Cupid...why do you have such lame dexterity?..

[Nara_Sasuke]

Okay...all of you with unfulfilled 'dreams'..
Why does this little fella(Cupid) never seem to know where to shoot his little arrows?..
How many of you fell in love for the wrong person?..
How did you get over this?...DID you get over it?
...Why does life have to be so troublesome?
So I am sitting around with my four best friends and have a great time..and then I look at him..(One of my friends, Bill)
And I think to myself..Why would he be so cute?Omg...WHY?
And then he looks at me for some seconds with his brown/goldish beautiful eyes(seconds that seem to last FOREVER..)and he smiles and I curse myself for falling in love with a friend so close to me..He knows about me being bi but I don't think he would EVER think of me being in love with him.
He hasn't shown any special signs of being bi, but being so closed to himself, so shy, I don't think he would ever come out..
So...my actual point is:
"I WANT TO GET OVER HIM!!!!!"..
It is really uncool how I can easily change my 'happy/constantly laughing' mood into '*sigh* and melancholy' mood just by thinking that I can never even have a chance to be with him..And anyway it is getting on my nerves how I get my hopes up just by little things like him staring at me sometimes or making sexual jokes for fun..And last of all this is getting in the way of my dealing with the ladies!Why can't I get over him and move on to a girl I am somewhat interested in???
Advice and personal experiences mostly appreciated...*siiiiiiigh...*

 

[SweetErika]

Okay...all of you with unfulfilled 'dreams'..

How many of you fell in love for the wrong person?..
How did you get over this?...DID you get over it?
...Why does life have to be so troublesome?
.......

Why can't I get over him and move on to a girl I am somewhat interested in???
Advice and personal experiences mostly appreciated...*siiiiiiigh...*

I don't believe you ever fall in love or lust with the wrong person. Maybe it doesn't work out or feelings aren't reciprocated, but we are shaped by and grow through each experience. Maybe your feelings and experience with this guy are there for a reason...an opportunity to learn about yourself and/or others? To prepare for other people who may be better matches?

At least that's how I've chosen to view it...I figure I could look at all of the relationships and crushes (and other challenges/hardships) that didn't work out as "wrong" and "troublesome" or I can see them for what they were...preparation for something better and very right.

It sounds like you don't have hope this guy will ever reciprocate your feelings, and you just need to wait for logic to take over. Try to focus on the facts instead of your feelings...he's not bi, you don't want to ruin the friendship, etc. You'll move on when you're ready to.

 

[Nara_Sasuke]

You know, putting it like that is way better than having to think continuously:"Why me?...why me?"
Anyway I sort of thought that I shouldn't have made this topic..it is quite painful to think about what cannot be, so sorry to everyone..
And thanks to you, for telling me your opinion on this.
I tell you, I hope I don't ever get into this kind of situation again..it may be 'rewarding' in terms of experience but it hurts too much...
Anyway thanks again
I'll try and be patient and true to the facts and myself