Curious Question...

[Soccer_Mom]

I see condoms that are coated on the inside desensitize the guy, and other sorts of creams and lubes that say they will make the guy last longer.

My question is do they work...or how do you make him last longer?

Thanks

Keri...

 

[mom_wendy]

I see condoms that are coated on the inside desensitize the guy, and other sorts of creams and lubes that say they will make the guy last longer.

My question is do they work...or how do you make him last longer?

Thanks

Keri...

Hi Keri, They do work, and you can find some creams that do the same thing, the key here is that they do desensitize and some will loose their hardness.

 

[Soccer_Mom]

Thanks..

I will keep that in mind...I just want him to last longer..just hate the few times that I get it..that it only last for moments..sure he gets his..and if I say anything then I am just being Bitchy...and he is only good for the one shot...

Sorry..feel like I am rambling...just feeling frustrated tonight..


well...till next time..

 

[werdsmith]

practice makes perfect. See how many times you can give it to him in one day and the interval will get longer each time. If he dies in the process, at least he will have a smile on his face.

 

[nakdsub]

Now that's funny...but true

practice makes perfect. See how many times you can give it to him in one day and the interval will get longer each time. If he dies in the process, at least he will have a smile on his face.

It's true, screw the hell out of him and he will learn. There is a technique, but it sometimes results in him not getting his. When he first starts to feel himself building, he can slow down or stop all together and wait until the urge passes, then continue. In my hay day I could go for 3 hours using that technique. The problem is knowing just how many times you can do it and still climax.
There were times when I did it so many times that I could not climax. I still enjoyed giving her pleasure though so it wasn't so bad. Besides, I know we would be doing it again real soon.

 

[SweetErika]

I will keep that in mind...I just want him to last longer..just hate the few times that I get it..that it only last for moments..sure he gets his..and if I say anything then I am just being Bitchy...and he is only good for the one shot...

Sorry..feel like I am rambling...just feeling frustrated tonight..


well...till next time..

Have you told him you need to come before you have intercourse?

There are many techniques for lasting longer that don't involve numbing the cock, but it sounds like your main issues are not orgasming yourself and relationship-oriented, not how long he lasts.

 

[Runr4Life]

practice makes perfect. See how many times you can give it to him in one day and the interval will get longer each time. If he dies in the process, at least he will have a smile on his face.

Too funny! Seriously though, tell him to tell you when he gets close, so that you can change positions, or pull out and jerk him softly or something. Anything to change it a bit. Not only will he be very appreciative of it, I'm sure you will too.

 

[Soccer_Mom]

Thanks

Thanks for the suggestions...but sadly he just isn't all that into sex anymore. Oh we have talked, but he just does his thing and then he is done..

I like the idea of changing positions, breaking the action enough that he cools down..we will see if that works.

Thanks

Keri..

 

[Runr4Life]

Thanks for the suggestions...but sadly he just isn't all that into sex anymore. Oh we have talked, but he just does his thing and then he is done..

I like the idea of changing positions, breaking the action enough that he cools down..we will see if that works.

Thanks

Keri..

'Tis a shame to let a woman be so unhappy, and unsatisfied in the bedroom....

 

[kneelmm]

Hmmm How about adding another guy to your life. I volunteer!

Seriously, good luck

neil

 

[werdsmith]

Thanks for the suggestions...but sadly he just isn't all that into sex anymore. Oh we have talked, but he just does his thing and then he is done..

I like the idea of changing positions, breaking the action enough that he cools down..we will see if that works.

Thanks

Keri..

you could always try securing him to the bed.

 

[Eilan]

Thanks for the suggestions...but sadly he just isn't all that into sex anymore. Oh we have talked, but he just does his thing and then he is done..

Fuck that noise. DTMFA.

 

[bailadora]

Fuck that noise. DTMFA.

QFT. If he's not making an effort to make sure you are equally satisfied in bed, then you've got more serious problems than how long he lasts. Calling you bitchy is an attempt to deflect your attention from his selfishness by putting you on the defensive. Don't fall for it; keep calling him out on that shit.

 

[werdsmith]

Fuck that noise. DTMFA.

I'm not real clear on the acronym..."Ditch the Motha F___ Ass?"

 

[roomfor1more]

It depends on how you define work. From experience with the desensitizing condoms, I found they do make you last, at best, no more than 30 seconds and the same goes for the desensitizing creams. Typically desensitizing products contain benzocaine the same ingredient found in products like Ambusol cream, Solarcane spray for sunburns, and Cloroseptic spray for a sore throat. I am not recommending that you use one of the products instead of the desensitizing cream in order to save a few dollars. All I am saying is the ingredient in the the desensitizing cream is an ingredient that is widely available for a variety of uses and it is not specifically designed to for longer sex. If you are looking to try one of these products for longer sex then I would discourage you because, from my experience, products that claim longer sex are not worth the money they charge for the limited extension in sex you get.

Even though I feel very little benefit can be gained from psychological therapy and I do not believe you would gain anything from counseling to help with this issue. I do feel psychology does have its applications and this is one of them. One of the biggest contributions psychology has given us regards sex and in this situation, I feel some behavioral techniques could help. One technique that might help is when he begins to feel as though he is about to cum he disengages in order to let the feeling pass. The drawback is, the more aroused he gets the longer he is going to need to allow the feeling to pass. This includes both foreplay and intercourse. Another technique involves changing positions during sex or finding a position that is less stimulating for him, such as both of you laying on your sides in a spooning position whereby he enter you that way.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm not real clear on the acronym..."Ditch the Motha F___ Ass?"

I believe it's "Dump The Mother Fucker Already" or similar.

 

[CWatson]

Everybody already said it, so I'm just going to repeat them to hear the sound of my own voice.

The fact that he is not pleasing you should be a big deal to him. If it is not, then your relationship has serious problems, ones that go deeper than his endurance (or lack thereof). That's just a symptom.

You have every right to say, "I deserve to be pleased in the bedroom." You also have every right to say, "If you don't, we're ending this." Of course, he may just call your bluff, so maybe you should ask him what's going on. ...Well, maybe "ask" is the wrong word. You have every right to say, "I deserve to know why you have no interest in sex with me, only with using my body as a prop to get your rocks off. If you won't tell me, we're ending this." Because that's what he's doing, it's not okay, and you don't have to act like it is okay.

And shit, if all he needs is a prop, he can go buy a Fleshlight. Way lower maintenance on that thing than your average woman, and (arguably) it feels better because the man can control it perfectly, which is harder to do with a real woman's vagina. (Real women have this weird habit of moving.) Of course, the vagina comes attached to other things--say, a real woman, who breathes and moans wraps her legs around your ass and kisses you and makes you laugh and helps you cook and picks you up when you're down and has sweet-smelling hair and makes you want to stand tall and be worthy of her. Such things compensate for the decrease in sexual pleasure. They should matter to your man. If they don't, there are problems.

 

[Soccer_Mom]

Oh ...

Oh I hear you..if I didn't have kids at home..I would be so out of here...

But after going out last night..I am going to have to find some personal time for me to get out and enjoy myself more..because I know things are not going to change until he wants them too...

 

[bronco_2006]

Oh I hear you..if I didn't have kids at home..I would be so out of here...

But after going out last night..I am going to have to find some personal time for me to get out and enjoy myself more..because I know things are not going to change until he wants them too...

I understand except of course instead it is my wife, I live in the basement her upstairs, if I didn't have a special needs child I'd be gone also. I live in such a small area not a lot of choices to get out. I suppose that is why I'm here, it expands my world. Good luck girl.

 

[RunningJib]

Begs the question(s)

Oh I hear you..if I didn't have kids at home..I would be so out of here...

But after going out last night..I am going to have to find some personal time for me to get out and enjoy myself more..because I know things are not going to change until he wants them too...

You went out last night? Do tell

 

[satindesire]

Here's a great idea. Tell him that you refuse to sleep with him until he starts giving you the satisfaction that he's getting.

That should wake him up a little.

 

[clark_kent]

not that it makes you feel any better, but many couples are in the same situation (one not interested in sex anymore). could be for any number of reasons, but in the end it just translates into frustration. Lit is a good outlet to explore. it doesn't solve all the problems, but at least its an outlet. I find it helps me to just get away from reality and at least find some form of excitement.

 

[jake34]

Oh I hear you..if I didn't have kids at home..I would be so out of here...

But after going out last night..I am going to have to find some personal time for me to get out and enjoy myself more..because I know things are not going to change until he wants them too...

This is true. It is really just sad that so many men are not really willing to take the time to please their women. I can see how you would be very frustrated. I really enjoy taking my time and have trained myself to hold off for a pretty long time. It just makes the experience better for both the woman and for me as well. You are right about what you say. He will not change unless he wants to.

 

[Leon_k]

I see condoms that are coated on the inside desensitize the guy, and other sorts of creams and lubes that say they will make the guy last longer.

imo- it's Bad for long term. All those weird-chemicals penetrating into blood stream via skin absorption. who knows may be giving hidden carcinogenic effects- prostate cancer?
Pharma cos never tell truth about side-effects.

 

[sircumvent]

If he is shooting his load to fast he can always make you orgasm over and over by using his tongue and fingers.