Cyber relationships

[bobwhitecrow]

I Agree . . .

Go with your gut instinct.

 

[logophile]

I can add that I've met some of my closest professional friends online. There are two midwives in Iowa without whom I would be lost on many occassions. They are always available to kick ideas around with or let off steam. We met on an email list for birth professionals at different times. They live close enough that they see each other (and even assist with births) from time to time. Even though I've only seen each of them 3 or 4 times in more than 5 years, we consider ourselves a trio.

Romantically? That's a been a little different for me. I've met a few people from my area with the intent of developing a sort of Friends with Benefits thing. Some of the people were what they said they were, some weren't. But that's no different than meeting someone at a bar or the grocery store. In person, people can't lie about their looks, but they can lie about everything else.

I'm just trying this internet thing again. So far, it's going very well. We're both very nervous that it can't be as good as it seems, but only time will tell.

Good luck Sophia!

 

[bobwhitecrow]

So,

I am so new to all this yahoo/im stuff that it's pathetic! Have any of you met a cyber buddy in RL? How did it work out? Is it better to just leave all of that stuff on the 'net?

SJ

How are things going for you?

 

[sophia jane]

How are things going for you?

Right now, that's a really interesting question!! I think they're going well. I have met some great people, and I'm starting to figure out who I can trust. And I even met someone who is becoming very important to me, but I'm not sure yet how that'll work out.

Thanks for asking.

SJ

 

[RavenousRae]

I've met two guys from the internet in real life - one was purely a friendship and the other we ended being together for four years.

 

[cantdog]

I'm gratified to hear it. You deserve some good turns of fate.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Right now, that's a really interesting question!! I think they're going well. I have met some great people, and I'm starting to figure out who I can trust. And I even met someone who is becoming very important to me, but I'm not sure yet how that'll work out.

Thanks for asking.

SJ

You're quite welcome! I'm glad things are working out for you. I met my S/O online during 2000 and we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter and are going to be married this August.

 

[sophia jane]

You're quite welcome! I'm glad things are working out for you. I met my S/O online during 2000 and we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter and are going to be married this August.

I'm glad to hear that it can work out in RL. Congrats!

SJ

 

[cantdog]

Ask Lucky or vella. Of course it can work out. When you find the real thing, what difference by what medium?

 

[sophia jane]

Ask Lucky or vella. Of course it can work out. When you find the real thing, what difference by what medium?

That's very true. Still trying to work on the "real thing" part, but we'll see.

SJ

 

[cantdog]

I wish you the best.

Use the judgement you have and don't be over-critical. No one is actually perfect. But you can make an imperfect match go long enough. I've been married since '72 and it is often as strong as it's ever been. It's occasionally very wearisome and fragile, too. You have to commit to imperfection for a chance at happiness, because perfection is not really an option. Have children together and prosper together, and leave the perfect in the realm of fantasy where it rightly belongs.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I am so new to all this yahoo/im stuff that it's pathetic! Have any of you met a cyber buddy in RL? How did it work out? Is it better to just leave all of that stuff on the 'net?

SJ

It's working out better than I ever would have imagined, and I shudder to think of all I'd have missed if I'd decided to leave it all on the net.

bumping this to ask a further question:

How do you know if a cyber buddy is being honest with you? It is so easy to lie over the 'net. Is it just a gut instinct thing?

(Can you tell I'm suddenly having some trust issues?)

SJ

Some of it is gut instinct, some of it is courage, and some of it is sheer risk. It is very easy to lie over the internet, but it's also very easy for some to lie straight to your face. I felt certain enough about my online buddy *ack* to drive 1800 miles to see her without even telling her I was coming.

A good rule of thumb is to pay very close attention to any inconsistencies in your correspondence. The second thing I'd advise is to leave yourself an easy 'out'. Treat it like a blind-date, which it essentially is, and meet somewhere public with the knowledge that you're not dependant upon them for anything. (I just realized I'm totally assuming this is a 'romantic' thing.) Anyway, just be safe and try not to rush into it.

One last little tidbit that you might not have considered: If it is a 'romantic' thing, bear in mind the trappings of involvement over a long distance. It can be quite the ass-kicker if things work out and you're not prepared to deal with separate circumstances and unknowns.

Best of luck.

~lucky

 

[doormouse]

Best of luck with it all. And Wow !! to all those on here who met their mates online.

Don't ignore warnings of those that know your online partner better than you do. Take their advice and RUN.

As for meeting people, I've met six so far and all are still really great friends. All meetings were in public places... one even stayed here for Christmas dinner, but that wasn't on the first meeting lol

 

[Gil_T2]

I am so new to all this yahoo/im stuff that it's pathetic! Have any of you met a cyber buddy in RL? How did it work out? Is it better to just leave all of that stuff on the 'net?

SJ

Sophia I've made many friends on the NET & on LIT, I also organise a yearly LIT meet in Sydney Aust where we normally get around a dozen or more ppl turning up for a great time, i've also used the PMs & yahoo & msn to chat to many ppl & have also met lots of them to but one rule stands out to me even though I'm a male precautions are a must for all involved, the up side is my loverly lady BANDIT & I met right here & in January we celibrated our first anniversary together.
When you trying to see if the person your in touch with is genuine DO NOT continue if you discover a lie because if they lie in chat or IM they will in life too, ALWAYS make first meets in a populated public area, let ppl know where you are & what your doing, if you do decide to go somewhere with them contact your trusted friend to let them know that too & when your left them also let the friend know, don't let all this scare you off just be very cautious as there are those out there that talk the talk but have bad intentions as happened to a LIT lady i know.

 

[Gil_T2]

Best of luck with it all. And Wow !! to all those on here who met their mates online.

Don't ignore warnings of those that know your online partner better than you do. Take their advice and RUN.

As for meeting people, I've met six so far and all are still really great friends. All meetings were in public places... one even stayed here for Christmas dinner, but that wasn't on the first meeting lol

*Gil is drooling over Doormouse's AV*

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Online Humor

And there are always those others:

 

[Huckleman2000]

I wish you the best.

Use the judgement you have and don't be over-critical. No one is actually perfect. But you can make an imperfect match go long enough. I've been married since '72 and it is often as strong as it's ever been. It's occasionally very wearisome and fragile, too. You have to commit to imperfection for a chance at happiness, because perfection is not really an option. Have children together and prosper together, and leave the perfect in the realm of fantasy where it rightly belongs.

I think that's about the wisest paragraph I've ever read in an online forum.

 

[hmmnmm]

When I first got on the internet a couple years ago I had a very cynical view of online relationships and their validity or ability to translate with any adequacy into real life.
I no longer have that cynical view.
A great thing it is - or can be.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Emails

You Know It’s Time To Join E-mail Anonymous When:

You wake up at 3 am to go to the bathroom and stop to check your
E-mail on the way back to bed.

You name your children Eudora, AOL and dotcom.

You turn off your modem and get this awful empty feeling, as if
you just pulled the plug on a loved one.

You spend half of the plane trip with your laptop on your lap...
and your child in the overhead compartment.

You decide to stay in college for an additional year or two, just
for free Internet access.

You find yourself typing “com” after every period, when using a
word processor.com

You refer to going to the bathroom as downloading.

You can’t call your mother... she doesn’t have a modem.

You check your mail. It says “no new messages” - so you check it
again.

You move into a new house and decide to netscape before you
landscape.

You start tilting your head sideways to smile.

After reading this message, you immediately e-mail it.

Then, One day God was looking down at Earth and saw all of the rascally behavior that was going on. He decided to send an angel down to Earth to check it out.

So he called one of His angels and sent the angel to Earth for a time.

When the angel returned, he told God, "Yes, it is bad on Earth; 95% are
misbehaving and only 5% are not."

God thought for a moment and said, "Maybe I had better send down a second
angel to get another opinion."

So God called another angel and sent him to Earth for a time too.

When the angel returned he went to God and said, "Yes, it's true. The
Earth is in decline; 95% are misbehaving, but 5% are being good."

God was not pleased. So He decided to E-mail the 5% that were good, because He wanted to encourage them. Give them a little something to help them keep going.

Do you know what the E-mail said?

Me neither!

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

My best friend met a girl while playing Ultimate Online in 2000. By 2001, they were dating (Michigan and Mississippi ain't close). He met her in person by 2002. She came to Mississippi for college in 2003. They're getting married this June.

And they're perfectly normal, attractive people. It's my only reason for advocating that the Internet is just a more different singles bar.

 

[NoJo]

My best friend met a girl while playing Ultimate Online in 2000. By 2001, they were dating (Michigan and Mississippi ain't close). He met her in person by 2002. She came to Mississippi for college in 2003. They're getting married this June.

And they're perfectly normal, attractive people. It's my only reason for advocating that the Internet is just a more different singles bar.

But quieter, thank God.

 

[mlady_france]

You Know It’s Time To Join E-mail Anonymous When:

You wake up at 3 am to go to the bathroom and stop to check your
E-mail on the way back to bed.

That is so me right now. Got up 2 hours a go and desided to check up on things and go back to bed, I couldn't get back to sleep so here I am.

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Next time you can't sleep,

That is so me right now. Got up 2 hours a go and desided to check up on things and go back to bed, I couldn't get back to sleep so here I am.

Think about this:

An Anagram, as you all know, is a word or phrase made by transposing or rearranging the letters of another word or phrase. The following are exceptionally clever. Someone out there either has way too much time to waste or is deadly at Scrabble.

When you re-arrange the letters:>

Dormitory - Dirty Room
Evangelist - Evil’s Agent
Desperation - A Rope Ends It
The Morse Code - Here Come Dots
Slot Machines - Cash Lost in ‘em
Animosity - Is No Amity
Mother-in-law - Woman Hitler
Snooze Alarms - Alas! No More Z’s
Alec Guinness - Genuine Class
Semonila - Is No Meal
The Public Art Galleries - Large Picture Halls, I Bet
A Decimal Point - I’m a Dot in Place
The Earthquakes - That Queer Shake
Eleven plus two - Twelve plus one
Contradiction - Accord not in it

And for the grand Finale:

PRESIDENT CLINTON OF THE USA>

It can be rearranged (with no letters left over, and using each letter
only once) into:

TO COPULATE HE FINDS INTERNS

Then check out this thread:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=244512

 

[bobwhitecrow]

I was looking at your latest AV.

That is so me right now. Got up 2 hours a go and desided to check up on things and go back to bed, I couldn't get back to sleep so here I am.

I see the saxophone. Do you play the skin flute, as well? If so, would you like to play mine?

 

[mslena]

I am so new to all this yahoo/im stuff that it's pathetic! Have any of you met a cyber buddy in RL? How did it work out? Is it better to just leave all of that stuff on the 'net?

SJ

well chatting for me was great. I have met two really great men in RL and several jerks its all in you hun go with your gut feeling it will be all good as long as its what you want. of the two men one of them I will marry tis summer the other is happy for us good luck.. always be safe and think about what you will be doing I personally would never take someone home with me untill I was super sure but then again I have kids ... and last but not least talk it over with a friend before you meet and make sure they know all of your plans also let them know when the meeting is over. good luck in your adventures ....