Cut It Out!!!

[Black Tulip]

Can we please stop speaking of the Real World as if the cyberworld is not real?
I'm not dreaming or hallucinating right now, so what the fuck is not real about it?

CUT IT OUT! No more talk of RL from now on.

How about Tangible Life and Cyber Life?



Or am I the only one who gets irritated?

 

[lil_elvis]

You mean this isn't real and it's all part of a dream sequence? I am crushed.

Hi BT, long time no see.

 

[Songcatcher]

Do you have any nipillow?

 

[matriarch]

Can we please stop speaking of the Real World as if the cyberworld is not real?
I'm not dreaming or hallucinating right now, so what the fuck is not real about it?

CUT IT OUT! No more talk of RL from now on.

How about Tangible Life and Cyber Life?



Or am I the only one who gets irritated?

I couldn't agree more. I find lately, that Lit is my world, where my family and friends are.......and most of the time its more 'real' (sorry, can't think of a better word) than the life I live out away from Lit.

Not dreaming? What a shame. I know I am.

I prefer to call them my lit world and my work world. The two cannot exist without the other, if only because the second one pays for me to be able to exist in the first.

A comfortable and necessary symbiosis.

 

[ruminator]

I've been trying to use the terms net-life and non-net life

It's all real

 

[oggbashan]

Confused

In Literotica I pretend to be someone I'm not.

In the normal day-to-day world I sometimes, but very rarely i.e. once every three years, pretend to be King Henry VIII.

In both existences I play various roles. Which if any role is the real me?

The answer of course is that they all are. Whether on line or in BT's anathema words 'real life' all the roles are the same person.

Real Life or RL is a convenient short term for the opposite of what we do on the internet. The mistake is to believe that they are mutually exclusive and opposite. I correspond with my friends and family through the internet. I badger politicians and read boring reports about social developments through the internet. The internet is only a tool which enables me to further the activities of my normal and my fantasy lives.

The only difference I can see is that in my fantasy lives I am deliberately pretending to be someone else. That tends to fall apart when I meet Lit people in person. Although I can recognise the Lit personalities as individuals, those individuals are far more complex than can be seen here. In some cases we were continuing the roles in person that we show here. However I reached one conclusion - all the Lit people I have met face to face are far more interesting than their displayed personalities here - and a weekend is far too short to appreciate them.

I will quote just one example. The hairy a***d Scot presented himself as a caricature of a Scotsman and played the part well, but not so well as to conceal the caring, compassionate man who could brighten up the lives of complete strangers and yet... hint at the depths hidden behind the facade.

BT is right in that there is no difference between cyber and other life and yet it is not the terminology that is the problem. As usual it is flaws in perception that are amplified by imprecise words. As authors we ought to know better.

Og

 

[herecomestherain]

Offline and online seem okay terms to me. Both real places populated by real people.

 

[impressive]

In Literotica I pretend to be someone I'm not.

Not me. I'm me here. Offline, I'm more likely to wear a mask to hide my ... um ... smuttier side.

 

[Guest]

I couldn't agree more. I find lately, that Lit is my world, where my family and friends are.......and most of the time its more 'real' (sorry, can't think of a better word) than the life I live out away from Lit.

Not dreaming? What a shame. I know I am.

I prefer to call them my lit world and my work world. The two cannot exist without the other, if only because the second one pays for me to be able to exist in the first.

A comfortable and necessary symbiosis.

Yes. Yes!!!

I just can't take the erotic writer part of me out into the non-internet world. Yet.

(Of course, with the Anthologies, that may happen anyway.)

But I don't have any difficulty bringing the non-internet world into Lit.

Such good people here.

 

[cloudy]

I'm absolutely myself here, unlike the "real world" (sorry, BT).

To be honest, my friends here are just as real as the few I have offline, and just as precious to me.

I'd rather be here, most of the time. My offline life sucks.

 

[Honey123]

Would never want to irritate you BT..although people do call me Honey outside of Lit, I do have a different name, as I am sure you do as well.....

Lit is a real world, but in my daily life, I do wear clothes over my g-string and I actually have a head ontop my shoulders...

But, seriously there really isn't a difference in my personality from here and daily life.

 

[rgraham666]

Likewise, I prefer here to there.

In the physical world, I have to hide who I am.

When I don't, I get strange looks and people start hiding the sharp implements.

That doesn't happen here.

 

[Ashleey]

Not me. I'm me here. Offline, I'm more likely to wear a mask to hide my ... um ... smuttier side.

Impressive, I sooo agree with that. People I meet online actually know the real me better than anyone at work or even my family....so this IS more real to me!

 

[impressive]

Impressive, I sooo agree with that. People I meet online actually know the real me better than anyone at work or even my family....so this IS more real to me!

Hi, Ashleey. Welcome to the AH. Where's your AV?

 

[McKenna]

for BT

Breathe, lieverd, breathe.

It's not the terms "real life" and "cyber life" that get to me, it's when people pretend to be something they are not --be it online or offline. Seriously, who do you think you're fooling if you play a part online? Yourself. And that speaks of a terrible frame of mind.

I'm me, online and off. I might be slightly more shy in person, but eventually I'll break through that shell and pin you down for an intelligent chat over a cup of coffee or tea. I can't be something I'm not and I refuse to play a role online like the internet is some kind of stage. That just seems psychotic, to me, and I've enough neurosis to deal with without adding that to the bunch.

 

[elsol]

I like Real World and everything else.

Keeps my eye on the ball...

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[Kassiana]

People can hide more on the 'Net, and if others don't remember that, they can get in trouble. Where the crazy look in the stalker's eye would warn you away from him in non-'Net life, he can hide it by posting because you can't see him on the Net.

Sure, some people are the same way off-line as they are on-line, but often they aren't. My husband's involved with an Internet radio station and the most common statement from their real-life meet-ups is "Hey, that DJ's a lot more vocal on the radio than face-to-face."

 

[Black Tulip]

Glad to see I'm not the only who is trying to find more suitable terms.



After reading all of your reactions, I think what is getting to me the most is that by using the term Real Life it's implied that what happens on the internet is Not Real Life.
And after I sat there sniffing over the thread Fairysong started from her hospital bed while fighting cancer that got to me. What is not real about something like that?

I'm not saying people are the same here as they are in other places, although I have the impression most of us show more of themselves on here. I merely object to saying it's not real.

Sure some people are playing a part here too, but you can find them off line as well.

I think I like Net Life but I don't like Non-net Life because it's a negative.
Can we perhaps promote Herecomestherain's terms?

On-line and Off-line sounds perfect to me.
Have a Rain!



Edited to add:
I realize it's possible the person that has called herself Fairysong is in fact a 60 year old man who is in perfect health. Sure, but I prefer to be conned to being paranoid. LOL

 

[Liar]

This is the Real World. I don't quite believe in the other one otside my window. Far too shifty. It got weather and other weird randomness going on, just like my dreams. So it must be a figment of my imagination.

 

[Honey123]

This is the Real World. I don't quite believe in the other one otside my window. Far too shifty. It got weather and other weird randomness going on, just like my dreams. So it must be a figment of my imagination.

Heat going to your head Liar?

 

[Guest]

This is the Real World. I don't quite believe in the other one otside my window. Far too shifty. It got weather and other weird randomness going on, just like my dreams. So it must be a figment of my imagination.

I agree. If it can't be backed up, searched, indexed, downloaded, or edited, how can it be real?

RL is like a dream, fleeting, random, not really there, intruding at odd times.

 

[TheEarl]

I have to say BT, I disagree. Lit is where a lot of my friends are, but my off-line life is RL to me. It's said with no small amount of disparagement - RL involves work, money worries, my former Lady, evil landladies and all sorts of strife.

Here is my escape. Outside of here is RL.

JMHO.

The Earl

 

[Black Tulip]

Earl,

No problem. It's just that I think a lot of things that happen around here, are real too. Maybe life here is not as complicated as the off line world, but it's not all fantasy either.

By the way, I have the feeling there is some confusion about trustworthy and real as well. I don't think they are synonyms.

Ok, carry on.

 

[Liar]

Hell, people find love and ends up married via this place. It doesn't get more real than that.

 

[Dar~]

I am incapable of putting up facades as to who I am in the physical world or the net world.

I am who I am here, and I am who I am off here. there are no two realities. everyone in my hpysical world knows about my net world life and vice versa. Life is complicated enough.