opportunities employer. Nobody really gets to be D; nobody really gets to be S. But at least they usually get to eat.

 

[JasonClearwater]

Gosh. I’m pleased that you explained D/S. Not a familiar term in my part of the woods. I guess, as a writer, I’m an equal opportunities employer. Nobody really gets to be D; nobody really gets to be S. But at least they usually get to eat.

Hehe, they get to eat? That's like trying to write D/S with ElectricBlue. 'I won't dominate you, but here, have an omelette'.

 

[SimonDoom]

I've written one D/S story so far, but I intend to write more.

My story explored both points of view, and I find both interesting. I'm a D, not an S, but I find the submissive point of view somewhat more interesting for a story. It presents more dramatic and erotic possibilities.

The thing I find interesting about these stories is the exchange of power -- the knowing surrender (by a submissive) or acquisition (by a dominant) of power that is not typical of the person's daily life. I enjoy stories in this vein in which characters explore sides of themselves they didn't know they had. One of my early favorite authors on Literotica, way back when, was Sir Nathan, who wrote stories that explored both dominant and submissive perspectives.

Triggering/exciting: I love the look and smell of natural hemp rope, binding an intelligent woman who has chosen to be bound. The sight of a woman in a box tie, the rope encircling and framing her bare breasts and holding her arms fast behind her. I'm working on a D/S story, and it's all about rope.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Hehe, they get to eat? That's like trying to write D/S with ElectricBlue. 'I won't dominate you, but here, have an omelette'.

Jesus wept, it was only a week! And he got to wear a warm dressing gown, wave at a nice lady, and listen to his favourite singer...by stealth, I might add.

 

[JasonClearwater]

I've written one D/S story so far, but I intend to write more.

My story explored both points of view, and I find both interesting. I'm a D, not an S, but I find the submissive point of view somewhat more interesting for a story. It presents more dramatic and erotic possibilities.

The thing I find interesting about these stories is the exchange of power -- the knowing surrender (by a submissive) or acquisition (by a dominant) of power that is not typical of the person's daily life. I enjoy stories in this vein in which characters explore sides of themselves they didn't know they had. One of my early favorite authors on Literotica, way back when, was Sir Nathan, who wrote stories that explored both dominant and submissive perspectives.

Triggering/exciting: I love the look and smell of natural hemp rope, binding an intelligent woman who has chosen to be bound. The sight of a woman in a box tie, the rope encircling and framing her bare breasts and holding her arms fast behind her. I'm working on a D/S story, and it's all about rope.

Rope, eh? I know the smell. But you can't go to work with rope burns on your wrists.

 

[JasonClearwater]

Jesus wept, it was only a week! And he got to wear a warm dressing gown, wave at a nice lady, and listen to his favourite singer...by stealth, I might add.

And WHERE is the d/s in that? Any of that?

Eh, give it time. I know it's in you. I'll just keep working away at you.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I love the look and smell of natural hemp rope, binding an intelligent woman who has chosen to be bound. The sight of a woman in a box tie, the rope encircling and framing her bare breasts and holding her arms fast behind her. I'm working on a D/S story, and it's all about rope.

Hmmm, by that definition, I've written one, but in that story it was about sensation, her self empowerment, and his struggle to understand.

Generally speaking though, I'm like Sam, writing equality. Which possibly explains the curious dynamic in the collaborative story Jason alludes to...

 

[tomlitilia]

I like to write (and read) about mental rather than physical domination. I like it when the only thing enforcing the submission is a will to submit. I also enjoy reversed power dynamics, or whatever you should call it. Probably the story I'm most pleased with is my Above and Beyond series, in which a woman gradually submits to her secretary. I'm also working on a story where a woman submits to her house keeper, and another one where a big guys submits to a petite woman.

 

[JasonClearwater]

I like to write (and read) about mental rather than physical domination. I like it when the only thing enforcing the submission is a will to submit. I also enjoy reversed power dynamics, or whatever you should call it. Probably the story I'm most pleased with is my Above and Beyond series, in which a woman gradually submits to her secretary. I'm also working on a story where a woman submits to her house keeper, and another one where a big guys submits to a petite woman.

I'd be interested to read that last one. Should be an interesting dynamic.

I have written it from the Dom's point of view. He isn't dominant at all, (very insecure, with his own issues he has to cover up) and together they try to find their way.

Does that mean that, technically he's not a dom? Sounds like he's being topped from the bottom. But I understand what you mean. Presumably this is BDSM play, rather than real power exchange?

 

[lovecraft68]

You could ask this in the BDSM forum as well and would probably get more detailed and accurate responses.

A lot of writers here write 'at' things. As in we write things that we may have not experienced and in some cases that's a good thing-non con, incest,-but many write fantasies and fetishes based on what they have seen, read or think the genre is

If you go over there you'd be getting answers from people who live the lifestyle on a daily basis.

I've been a switch since my teen years. For any unfamiliar with the term(Sam, I'm looking at you) that means I can be both dominant and submissive. That gives me an edge in writing D/S because I've been on both sides of the coin.

But-and yes I am going to sound like a tool-what passes for D/S on sites like this is so appallingly bullshit, that I have long given up on bothering to get into any details or offer advice that will be shot down by all the internet experts that patrol these places.

I'd try that forum if for no other reason than to see the difference in responses.

 

[JasonClearwater]

You could ask this in the BDSM forum as well and would probably get more detailed and accurate responses.

Honestly, the staged version of d/s does nothing for me. I prefer the natural d/s that might (in a fantasy setting) rise out of the personalities involved. I know what you mean--there's a kind of 'pro' level of BDSM, and there's playing at BDSM. But anyone can play, in any way that suits them. BDSM has no risk attached. I like the risk.

I've been a switch since my teen years. For any unfamiliar with the term(Sam, I'm looking at you) that means I can be both dominant and submissive. That gives me an edge in writing D/S because I've been on both sides of the coin.

Since age 18, yeah?

But-and yes I am going to sound like a tool-what passes for D/S on sites like this is so appallingly bullshit, that I have long given up on bothering to get into any details or offer advice that will be shot down by all the internet experts that patrol these places.

I'll admit, I'm still fumbling at it in some of the things I write. But I reject a lot of the tropes in BDSM-based d/s, because it seems too contrived. I guess I prefer to straddle the non-con/coercive line, which I understand (from what I've read) is not what BDSM is supposed to be about, where everything's consensual and everyone knows what's happening.

I'm talking raw, organic, gluten-free dominance, creating liquid goodness submission.

 

[ausfet]

I love BDSM. Read it, write it, practice it.

I've written from the POV of submissive, dominant, switch and onlooker (I have an E&V story about a voyeur witnessing a BDSM scene between a Domme and male submissive).

In practice it's not as smooth or slick as I would like to tell you.

I online Dommed an American bloke when I was in my early twenties and in a vanilla relationship. My RL partner had no idea. American bloke actually sought me out after having stumbled across a story I wrote and said 'anyone who wrote that and has your username has GOT to be a dominant'. We emailed back and forth until it occurred to me that what I was doing blurred the lines of 'appropriate'. I will leave what might have gone on between us to more fertile imaginations...

My IRL and I broke up when I was mid-twenties, and I spent a few years single sorting myself out. Met next partner and was happy to find he was into BDSM. Huzzah. Only... not. He was in his twenties and had severe ED and no urge to see a Dr. I was willing to go with him, try anything etc, but he insisted 'nothing was wrong' and 'if you were better in bed'. Yeah, ouch. First IRL D/s and you get told you're shit at it, so you can imagine. I was annoyed, insulted and my eyes were starting to wander, so that relationship ended.

I met now husband a week later. We met online on a vanilla dating site and hit it off immediately. He's not submissive per se, but is willing to let me do what I want within reason. I like gentle femdom - no pain, no humiliation, just control and toying and making him blush and all of that fun stuff - so it's probably not as intimidating for him as someone finding out they have a sadistic, pain inflicting, dominant!

What do I like... control. Making someone enjoy something they wouldn't have dreamed of participating in, let alone loving. I looooove teasing men - sexually, or just some gentle ribbing, though not with the intention of causing them to be ashamed, humiliated, etc. The more stereotypically 'manly' the man, the more I'm going to enjoy it. I love handcuffs.

Husband has a heavy build (think 'bear') and most collars that are designed for men don't fit him. A local adult store said they could order one in that fit him, so the order was placed. When my husband went to pick it up, the bloke at the counter handed it over and said 'I'd love to bring a brute like you down'. Husband was quite new to the whole thing then and came home wondering if he should be flattered or terrified

If you want a wider variety of answers, visit the BDSM forums. They are a very friendly, helpful bunch and you'll find dominants, subs and switches of all genders and persuasions.

 

[Alice_Rosaleen]

Those of you who enjoy d/s in your stories - as a reader, what trigger phrases and words do it for you? What kind of situations excite you, and feed your need?

Writers of d/s, how do you explore it? Why do you write it? What's satisfying about it? Do you write from the point of the dominant or the submissive?

- Researching -

I wrote a somewhat autobiographical story about a sub who switches to play with her Master's wife, who's usually a Dom. I mention seducing into submission, which is an aspect I like about writing erotica in general, whether it's a bdsm piece or not. And that even the yielding can be powerful. To me, the dominance is nothing without the surrender, but the surrender isn't a place of powerlessness. It's a complex interchange of power and passion when I write, which is part of what intrigues me.

 

[TxRad]

I have tried to write down why my characters were interested in such a relationship, and how they got it started. It is something that always puzzled me. The situation in my story is unusual as the sub is taking the initiative, and keeps control in various ways. For her, it is about:



I have written it from the Dom's point of view. He isn't dominant at all, (very insecure, with his own issues he has to cover up) and together they try to find their way.

Control

The age old question.

 

[HeyAll]

I love writing from the sub's perspective because it's a more interesting story. I like it because the sex scenes are so much more interesting and there's a lot of psychology involved.

 

[SimonDoom]

Rope, eh? I know the smell. But you can't go to work with rope burns on your wrists.

Hemp is soft. If used correctly, it will leave temporary impressions, but not burns. But it's definitely best to leave a couple of hours, at least, between rope time and work time.

 

[SimonDoom]

Hmmm, by that definition, I've written one, but in that story it was about sensation, her self empowerment, and his struggle to understand.

Generally speaking though, I'm like Sam, writing equality. Which possibly explains the curious dynamic in the collaborative story Jason alludes to...

Rope and Veil definitely qualifies, in its way. You didn't put it in the BDSM category, but there's no getting around the d/s implications of Amelia's fascination with rope.

Equality for me is the starting point. It gets interesting when the lovers exchange power in different ways, choosing to create inequality so each can experience what that inequality is like. There's something very fascinating and erotic (to me) about a healthy, complex, intelligent person (man or woman) who chooses to be submissive.

 

[JasonClearwater]

Hemp is soft. If used correctly, it will leave temporary impressions, but not burns. But it's definitely best to leave a couple of hours, at least, between rope time and work time.

Would you not agree though, if someone's going to struggle, you probably want to use something less abrasive?

Fictionally speaking.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Rope and Veil definitely qualifies, in its way. You didn't put it in the BDSM category, but there's no getting around the d/s implications of Amelia's fascination with rope.

Interesting you say that. Never once did it occur to me - when I was writing it - that R & V had any BDSM dynamic. When I was writing, my focus was on her pain/sensation as a consequence of the accident and her paraplegia, and how she coped with it, and Alex's fascination with that from an empathy point of view. But as a d/s dynamic? That was the furthest thing from my mind - it never once occurred to me to put the story in BDSM.

Even now, after my collabs with the Clearwater guy, and intensive counselling from him and another beta, I still do not understand tops, bottoms, switches, or how their minds work in that regard. I continue, to their never ending fascination, to be like Sam Scribble - writing from equality as my fundamental starting point. The power play dynamic I just don't get, and could never write it convincingly. I'd be spotted straight away.

 

[JasonClearwater]

Even now, after my collabs with the Clearwater guy, and intensive counselling from him and another beta, I still do not understand tops, bottoms, switches, or how their minds work in that regard. I continue, to their never ending fascination, to be like Sam Scribble - writing from equality as my fundamental starting point. The power play dynamic I just don't get, and could never write it convincingly. I'd be spotted straight away.

Who are you calling beta?

What's amusing is that when we write together, it's very easy to get you to top. It's automatic for you. Based on that, I don't buy that you don't understand power dynamics. What you might not understand is why anyone would want to be submissive. But give it time.

 

[SimonDoom]

Interesting you say that. Never once did it occur to me - when I was writing it - that R & V had any BDSM dynamic. When I was writing, my focus was on her pain/sensation as a consequence of the accident and her paraplegia, and how she coped with it, and Alex's fascination with that from an empathy point of view. But as a d/s dynamic? That was the furthest thing from my mind - it never once occurred to me to put the story in BDSM.

Even now, after my collabs with the Clearwater guy, and intensive counselling from him and another beta, I still do not understand tops, bottoms, switches, or how their minds work in that regard. I continue, to their never ending fascination, to be like Sam Scribble - writing from equality as my fundamental starting point. The power play dynamic I just don't get, and could never write it convincingly. I'd be spotted straight away.

I don't agree with you. I'll bet you could do something interesting with the subject matter. You'd bring your own quirky perspective to it.

I don't believe that writers are bound by their personal experiences and personal interests. If you've got a good imagination, the sky's the limit.

 

[JasonClearwater]

I don't agree with you. I'll bet you could do something interesting with the subject matter. You'd bring your own quirky perspective to it.

I don't believe that writers are bound by their personal experiences and personal interests. If you've got a good imagination, the sky's the limit.

You gotta do it now, Eebs. Simon says.

 

[ElectricBlue]

You gotta do it now, Eebs. Simon says.

I'll need coaching. And counselling afterwards.

I guess I AM forgetting what's going on in my 'stupid big thing' - there's power dynamics to be had there, for sure.

But I still reckon - taking Simon's point - that I'd still be busted for 'not getting it right' because consciously I'm clueless as to the dynamic.

Subconsciously, I suppose, it might be entirely different, and people would read the truth behind the words. I'd need someone else to read it, and point it out, though. Wait - that's you guys, right?

 

[JasonClearwater]

I'll need coaching. And counselling afterwards.

I guess I AM forgetting what's going on in my 'stupid big thing' - there's power dynamics to be had there, for sure.

But I still reckon - taking Simon's point - that I'd still be busted for 'not getting it right' because consciously I'm clueless as to the dynamic.

Subconsciously, I suppose, it might be entirely different, and people would read the truth behind the words. I'd need someone else to read it, and point it out, though. Wait - that's you guys, right?

I'm sure we could manage that.