Cunnilingus Advice

[hatsoff]

The title pretty much says it but I would like to be more detailed about why I want some advice. I have recently started dating a new woman and found out that none of her last boyfriend of 5 years has never went down on her before. So, tonight I want to show her an amazing time in bed by going down on her. If anyone has any links to videos, instructions, or just has a an idea of what I should do, I would greatly appreciate it.

For Background:
I have went down on a woman before and learned about kissing, licking, and caressing around her sex and slowly becoming more intense, when licking her clit. Also, I tend to use the broad side of my tongue when licking and have done the whole alphabet tracing too. I was planning on also fingering her gspot, while I licked her clit, and was wondering if that would be too much for a first time. The most important thing I am going to do is tell her to that it's completely ok to tell me what she likes and doesn't like during the whole thing beforehand.

So, yeah. That about covers it. I would greatly appreciate any advice.

 

[s3ve3ns]

It sounds like, from reading your post, you might be going into this with a map or a script. Not sure if that's realistic.

I can't tell you what to do, but my experience, especially for the first time, I'd say the number one thing is to be gentle. And don't take all night (unless she asks you to, of course!). Also, you didn't say whether she is expecting this "event". I assume it's going to be a surprise? That's a double-be-careful. And if she says stop, then stop. Don't take it as a personal affront.

Good luck - and most of all - HAVE FUN!

 

[NippleMuncher]

Shut up, put your head down, and don't come up until she says stop!

Sounds like you've got a good plan and technique. As was said, let her set the pace/duration/intensity. Be gentle, go slowly, at least at first.

The only other thing I can think of is to make sure your fingernails are well manicured. No sharp things, no pokie things. If she's doesn't lubricate well on her own, you can use saliva.

 

[infinity706]

It sounds like, from reading your post, you might be going into this with a map or a script. Not sure if that's realistic.

I can't tell you what to do, but my experience, especially for the first time, I'd say the number one thing is to be gentle. And don't take all night (unless she asks you to, of course!). Also, you didn't say whether she is expecting this "event". I assume it's going to be a surprise? That's a double-be-careful. And if she says stop, then stop. Don't take it as a personal affront.

Good luck - and most of all - HAVE FUN!

I'm not sure being gentle is, necessarily good advice, either. I've met serveral people that thought they only liked gentle. Over time, they ended up making quite a mess after having thier privates whipped or having my whole hand stuffed inside them. Now, I'm not saying to all out, but testing the waters just a little when you have them all hot and bothered can lead to some explosive results. They might not even know something sets them off if they've never tried it or did with someone that had no idea what the fuck they were doing.

 

[xhardchick]

First and foremost, make her feel confortable. Many women are afraid of being exposed "down there". When she's totally undressed, open her legs and tell her how beautiful she looks there. She'd love to hear it from you!
Next, teasing would make things more interesting and the orgasm more intense. Start licking and sucking her slowly. Tease her by rolling up and down fast and then move to another part of her body (her tummy etc.) This will drive her crazy and I'm sure she'll scream to you to pleasure her more.
When you finally "attack" her clit try different speeds. You'll understand if she likes that by her body reactions!
If you want to offer her an orgasm never-to-forget, you HAVE to find her G-spot. Insert your index finger in her and make a motion like "come here" with your intex. But this only would work after some practice so use it another time.
I hope your lady enjoys it.

 

[oldkinky]

The title pretty much says it but I would like to be more detailed about why I want some advice. I have recently started dating a new woman and found out that none of her last boyfriend of 5 years has never went down on her before. So, tonight I want to show her an amazing time in bed by going down on her. If anyone has any links to videos, instructions, or just has a an idea of what I should do, I would greatly appreciate it.

For Background:
I have went down on a woman before and learned about kissing, licking, and caressing around her sex and slowly becoming more intense, when licking her clit. Also, I tend to use the broad side of my tongue when licking and have done the whole alphabet tracing too. I was planning on also fingering her gspot, while I licked her clit, and was wondering if that would be too much for a first time. The most important thing I am going to do is tell her to that it's completely ok to tell me what she likes and doesn't like during the whole thing beforehand.

So, yeah. That about covers it. I would greatly appreciate any advice.

I love eating pussy. I lick her cliyoris and I put my tongue in her pussy until she cums and then we fuck and she cums again.

 

[oldkinky]

I love eating pussy. When I go down on her I insert my tongue in her pussy and then lick her clitoris until she cums and then we fuck.

 

[bailadora]

I'm not sure being gentle is, necessarily good advice, either.

Hello? She's never had someone go down on her before. Don't you think it's a bit premature to be suggesting pulling out the ole pussy whip?

FFS, baby steps man, baby steps.

 

[infinity706]

Hello? She's never had someone go down on her before. Don't you think it's a bit premature to be suggesting pulling out the ole pussy whip?

FFS, baby steps man, baby steps.

I was suggesting baby steps. I was just a bit concerned that the impression was not to go there at all because a pussy has to be treated with gentle care like a carton of eggs.
Of course, that being said, I have used a whip on an inexperienced person before, but that's more an experience issue of knowing how far and how fast you can go.

 

[bailadora]

I was suggesting baby steps. I was just a bit concerned that the impression was not to go there at all because a pussy has to be treated with gentle care like a carton of eggs.
Of course, that being said, I have used a whip on an inexperienced person before, but that's more an experience issue of knowing how far and how fast you can go.

Huh. From the way you worded your first post, my perception was totally the opposite. I agree with the point that not everyone one is going to want to be treated with kid gloves, but my take on the OP was that she's never had anyone go down on her. Given that, it just seems a no brainer to start gently and then let her dictate the action from there.

 

[Sonchyenne]

I would suggest asking her how she masturbates. If you can get her to talk about it, excellent: how she starts off, what sort of touches, how intense, how concentrated, how dispersed, over what parts, how long she takes on average and how it feels when she finishes quicker than usual as opposed to how it feels when more time is allotted. If you can get her to show you, great. Pay attention to what parts of her vulva she stimulates, for how long and -- if you can figure it out -- with what intensity. If you can get her to tell you what she's doing as she's doing it, as far as when she applies more pressure, how much faster she's going, what it feels like when she does certain things, bonus.

Then you can make what you find out from her to be your starting point. If you later need help in replicating certain sensations, you might want to ask others for technique advice. The expert on what sensations to provide initially, however, may well be your lover.

Good luck!

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

So, tonight I want to show her an amazing time in bed by going down on her.

So how did it go? Your lack of a follow up posts suggests that she snapped your neck in a fit of passion, or you sucked Yes, yes... pun intended... I truly hope that you're both still bedded down!

 

[hatsoff]

So how did it go? Your lack of a follow up posts suggests that she snapped your neck in a fit of passion, or you sucked Yes, yes... pun intended... I truly hope that you're both still bedded down!

Sorry for the lack of quick follow up.

It actually went very very well, though we actually ended up not doing it that night at all. I should elaborate.

We first came to my apartment and she talked about her day, while I massaged her feet before cuddling up next to her. After some light kissing, she asked me to take her to the bedroom, where we continued to cuddle and kiss, while slowly taking off each others cloth. Once we were entirely nude, I lightly massaged and kissed her all over her body until l started licking and kissing the creases between her thigh and pubic area. I then slowly trailed my tongue from the bottom of her slit all the way to her clit. That's when she told me she really didn't want to do it yet. She said she was still to embarrassed for me to "do that to her". She then went and started kissing me before giving me oral sex. For some reason she is completely happy going down on me without me reciprocating. Also, I never ask her to go down on me, she just likes the taste apparently.

We enjoyed each other in the end and ultimately that is all that really mattered to me. I then came back to the forum and looked at everyone's posts and decided to focus on what bailadora posted (THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU BTW). Also Wyrdbird, she doesn't care to finger herself, though she likes it when I do it to her .

The next night she came over and I asked her if there were any problem when I tried to go down on her the night before. She told me she wasn't sure if I would like the way she tasted, since she gets embarrassed about getting really wet. I dropped the subject after that and we ended up watching a movie together, which led to some petting and kissing. She asked me to take her to the bedroom again and I ended up sucking and licking her nipples because it always makes her extremely horny. She then went down on me and then came back up and said she was not going to talk for 5 minutes before closing her eyes. I think at that point she was trying to tell me to go do it before she lost her nerve but I didn't want the experience to be something so superficial. I started giving her butterfly kisses on her belly before I used my tongue and lips. I then moved up and traced around her breasts with the tip of my tongue. Once I felt her breathing hard and lightly moaning, I pressed my lips against hers, where I was extremely surprised to find her darting her tongue straight into my mouth. I held her close and let my tongue dance with hers for what felt like 10 minutes. Our lips parted and I slowly moved downwards. When my lips went past her bikini line, I started to kiss and lick the crease between her thigh and pubic area again. That is when I felt her begin to buck her hips up a little. So, I moved my tongue against her slit and used the broad side of my tongue to slowly lick up and down. I took my time and let her ease past the initial vulnerability I think she was feeling until I felt her grab my hair lightly with her hands. That is when I started to started flicking the tip of my tongue as I continued to lick up and down. I guess I started to have a bit of a pattern because she ended up guessing when I was about to flick my tongue and bucked her hips up at the right time, pushing my tongue into her pussy. She pulled my hair extremely hard and broke her silence by saying "more, more, more" or "amor, amor, amor" (She is Peruvian). Either way, I took it as my cue to start circling my tongue inside her and gradually become more forceful when I pressed my tongue against her walls. It didn't take long after that before she ended up cumming. When my mouth left her sex, she was blushing because she saw how messy my face got from the whole thing. I went to the bathroom and cleaned my face off before coming back to bed. We ended up making love with me on top for two hours before we cuddled up and went to bed.

Overall, I think I gave her a great first experience. We haven't talked about it yet, since then, so I can't give you great people any commentary on her part. If anyone has any critiques on what I should do differently, I'd appreciate it. Oh, and thanks again for the great advice.

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

She pulled my hair extremely hard and broke her silence by saying "more, more, more" or "amor, amor, amor" (She is Peruvian)...

It didn't take long after that before she ended up cumming...

If anyone has any critiques on what I should do differently, I'd appreciate it.

None necessary, I should think it appears you did a fine job
And either you didn't post the part about her being Peruvian before, or I apologize that I missed it. However, knowing THAT - I can say that it is not unusual from someone from a latin-based culture to be extremely shy about sexual situations of one type or another (or many!) Sometimes they leave their cultural ties behind quickly, and sometimes they hang on to them for life... So that was a good start, and I wish I could say that her shyness would gradually slip away, but really there is no knowing.
Just be aware that her apparent reluctance might be tied in to her upbringing, and continue to be sensitive to it.
And congrats