Cyber relationships

[bobwhitecrow]

Just so you know . . .

well chatting for me was great. I have met two really great men in RL and several jerks its all in you hun go with your gut feeling it will be all good as long as its what you want. of the two men one of them I will marry tis summer the other is happy for us good luck.. always be safe and think about what you will be doing I personally would never take someone home with me untill I was super sure but then again I have kids ... and last but not least talk it over with a friend before you meet and make sure they know all of your plans also let them know when the meeting is over. good luck in your adventures ....

You might want to check out this thread:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=321063

mslena and I are now officially engaged!

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I am so new to all this yahoo/im stuff that it's pathetic! Have any of you met a cyber buddy in RL? How did it work out? Is it better to just leave all of that stuff on the 'net?

SJ

I rarely venture into the AH, but I saw your thread and couldn't pass it up. I have a bit of experience here. I've met one buddy in RL, and it turned into something bigger than I could have dreamed of. It worked out fine.

1. You need to get to know someone VERY WELL before you meet them in RL. There's too many creeps on the 'net. Better to be safe than sorry.

2. If you don't click online, you probably won't click in RL.

3. Depending on the type of person you are...i.e. if it's hard for you to get to know people in RL, then waiting a long time is probably best.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

What is

I rarely venture into the AH, but I saw your thread and couldn't pass it up. I have a bit of experience here. I've met one buddy in RL, and it turned into something bigger than I could have dreamed of. It worked out fine.

1. You need to get to know someone VERY WELL before you meet them in RL. There's too many creeps on the 'net. Better to be safe than sorry.

2. If you don't click online, you probably won't click in RL.

3. Depending on the type of person you are...i.e. if it's hard for you to get to know people in RL, then waiting a long time is probably best.

the AH?

 

[DrFreud]

the AH?

you know the AH as opposed to the GB.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

I see

you know the AH as opposed to the GB.

Sorry to be so dense.

I get it, Author's Hangout vs. General Board.

I know it reduces keystrokes, but as I said in another thread, I hate acronyms. You have to draw me pictures because I'm so darn slow.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Don't

tell me a joke on Saturday night because I might laugh out loud in church Sunday morning.

 

[fifty5]

A group of us met up in early January, here in the UK, when one of the American contingent of AH came over for a holiday.

See https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=293011&page=1&pp=25

 

[fifty5]

A friend of mine met someone on line, left her hubby for the new guy...

Then left the new guy to go back to her hubby.

The moral? Cyberspace is just as risky as "real life".

Just like the one you met in a bar, take it slowly, step by step, and take precautions.

There are lots of genuinely nice people in the world and there are a few evil, twisted bastards.

On-line or RL, exactly the same applies.

Keep your common sense switched on!

 

[amber_now26]

A different reason not to

Although I've met some wonderful people online, I have never met any of them in real life -- not because of safety concerns, but because I am so different in the cyber world than I am in the one made up of earth and sky. Anonymity allows me to be much more open and honest -- so much so that I think online friends might find the flesh-and-blood me a bit disappointing.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

That IS a different perspective.

Although I've met some wonderful people online, I have never met any of them in real life -- not because of safety concerns, but because I am so different in the cyber world than I am in the one made up of earth and sky. Anonymity allows me to be much more open and honest -- so much so that I think online friends might find the flesh-and-blood me a bit disappointing.

I've met someone online and in real life who said she was the same way. She liked to flirt online, but was to intimidated to be that bold in real life. I told her I could respect that. She did like to join in on sexy chats.

 

[amber_now26]

hmmm, not exactly

I've met someone online and in real life who said she was the same way. She liked to flirt online, but was to intimidated to be that bold in real life. I told her I could respect that. She did like to join in on sexy chats.

That's not exactly it -- though I am definitely more flirty online than in real life as a rule. It's more like -- well, a friend of mine put it this way: "The problem you have with relationships is that you appear to be emotionally available, but you're not." I'm not crazy about that assessment, but I guess it is pretty true.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Hmmmm

I've met someone online and in real life who said she was the same way. She liked to flirt online, but was to intimidated to be that bold in real life. I told her I could respect that. She did like to join in on sexy chats.

That's not exactly it -- though I am definitely more flirty online than in real life as a rule. It's more like -- well, a friend of mine put it this way: "The problem you have with relationships is that you appear to be emotionally available, but you're not." I'm not crazy about that assessment, but I guess it is pretty true.

I'm not sure I understand. I'm thick as a brick sometimes. I'm visual, draw me a picture.

 

[erikvanerik]

I think for the most part you stand the same risk of meeting creeps from the internet as you do just bumping into a random person in a bar. The difference is preparedness.

People are always a little different in person than they are online, but at least when you meet your online friends you have some sort of glimpse into their thought processes. Also, if you're really smart, you'll have googled everything you know about them to cross check their stories and ensure accuracy : )

 

[bobwhitecrow]

The Birthday Certificate

A fellow was talking to his buddy, and he said, "I don't know what
to get my wife for her birthday. She has everything, and besides,
she can afford to buy anything she wants, so I'm stumped."

His buddy said, "I have an idea. Why don't you make up a certificate
saying she can have 60 minutes of great sex, any way that she wants it.
She'll probably be thrilled."

So the fellow did.

The next day his buddy asked, "Well? Did you take my suggestion?"

"Yes, I did," said the fellow.

"...And did she like it?" His buddy asked.

"Oh yes! She jumped up, thanked me, kissed me on the forehead
and ran out the door yelling, "I'll be back in an hour!!!"

 

[amber_now26]

Attempted explanation

I'm not sure I understand. I'm thick as a brick sometimes. I'm visual, draw me a picture.

I guess the best way I can explain it is with a comparison. Suzanne, the friend who described me that way, is fun and flirty and very, very obviously just out to have a good time. That way there is no chance of misunderstanding. While I, on the other hand (again according to her) give off mixed signals -- like maybe this is just fun, maybe it could be something more, something emotional. But then when somebody starts to get close, I shut down or push away or whatever. Does that make any more sense?

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Yes

I'm not sure I understand. I'm thick as a brick sometimes. I'm visual, draw me a picture.

I guess the best way I can explain it is with a comparison. Suzanne, the friend who described me that way, is fun and flirty and very, very obviously just out to have a good time. That way there is no chance of misunderstanding. While I, on the other hand (again according to her) give off mixed signals -- like maybe this is just fun, maybe it could be something more, something emotional. But then when somebody starts to get close, I shut down or push away or whatever. Does that make any more sense?

Thanks for the explanation. I think I get it, now.

 

[rakastuja]

I am so new to all this yahoo/im stuff that it's pathetic! Have any of you met a cyber buddy in RL? How did it work out? Is it better to just leave all of that stuff on the 'net?

SJ

I have met actually quite a lot of people I have first known in net. I havent had anyone with who I would had some kind of "relationship" going on. Just people with who I had chatted, maybe flirted or had fun sometime.

And I didnt meet them in order to get any rl relationship either. It was just fun to meet face to face someone with who you have talked hours and hours in net.

But I think meeting irl changes it a bit. After that its not just the same "unknown" net buddy but more like any irl friend. Then you necessarily dont speak about all things as easily as some kind of anonymity is taken away. Or that has at least been the case with me.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Newlyweds

A young couple, married just a couple of weeks, returns from their honeymoon to face the beginning of their new lives. The next morning the husband wakes up, showers, dresses and makes his way to the kitchen where he sees his new wife crying.

So the husband inquires, "What's wrong, Honey?"

"Well, I came down here this morning to surprise you with a big breakfast, but I can't cook or clean."

The husband smiles his biggest smile and says, "There, there sweetie! I don't care that you can't cook and clean.

Come on up to the bedroom, and I'll show you what I'd like for breakfast."

So, off they went to the bedroom.

That afternoon, the husband comes home for lunch to find his new wife crying again in the kitchen. "What's wrong now, Sweetie?" "Well, the same > > thing as this morning. I came in here to make you something for lunch, and I just can't cook."

Again the husband smiles and says, "Why don't you come back up to the bedroom and I'll have my lunch there!"

So off they went to the bedroom again.

That evening the new husband comes home, walks in the house and sees his new bride buck naked sliding down the banister of the stairs. Up she runs, and WHOOSH! down the banister. After the third trip up the stairs, the puzzled husband asks, "What are you doing, Honey?"

She replies with a smile, "Warming up your supper!”

 

[mslena]

Good one

 

[amber_now26]

Well said

But I think meeting irl changes it a bit. After that its not just the same "unknown" net buddy but more like any irl friend. Then you necessarily dont speak about all things as easily as some kind of anonymity is taken away. Or that has at least been the case with me.

I couldn't agree more. Anonymity is incredibly freeing. I can't imagine talking to r/l friends about some of the things it is so easy to chat about online.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Sometimes, it's better!

But I think meeting irl changes it a bit. After that its not just the same "unknown" net buddy but more like any irl friend. Then you necessarily dont speak about all things as easily as some kind of anonymity is taken away. Or that has at least been the case with me.

I couldn't agree more. Anonymity is incredibly freeing. I can't imagine talking to r/l friends about some of the things it is so easy to chat about online.

We did lose the anonymity, but in some ways we have been able to get to know each other better than if we had remained anonymous.

 

[mslena]

But I think meeting irl changes it a bit. After that its not just the same "unknown" net buddy but more like any irl friend. Then you necessarily dont speak about all things as easily as some kind of anonymity is taken away. Or that has at least been the case with me.

I couldn't agree more. Anonymity is incredibly freeing. I can't imagine talking to r/l friends about some of the things it is so easy to chat about online.

We did lose the anonymity, but in some ways we have been able to get to know each other better than if we had remained anonymous.

still it all has to do with how far youwant the r/l friendship to go if you are looking for more then bob has it right we did get to know each other much better and this has helped greatly in our realtionship.. but there are others I have met that well as OPRAH would say just wernt into me. if you want to keep the fantasy alive then dont meet in r/l brcause no matter what r/l changes every thing...