Curious and Questioning... Any Help??

[deviousangel]

Okay, Im obviously new to this site. I am questioning and would like some friendly help with finding myself!

Basically here is my story:

Im almost 20, and to this day, I have only ever been on one date. I had one boyfriend who lasted all of a month because I found out I was the 'other woman' and that didnt work well for me. I am a virgin, I have been saving myself for 'the one'. I have had some experience with guys however, hookin up, some oral play, etc. And I love it!!!

But I have, for the past two years or so, been curious about other women. I enjoy lesbian porn throughly, as well as FFM porn. There are a lot of chicks who really turn me on, and I have a friend who, even though she has a boyfriend, has felt the same way. A few months ago we decided to hook up and it was amazing.

I have had a lot of diffuculty with guys in my life, I feel like because I am a woman with, shall we say, more to love on the outward appearance, that guys dont realize me for who I am on the inside. More and more lately, I feel like I might be Bisexual, perhaps want to try having a girlfriend. I dont know how to really explain all of this.

I love guys, dont get me wrong, and I know that in the end, I want to be married with kids living the life with a wonderful man... but I really do want to be with a woman, and enjoy lesbian/bi porn, and when I hooked up with my gal pal, it was amazing...

Any words of wisdom or advise? Anything is really appriciated. If you would rather, you can send me a privet message rahter than ust reposting on this thread!

I hope to hear from someone soon!!!

Many Thanks In Advance

A very curious...

DEVIOUS ANGEL

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Hmm..I don't really see what the problem is..
You said you might be bisexual.I agree.
You said you enjoy lesbian/bi porn and you have hooked up with your gal pal.
And you want to try things out with a woman.
Then go for it.
I think it'll make you happy.The only thing you might not like is the 'caution' you take when in public, cause if you're not out things get more pressuring.
Liking guys is of course just natural, and liking girls is as natural.
Don't feel weird about it
This coming from a bi-guy

 

[BitterIchor]

If you do go on a sexual spree with another woman, make sure that other woman understands that you're just out to get laid and nothing else. Some of us actually put more weight on loving women than that of enjoying the occasional sexual excursion into lesboland and then returning to the hubby.

Broken hearts are a bitch.

With that mandatory old school dyke talk out of the way, I want to wish you good luck with your sexual exploration.

 

[deviousangel]

Thanks

I want to thank you both for your advise and help... thats all I wanted, just some kind words from experienced people.

But there is one thing. The last post said that I am just looking to get laid, and that is nto the case. I would love to have an actual relationship, I wouldnt be in it just for the sex. I just had to get that out there so you knew I wasnt some bitch just lookin for sex.

With that said, i really appriciate your kind words. If anyone else has anything to write in response to this, please go ahead. I can use all the support I can get!

 

[BDisaster]

im in your boat too i think just reversed. my problem is i love both men and women. I can see myself being with a woman all my life, but with a man i cant. For some reason i can only see myself falling in love with a woman, and so far ive only been in love with one person and they were female. Im not so attractive either yet my friends do say im beautiful, i mean i guess i have qualities that are hot but i dont know lol

 

[human_male]

What's the problem? If you're bi, great! Enjoy it, you don't have a bf so wtf? If you want a husband and kids and all that in the future that's fine, that's probably some ways off so enjoy yourself now. I'm sorry you haven't had a good experience with guys so far, but you're young, I guess there are lots of hits and misses and it's great you're being particular with who you go with. I'm really happy that you're having a great experience now. Just enjoy it and don't frett.

 

[deviousangel]

Thanks guys, all of this is makin me feel more at ease and more comfortable! Im glad I came here!!

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

No prob, it's our pleasure to help confused people and turn them into multi-sexual freaks...MUAHAHAHHAHHAHAHHAHHA!
Anyway, you girls have the extra privilege that when in public you can hold hands of be hugged without being noticed as lesbians..At least in Greece that's what a LOT of girls do.Walk hand in hand or with each hands on the others waist..
Lucky you
Btw, retaining a relationship without being out to anyone may be a little hard with the secrecy, but try and you'll have something good
Good luck naughty angel

 

[Betticus]

I don't know if it will help you but most of my ex's have been bi. Fuck it, all of them. For some reason I'm really attracted to bi girl personalities and lesbian girls personalities. They just really rock deep down.

Anyhow, I'm pretty typical that I am turned on by the fantasy of two women but I'm also pretty monogamous. My last gf and I talked at length about her sexuality and I told her that I would feel much better about her having a female lover than a bunch of male friends. As long as the lover knew straight up that it would just be the two of them and I wouldn't fuck the other girl. Also, no trying to take my girl for her own and cut me out. She had a couple of fem partners and it worked out very well. If I were working long hours I knew that she had someone to be with who cared for her and I knew she was happy.

 

[BitterIchor]

But there is one thing. The last post said that I am just looking to get laid, and that is nto the case. I would love to have an actual relationship, I wouldnt be in it just for the sex. I just had to get that out there so you knew I wasnt some bitch just lookin for sex.

I suppose I mostly reacted to this:

I love guys, dont get me wrong, and I know that in the end, I want to be married with kids living the life with a wonderful man... but I really do want to be with a woman, and enjoy lesbian/bi porn, and when I hooked up with my gal pal, it was amazing...

It sort of had overtones that indicated that you viewed relationships to women as secondary to that of relationships with men. Since that wasn't the case, I apologize for the snarky tone of my post.

 

[Vixandra]

If you find the partner of your dreams and its a woman, there is always artificial insemination too.
Multiple studies have shown that children who come out of same-gender parent households are just as "normal" as ones from opposite-gender parent households.

If you want to date a woman, go for it.
If you want to date a man, go for it.
If you want to date both, more fun to ya.
Nothing wrong with any of those, no matter your gender.

 

[deviousangel]

U guys are Awesome

To BitterIchor:

No worries, I just wanted to straighten things up so you understood where I was coming from! I didnt want you to think that I was just looking for a sexual parter, because while I know I will throughly enjoy it, I want more... I want to feel loved, compassion, have a parter who loves me for me and not completely what I look like... (although I did have a hot woman hit on me today ) But I thank you for understanding where I was coming from.

To everyone else:

I really want to thank you all, you have been extremely helpfull and welcomed me with open arms! You guys are truely amazing!!! And I wanted to say this.... Im coming out to you... Im Bisexual!

Please continue to post, I hope to make some friends on this site!