Cyber to real life

[Noor]

Yesterday a cyber friend asked me basically if on meeting, I would be so willing to do in rl what I do cyber?
As I only do in cyber what I would do in real life, I found it a very interesting question, I don't do all of them with every lover in real life.

I look at my cybers and they all have different sexual interests. If we went rl, how willing would I be to do those things? Many of them require different comfort levels in rl as well as cyber, how would it translate or would it be like starting from scratch with each of us just knowing what things we might like to experience.

There is guy I would think I could do anything with but of course you never know until you try.

What are your thoughts?

 

[bashfull]

Yesterday a cyber friend asked me basically if on meeting, I would be so willing to do in rl what I do cyber?
As I only do in cyber what I would do in real life, I found it a very interesting question, I don't do all of them with every lover in real life.

I look at my cybers and they all have different sexual interests. If we went rl, how willing would I be to do those things? Many of them require different comfort levels in rl as well as cyber, how would it translate or would it be like starting from scratch with each of us just knowing what things we might like to experience.

There is guy I would think I could do anything with but of course you never know until you try.

What are your thoughts?

Howdy, darlin'. Interesting topic. While some would see this as a place to act out fantasies that would never be revealed in r/l, it is refreshing to come across a few who "keep it real".

As for doing different things, is that not part of the excitement? The exploration of pleasure. The tentative first kiss, electric tingle upon the lips, the savoring of moist comfort of her lips? How merely a hand upon her hip can excite and entice? Then exploring each other, touching, tasting the rising (no pun intended) eroticism, excitement as her breath catches in her throat, her hips begging for attention, the silk of her thighs. To explore her pleasures and then expand upon the sensuality.

Just my thoughts.



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

I am like you Noor, in that I don't do here what I won't do in real life. I don't do cyber, because I get nothing out of it. I want, upclose and personal. But that is just me.

You are totally right about the different people requiring different things. What I find most of the time is that when a real life meeting takes place, it is basically starting from scratch to a point and then once the other person's comfort level is met, they move on to doing all those things that they have talked about.

bashful, damn it, all you have to do is walk into a room and the temperature increase is very noticable.

 

[bashfull]

I am like you Noor, in that I don't do here what I won't do in real life. I don't do cyber, because I get nothing out of it. I want, upclose and personal. But that is just me.

You are totally right about the different people requiring different things. What I find most of the time is that when a real life meeting takes place, it is basically starting from scratch to a point and then once the other person's comfort level is met, they move on to doing all those things that they have talked about.

bashful, damn it, all you have to do is walk into a room and the temperature increase is very noticable.

What did I do?



Bash

 

[Noor]

Re: Re: Cyber to real life

Howdy, darlin'. Interesting topic. While some would see this as a place to act out fantasies that would never be revealed in r/l, it is refreshing to come across a few who "keep it real".

As for doing different things, is that not part of the excitement? The exploration of pleasure. The tentative first kiss, electric tingle upon the lips, the savoring of moist comfort of her lips? How merely a hand upon her hip can excite and entice? Then exploring each other, touching, tasting the rising (no pun intended) eroticism, excitement as her breath catches in her throat, her hips begging for attention, the silk of her thighs. To explore her pleasures and then expand upon the sensuality.

Just my thoughts.



Bash

Yes, of course doing different things is part of the excitement.
I guess it was more of a question of not if I would do those different things but how soon I would be willing to do them in rl.

And Bash- you know EXACTLY what you did

 

[Native Alien]

For me, as a woman, I am not the least bit BASHFUL. I don't do alot of the dancing that some people seem to require. I like foreplay, but I want it to be in the sexual context if that is what we are meeting for.

Otherwise, it is just friends and goodness knows, katie bar the door, cause when the friends are out and about, the trouble is sure to be close on our heels.

 

[bashfull]

For me, as a woman, I am not the least bit BASHFUL. I don't do alot of the dancing that some people seem to require. I like foreplay, but I want it to be in the sexual context if that is what we are meeting for.

Otherwise, it is just friends and goodness knows, katie bar the door, cause when the friends are out and about, the trouble is sure to be close on our heels.

On you heels when you are out and where, pray tell, when you are in? LOL



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

Lol. Usually right here with me when I am in bashful.

 

[bashfull]

Lol. Usually right here with me when I am in bashful.

nah...start with about six feet separating you. Slowly undress, never letting your eyes part in the candlelight....




Bash

 

[Native Alien]

I don't do that with trouble bashful...that I do with a real man...

 

[bashfull]

I don't do that with trouble bashful...that I do with a real man...

~looking around for real man....maybe I can bribe him to let me watch....~~

 

[Native Alien]

Why watch when you can do?

 

[bashfull]

Why watch when you can do?

well, that part about "real men" kinda' threw me...




Bash

 

[Native Alien]

What don't you understand about "real man"? You know, the skin to skin type.

 

[warrior queen]

Yesterday a cyber friend asked me basically if on meeting, I would be so willing to do in rl what I do cyber?
As I only do in cyber what I would do in real life, I found it a very interesting question, I don't do all of them with every lover in real life.

I look at my cybers and they all have different sexual interests. If we went rl, how willing would I be to do those things? Many of them require different comfort levels in rl as well as cyber, how would it translate or would it be like starting from scratch with each of us just knowing what things we might like to experience.

There is guy I would think I could do anything with but of course you never know until you try.

What are your thoughts?

all of the things i have posted in cyber here, as well as on other boards, are things i have actually done/still do. i like to think that if i've made a connection with someone, the next step is easier to take. of course, it helps that i separate pure sex and fucking from relationship intimacy.

there has been the odd occasion where i've had a great connection with someone online, only to find that in r/l there's no spark - but that has been a mutual thing, and we've still managed to keep the cyber thing happening anyway.

 

[Native Alien]

Yea, what warrior queen said.

 

[Noor]

Re: Re: Cyber to real life

all of the things i have posted in cyber here, as well as on other boards, are things i have actually done/still do. i like to think that if i've made a connection with someone, the next step is easier to take. of course, it helps that i separate pure sex and fucking from relationship intimacy.

there has been the odd occasion where i've had a great connection with someone online, only to find that in r/l there's no spark - but that has been a mutual thing, and we've still managed to keep the cyber thing happening anyway.

Interesting. Most of the people I have meet in rl that I met on line first have been as good or better than on line, but I have never met any cybers yet.

I also separate pure sex and fucking from relationship intimacy, pure sex and fucking doesn't hold my interest long. Does relationship intimacy only happen in rl for you?

 

[Native Alien]

True intimacy yes. That is not to say that I don't have emotions with just sex, else it would be bad sex. At least in my opinion.

 

[tendril]

Cyber to Real Life

Interesting. Most of the people I have meet in rl that I met on line first have been as good or better than on line, but I have never met any cybers yet.

I also separate pure sex and fucking from relationship intimacy, pure sex and fucking doesn't hold my interest long. Does relationship intimacy only happen in rl for you?

Firstly this is a subject that fascinates me on a number of levels. But me, being the curious soul I am, will have to meet someone in real life to really know the answer.

I am encouraged that all your real life meetings exceeded any expectations. You obviously have chosen those friends wisely so why any different with cyber partners? I'm sure you have chosen them just as wisely

I have two online friends I am very attached to, both I think would work in real life too...I plan to find out in a few months.

Relationship intimacy works online as well r/l for me, its different, but it works.

 

[Temptim]

Yesterday a cyber friend asked me basically if on meeting, I would be so willing to do in rl what I do cyber?
As I only do in cyber what I would do in real life, I found it a very interesting question, I don't do all of them with every lover in real life.

I look at my cybers and they all have different sexual interests. If we went rl, how willing would I be to do those things? Many of them require different comfort levels in rl as well as cyber, how would it translate or would it be like starting from scratch with each of us just knowing what things we might like to experience.

There is guy I would think I could do anything with but of course you never know until you try.

What are your thoughts?

If I may,
In my opinion there is a line between cyber and RL... I'm not saying that it shouldn't ever be crossed but it's something that can't be taken lightly.
I know people, online, who got together online, hooked up and lived happily ever after - on the other hand I know of those who have not made it past the first three weeks in RL after being cyber-partners.
For me, cyber stays in the 'puter and RL stays in the bedroom, or kitchen, or lounge, or bathroom, or......

 

[princess4u]

it's been my experience that after becoming close to someone online, it transfers into the real life experience - maybe i'm just lucky or maybe i'm overly-selective but i dont misrepresent who/what i am and i have been fortunate that nearly all my acquaintances have been the same with me

of course, not every one has met my expectations but to me that just determines the direction of the online as well as RL relationship

i had a very intense online and phone relationship with someone for about 3 or 4 months before we met in RL - we met with no expectations, just lunch if that's what felt right - but the intensity of the online relationship carried right into real life and that was nearly 8 months ago

 

[Native Alien]

So is it just me that has had the unfortunate experience of having an online relationship that when into real life, only to find out that the other person was lying about themselves?

How do ya'll prevent that and even if I never misrepresented myself, the other person did. Or do you just take these online persons at their word that they are representing themselves truthfully?

 

[princess4u]

i usually go with my gut-feeling about someone -

and i try carefully to pick up on the vibes they give off -
you can learn a lot about people from what they say
and write if you pay careful attention

 

[Noor]

So is it just me that has had the unfortunate experience of having an online relationship that when into real life, only to find out that the other person was lying about themselves?

How do ya'll prevent that and even if I never misrepresented myself, the other person did. Or do you just take these online persons at their word that they are representing themselves truthfully?

So far I have found that online relationships are very similiar to rl. There can be misunderstandings, disagreements, lies, hurt, upsets, outside forces beyond your control that effect the relationships, even make up sex

While online relationships don't share the physical risks of rl they also don't have the same benefit of looking someone in the eyes, holding both their hands and saying "what the hell is going on?" So resolving problems is more difficult in some ways. However it is probably better sometimes that you can't really wring their neck!

In my life, on line or rl, I am looking for real people, "warts and all", and that is what they get with me, Although I don't actually have any warts, I have my stuff, just like everyone else, and I am fairly open about it. Maybe my online ones are self selecting in that fashion.

I can usually tell if something wrong online and it makes me uneasy, and believe me, you don't want me feeling that way.

As far misrepresenting themselves, usually people can not consistantly keep up misrepresentations and you should feel it. People lying to themselves is another problem, but that happens in real life too.

 

[Native Alien]

So can I have Noor do the background check on the next person that I get involved with online? Lol. Sorry Noor but I just couldn't resist.