Curious if you have ...

[RoseLeaf]

Curious if your BDSM lifestyle has ...

... a room or special furniture?
... a dungeon?
... real life sub?
... devices?

I'm new here and want to know more ...

RoseLeaf

 

[seela]

No room, dungeon, furniture or any special large devices like they use in those kink.com flicks. Unless by devices you mean plugs and vibes and cuffs and the like. Those we have, but very few and they aren't really used at all. Rope and some general household items do see sexual action from time to time, though.

I am the real life sub in our relationship.

 

[Stella_Omega]

What is it that you want to know, really? Not about other people, but for yourself?

Also-- while you are new, you might want to turn off PMs unless you enjoy a flood of wanna-be Doms trying to get you to take your clothes off in front of your camera.

 

[bouquiniste]

... a room or special furniture?
... a dungeon?
... real life sub?
... devices?

I'm new here and want to know more ...

RoseLeaf

The "BDSM lifestyle" isn't about trappings - it's about the interrelationship(s) between people. Just as there's a difference between sex and Lovemaking, so too there's a difference between rôle-playing and intimacy (even on the 'basest' of planes - physical intimacy, with intellectual, emotional and Spiritual intimacy not even here considered). If it's nothing more than the trappings which afford any appeal, this might not be the droid you're looking for. Don't look outside for answers; turn your focus inward.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

... a room or special furniture?
... a dungeon?
... real life sub?
... devices?

I'm new here and want to know more ...

RoseLeaf

No.
No.
Yes.
Nothing other than regular old sex toys and such.

BDSM is about how YOU want it to be and how YOU make it and what works best for YOU.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The "BDSM lifestyle" isn't about trappings - it's about the interrelationship(s) between people. Just as there's a difference between sex and Lovemaking, so too there's a difference between rôle-playing and intimacy (even on the 'basest' of planes - physical intimacy, with intellectual, emotional and Spiritual intimacy not even here considered). If it's nothing more than the trappings which afford any appeal, this might not be the droid you're looking for. Don't look outside for answers; turn your focus inward.

Really? Gosh Darn it, I've been doing BDSM wrong all these years.

 

[desertslave]

No special room (waiting for the kids to move out LOL)

We do have one special piece of furniture, but it's not what you might think. When we were furnishing our new home together we found this headboard...It's literally made out of juniper tree trunks, peeled and shaped. It's heavy as hell (although I can still make it wiggle if I'm seriously thrashing around), it's beautifully organic, and it has excellent potential points of attachment.

I'm the real life sub. Master is my owner and my husband.

We do have toys, because they're part of our lovemaking. I adore a good flogging, Master loves inflicting them, so it's all good. Since I'm a glass artist, we also have some fun homemade toys. (Field testing, yanno. ) We enjoy enhanced sensation, but it's certainly not necessary. Master can do, with his body, things that no toy could possibly rival. Ultimately it's our mindset, together, that makes the bond we have what it is.

 

[Licia]

We live in a house with our young(ish) children, and we also have furniture. The basement was a long-time metaphor for our proclivities; however, karma is beginning to side with irony (A local munch group has seen fit to have a first gathering in our basement this Friday.) My hubby is my rl sub. The dynamics are fun, but any devices are utilitarian extensions of sexual play. While that may sound like a fantasy, the reality is this earnest communication post.

The most personal angle of my bdsm lifestyle activity is whatever gets me off the most, and I find no shame in that honesty.

 

[Primalex]

Also-- while you are new, you might want to turn off PMs unless you enjoy a flood of wanna-be Doms trying to get you to take your clothes off in front of your camera.

A strange advice, considering that you start with PMs turned off, when you join. And somehow it slightly ignores why it is also a bad idea to turn PMs off..

 

[CutieMouse]

No special space/room; no "gear". I'm involved with two men; each relationship has its own degree if power dynamics. I suppose it could be agued that my bed qualifies as "bondage furniture" (Victoruan brass bed = lots of anchor points), but we've never used it for that...

 

[HottieMama]

No special room in my home, but one of my close friends in the community has a dungeon in his basement that I can use at will.

I have lots of toys as the fetishes that I mainly enjoy do not lend themselves to sharing toys. (knives, scalpels, etc..etc..) Also, as a switch, I prefer to have my own toys when I top someone else.

I have had two real-time submissives and I am currently developing a relationship with a real-time Domme. I do not do online D/s at all. I also play casuallly with a number of people in my local group.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... a room or special furniture?

Yes - one of the upstairs bedrooms has a medical table, two St. Andrews crosses and message table in it.

... a dungeon?

See above answer.

... real life sub?

My partner Tori and I have been living together since January of '09. I have had other D/s or M/s relationships before that.

... devices?

By devices I am assuming you mean implements that can be used to inflict pain or secure someone? Yes. About 20 floggers, a dozen or so canes in various diameters and materials, several paddles and straps, a violet wand, a TENS unit, needles, scalpels, clamps, cuffs, ropes, clips, knives, etc.

Ye gads, somewhere in the archives I've posted pictures of a lot of the toys...

 

[RoseLeaf]

I didn't mean to pry regarding your personal preferences - actually, I did see a thread here about a certain series of books that are recent about the lifestyle ... I understand 50 shades of Grey was more like 50 shades of bullshit ... anyway, I've always been curious about this way of life ... I don't understand it but feel drawn to it.

The PM is still on, interested to see who is out there. Thanks to everyone who has offered a peek into your world. Continuing to explore ...

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's a way of life for some people.

For others, it's a way of having a need met.

For a lot of people its a way of having sex.