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I think it's absolutely worth knowing as much history as you can glean, but more because it's important to know things in general. And because Leather has multiple histories and sub sub cultures, there's no "our history" that anyone can agree on. There was no monolith then, nor now.

If anything Leather has gotten safer over time and less risky - to me one looks back for inspiration and around themselves with clear eyes for how to do things more safely.
 
Netzach said:
I think it's absolutely worth knowing as much history as you can glean, but more because it's important to know things in general. And because Leather has multiple histories and sub sub cultures, there's no "our history" that anyone can agree on. There was no monolith then, nor now.

If anything Leather has gotten safer over time and less risky - to me one looks back for inspiration and around themselves with clear eyes for how to do things more safely.
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not to mention-- how to do more things!
there's stuff available now that was mere wishful thinking in my youth.
 
Submissive Male Training

MaddysSecret said:
I haven't participated in this forum much, but I am curious as to whether there are any trained female subs or trained doms of either gender here. I have been naturally submissive since my teens, but I went through sub and slave training almost 6 years ago. If there are trained subs or doms I'd love insight into how you were trained or how you train.
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Hello MaddysSecret - you don't need a sub or slave training program, all you need is one kind patient master. I was fortunate in this respect, as a confused and mixed-up early-twenties guy unsure of my sexual orientation I was lucky enough to encounter an older (married) guy who helped me out. It was he who knew my needs better than I know myself, and allowed me to see clearly my natural need to be a submissive cock-sucker, he patiently coaxed and encouraged me through all those early sessions as I choked and spluttered on his big beautiful erection, embarrassed and self-conscious by the obvious inadequacy of my technique. I was eager and enthusiastic to learn, crouched naked there with his cock in my mouth, sucking and sucking at it, taking it a little deeper, learning how to take the sudden flood of spunk that filled my mouth, swallow and keep sucking. Later he took me further into face-fucking and deep-throating, by then I'd benefitted from his tuition and gratefully accepted more. Once our relationship was at an end, after a brief panicky period of isolation, I met another guy who took my sentimental education further, into anal, serving other men, light bondage and cross-dressing for his pleasure. I am grateful to both of them, and will continue to derive pleasure and satisfaction from their gifts in future relationships with new men in new situations...
 
Do you get a diploma for graduating training class? I'm with the crowd that there really isn't such a thing as general training. Each master trains his or her own slave the way they want them trained.
 
No one can dispute that the Dominant trains the submissive. After all, we want the submissive to do what we want and that can require training. The training I've been talking about on here--and I'll admit I thought this was obvious but I guess it wasn't--is the training necessary for a Dom.
 
MaddysSecret said:
I haven't participated in this forum much, but I am curious as to whether there are any trained female subs or trained doms of either gender here. I have been naturally submissive since my teens, but I went through sub and slave training almost 6 years ago. If there are trained subs or doms I'd love insight into how you were trained or how you train.
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MeekMe said:
I'm curious about what your "training" involved because from what I understand, there is no universal training. It seems to me that if someone goes through a type of training, it is only applicable to that relationship. Mostly, it's simply learning what to expect and do within that particular dynamic.

As for learning protocols and rules? There are lots of resources and if you find local groups there may be demos or classes available to learn specific skills. The club near me advertises all kinds of guest speakers and classes for different things. Sometimes they have events for learning service oriented skills. Are you talking about stuff like that? Even then, it's a take it or leave it kind of thing, every relationship being different and all.

Maybe I don't know enough. I'm curious what others have to say.
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It's all to true. There is no secret book, no magic folmula, no university Masters degree in BDSM.
One Dom/Domme like a sub to remain silent and not
speak, unless spoken to. Others (like myself,) like a sub/slave to be creative, and offer ideas at appropriate times of course.

I have been a male Dom for over 35 years, and unfortunately, the prevailing view is "It MUST be
MY WAY! or the highway." Also unfortunately, this has led to the lose of what was once a very good female submissive, who became confused, and to some extent abused. She eventually walked away from the life style.

When training a sub, I try to keep things rather simple, and follow a more or less procedure.
I have the sub to complete a BDSM checklist
The common 'mantra,' if you wish is
"Safe Sane and Consentual"
I love to add Fun to this, If you're not having fun, you're doing it wrong.
 
bluesky496 said:
i was trained by my master in stages to meet his needs ,it started with me calling him master and then went on to greeting him at the door on my knees and gradually it progressed to obeying his every command and attending to his every wish and giving total obedience and signing a contract giving myself completely to him or any of his friends who wished to use me .i was never so happy as when i was owned by him.
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I also had to greetmy master at the door on my knees,untie gis shoes with my teeth,and go down when he wanted.surprisingly the only part that I hated was wearing a dress and high heels.my master is very greedy so I couldn't have the experience of others and still cannot.
 
*imagines delivering tied up Primalex to a bunch of certain ladies in this thread*
 
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