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open_minded28 said:
Not sure what the success rate is here on Lit specifically. I have been chatting with someone for quite a while now and think we will probably meet up. But in my experience the other sites are much easier to use and meet someone.
Makes sense I guess - Lit wasn't designed for meeting so there are no tools like searching by area or interests.
I was hopeful here on Lit though - the people on some of the other sites I have tried are TOO ready to meet! lol
I prefer to get to know someone even just a little bit first.
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Agree!
 
I agree with you believing that Lit wasn't intended for anyone to meet face to face, but rather for people "cyber" interact on line. The layout covers a very broad array of topics and interests with people world wide. But there are threads for people in similar zip codes, area codes, etc. that may give that opportunity for some to meet.
Yea, there are some on other sites that say "I'm free at 1 today, do you have a place" lol.
IMO, there should be time to get to know each other first.
 
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open_minded28 said:
Not sure what the success rate is here on Lit specifically. I have been chatting with someone for quite a while now and think we will probably meet up. But in my experience the other sites are much easier to use and meet someone.
Makes sense I guess - Lit wasn't designed for meeting so there are no tools like searching by area or interests.
I was hopeful here on Lit though - the people on some of the other sites I have tried are TOO ready to meet! lol
I prefer to get to know someone even just a little bit first.
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There doesn't seem to be a way to find out the location of another unless they tell you or a thread started asking about it.
But through the rooms, threads and messages exchanged, one can find out about the other... unless they are just living through their alt-ego here. lol
 
Originator said:
Bi side

I'm looking to try my bi side. 32 mwm here. If anyone wants to chat or roleplay our first time together let me know. I have KIK yahoo and snap chat.
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Hey Originator, I have not taken the plunge yet. I also live on the Mississippi river and a small town, I would like to chat with you or roleplay in Dm
 
CuriousGuyVa said:
This may have already been done before, but if I don't ask...

I'm interested in chatting with other guys who are curious and wanting to take the plunge, and those who already have had some experiences and especially how they finally took that step.

I'm curious myself but haven't done anything, a little nerves and a little waiting to to find a regular buddy (safe and discrete) for some JO and perhaps later some oral.

Share some thoughts?
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I’m in the same position as you. Curious, nervous but need to try this discreetly. Would love to chat.
 
open_minded28 said:
I have used a number of gay/bi sites, as well as DoubleList trying to find a good match - someone I get along with really well, preferably some common interests, sexual interests align, logistics align, etc. Basically planetary alignment! lol
I find that it takes a ridiculous amount of time searching, communicating with them, and ultimately discover its not a good match. That gets disappointing but even worse is when they misrepresent themselves (ok, a polite way of saying they lie) and its not a good fit after all. This makes me far more reluctant to meet and the whole process much more frustrating.
I inevitably quit for a while, get really horny, return to the search, rinse and repeat.
I actually ended up trying to find someone here on Lit because I had hoped that this group was much more inclined to be communicative and open to being more than a quick hook up. I'm not looking for a new best friend, I just want to feel very comfortable with him. I think I am more inclined to want to be with someone if I see them as a friend, even if we never hang out or do things as friends. Does that make sense? Feeling like friends even though its just sex?
It does happen - there have been a few times (after chatting with 58.2% of the men in the US lol) that I have found someone where everything lines up and its great! Unfortunately one thing or another eventually ends it - usually a change in availability like a move, change in employment, etc.
Since I have already written a novel in this reply I may as well go for broke and add this too:
Another challenge I face is that my interests vary. Not sure how common that is with other people, but its a definite pattern for me. First, I should say that I consider myself "mostly straight" in that I'm not attracted to guys at all, I've just found they can be an easier substitute. Huge generalizations here, and I understand that as generalizations, they obviously don't apply to everyone! But in my limited experience guys can be more more open and direct about wanting to suck, much easier to meet with, can keep it limited strictly to physical connection, etc.
So about my interests varying:
I'm most interested in having someone that just loves to suck. Whether its their first time and want to explore or have a lot of experience doesn't matter. I don't care about age/weight/race/etc as long as they want to take their time, give pleasure in slow motion, make it all about the journey and not the destination. Its not even that Im trying to draw the pleasure out, its more that I crave feeling like someone is genuinely enjoying my cock. That seems tremendously difficult to find, at least where everything else also lines up.
But then there are also times when I really want to reciprocate too. I prefer the chemistry, attraction, and form of a woman that makes my excitement so much higher, but cocks are really cool. Sometimes I just want to provide sexual pleasure and have fun with genitalia and the gender doesn't really matter. I find the hornier I am, the more I want to remind myself how exciting it can be to have a guy give me his dick to play with, and then switch off and take care of mine too. Afterwards I feel like I have satiated that interest and it may be a while before I want to do that again, but the interest in being pleasured is always there.
If I already have a friend I have been meeting with, I'm fine with reciprocating every time. But if I am looking for a partner it can be challenging because my interest varies -- sometimes I just want to be the receiver, and other times I want to reciprocate.
Lastly, I've found that a number of the guys who just want to suck also want me to dominate them, degrade them, etc. I'm sure there is fun to be had in role playing scenarios that we agree to and I would be fine with that, but I'm not aggressive and pushy or demanding like that by nature. So the sexual alignment can be tough to find too; they might be looking to treat them harshly and I just want to lay back and enjoy the intense pleasure.
wow this is a long post.
thanks for reading if you made it this far! Just throwing in my personal experience, frustration in trying to find someone, etc. For all the challenges I have been incredibly lucky to find partners that have been a great fit. It generally takes me years to find someone but it does happen if I put the effort in.
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I think we have the same interests. I’m straight but have a curious obsession with wanting to suck a cock and feel it cum in my mouth. I’ve never done it before but would love to try it. My worry is liking it too much. I have no interest in being degraded or role play. I would be ok with not being reciprocated although I wouldn’t turn it down if offered. Having a suck buddy with no strings or drama would be ideal.
 
another update:
I did meet with the guy and it was enjoyable. I am always very nervous meeting someone for the first time, even after having chatted with him for an hour (see previous update). But typically I'm fairly ok at the small talk and moving things along without being awkward. So I went first, kneeling to explore his cock. He is very thick so it was more challenging for me than in the past but I managed =)

Sucked him for about 45 minutes before we switched. It was fun and nice to take care of that desire I get from time to time to give a blowjob. I think a lot of it is enjoying trying to do for someone else what I would want done for me. Sort of a challenge to see how well I can do it. Part of it is just being exciting to give pleasure to a sex organ, regardless of gender. Maybe a bit of turn on too because it is still taboo. I understand a cock better than pussy because I own one and know what feels good. But I think a big part of this for me is how appealing it is to be with someone who shares my high sex drive and can separate it from everything else (relationship, emotions, etc) -- making simply about the physical pleasure.
Afterward, I could see making it a regular and long term thing if we got to know each other better, even though our personalities didn't gel quite as I had hoped. It may have been legit, but he had excuses to postpone another meeting and I saw he had renewed his online ad searching for someone. So I decided not to pursue more with him.

Lastly:
I was lucky enough to find someone on another site. He is almost exactly what I was seeking - someone who lived alone, gay (but closeted), and just loves sucking. We have met twice now and both times he took care of me for about an hour or so, exactly how I like it (incredibly slow) and I can finally abandon my search! woo hoo!
to top it off, we get along well and he doesn't mind if once in a while I want to touch or even suck on him.

To reiterate something I said before:
Yes, it CAN happen - its possible to find exactly what you are looking for, but it could take a long time to find it.
BUT I cant in good conscience encourage guys to get out there and find someone -- there are always risks (getting caught, crazy people, STDs, etc) that may be statistically low, but the fallout could be really high.

If you do try acting on it:
I was incredibly nervous my first time, and I have experienced a number of 'no shows' from guys who ended up being too nervous to go through with meeting. Chatting/emailing a lot first has helped me narrow down options prior to risking meeting up. Meeting in public helps to ensure they are serious and potentially weed out anyone with red flags.
My first time was with someone experienced, so it was easy to let them take the lead. It was a no reciprocation thing (him just sucking me) so that helped too - removing half of the concerns and nervousness.
 
open_minded28 said:
another update:
I did meet with the guy and it was enjoyable. I am always very nervous meeting someone for the first time, even after having chatted with him for an hour (see previous update). But typically I'm fairly ok at the small talk and moving things along without being awkward. So I went first, kneeling to explore his cock. He is very thick so it was more challenging for me than in the past but I managed =)

Sucked him for about 45 minutes before we switched. It was fun and nice to take care of that desire I get from time to time to give a blowjob. I think a lot of it is enjoying trying to do for someone else what I would want done for me. Sort of a challenge to see how well I can do it. Part of it is just being exciting to give pleasure to a sex organ, regardless of gender. Maybe a bit of turn on too because it is still taboo. I understand a cock better than pussy because I own one and know what feels good. But I think a big part of this for me is how appealing it is to be with someone who shares my high sex drive and can separate it from everything else (relationship, emotions, etc) -- making simply about the physical pleasure.
Afterward, I could see making it a regular and long term thing if we got to know each other better, even though our personalities didn't gel quite as I had hoped. It may have been legit, but he had excuses to postpone another meeting and I saw he had renewed his online ad searching for someone. So I decided not to pursue more with him.

Lastly:
I was lucky enough to find someone on another site. He is almost exactly what I was seeking - someone who lived alone, gay (but closeted), and just loves sucking. We have met twice now and both times he took care of me for about an hour or so, exactly how I like it (incredibly slow) and I can finally abandon my search! woo hoo!
to top it off, we get along well and he doesn't mind if once in a while I want to touch or even suck on him.

To reiterate something I said before:
Yes, it CAN happen - its possible to find exactly what you are looking for, but it could take a long time to find it.
BUT I cant in good conscience encourage guys to get out there and find someone -- there are always risks (getting caught, crazy people, STDs, etc) that may be statistically low, but the fallout could be really high.

If you do try acting on it:
I was incredibly nervous my first time, and I have experienced a number of 'no shows' from guys who ended up being too nervous to go through with meeting. Chatting/emailing a lot first has helped me narrow down options prior to risking meeting up. Meeting in public helps to ensure they are serious and potentially weed out anyone with red flags.
My first time was with someone experienced, so it was easy to let them take the lead. It was a no reciprocation thing (him just sucking me) so that helped too - removing half of the concerns and nervousness.
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Very happy for you, Enjoy!
 
Scrh2017 said:
I think we have the same interests. I’m straight but have a curious obsession with wanting to suck a cock and feel it cum in my mouth. I’ve never done it before but would love to try it. My worry is liking it too much. I have no interest in being degraded or role play. I would be ok with not being reciprocated although I wouldn’t turn it down if offered. Having a suck buddy with no strings or drama would be ideal.
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I tried it. I liked it. Now I’m a cocksucking slut and I cannot get get enough cock or spunk.
 
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