Cumming

[Andreina]

Question for the Dom/me and Subs respectively: do you forbid your sub to masturbate or cum, respectivley, have you ever been forbidden to do so?

for how long? did it work?(sub) do you think your sub obeyed?(Dom/me)


subs: can you actually cum when you are not directly stimulated "where it feels best"?

Dom/me's: can you cum from dominating a sub?





Just curious - as always.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Question for the Dom/me and Subs respectively: do you forbid your sub to masturbate or cum, respectivley, have you ever been forbidden to do so?

for how long? did it work?(sub) do you think your sub obeyed?(Dom/me)


subs: can you actually cum when you are not directly stimulated "where it feels best"?

Dom/me's: can you cum from dominating a sub?





Just curious - as always.

I do, I have two part-time subs, so I do not forbid them to cum indefinitely as I do not control all of their lives.

I do forbid them to cum anywhere from a few days to a week before they see me. I like them to be needy. I also control their cock and cum the entire time we are together. I love that part!

And yes I sometimes do cum from dominating my subs. And at the oddest times. Mostly when using my strap on, with or without a bullet insert in the pocket.

Ebony

 

[MsWorthy]

Question for the Dom/me and Subs respectively: do you forbid your sub to masturbate or cum, respectivley, have you ever been forbidden to do so?

My partner must ask for permission to masturbate, and have an awfully good reason for asking. *smiles* I am in control of her sexual pleasure.

I do not ask her to "hold" her orgasm; when it comes, it cums. *smiles*

for how long? did it work?(sub) do you think your sub obeyed?(Dom/me)

I haven't done this online.

subs: can you actually cum when you are not directly stimulated "where it feels best"?

Dom/me's: can you cum from dominating a sub?

I can not orgasm when I am in "top space." I do become aroused sexually but it is a different type of arousal. In order to orgasm one must let go of control, and when one is in top space it is all about control. So, the two can not mix for me.

Just curious - as always.

 

[WillowPuss]

Question for the Dom/me and Subs respectively: do you forbid your sub to masturbate or cum, respectivley, have you ever been forbidden to do so?

I am not allowed to masturbate.
I am only allowed to cum when given permission to do so.

for how long? did it work?(sub) do you think your sub obeyed?(Dom/me)

I have not been allowed to masturbate since being collared.
The length of time I have to wait to be allowed to cum is entirely up to Master.
I am not sure I understand your second question ... did it work? Did what work? My need to orgasm intensified, if that is what you are asking.

subs: can you actually cum when you are not directly stimulated "where it feels best"?

When I am very aroused, and we have been playing a long time, then, yes, I am able to cum without any stimulation other than His voice.

 

[Ebonyfire]

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My partner must ask for permission to masturbate, and have an awfully good reason for asking. *smiles* I am in control of her sexual pleasure.

I do not ask her to "hold" her orgasm; when it comes, it cums. *smiles*

I haven't done this online.

I can not orgasm when I am in "top space." I do become aroused sexually but it is a different type of arousal. In order to orgasm one must let go of control, and when one is in top space it is all about control. So, the two can not mix for me.

It just happened recently. It surprised the hell out of Me!

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

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It just happened recently. It surprised the hell out of Me! I am not sure that I ever let go of control though.

Eb

 

[MsWorthy]

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It just happened recently. It surprised the hell out of Me!

Eb

That was a great added bonus, Eb. *smiles*

 

[Ebonyfire]

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That was a great added bonus, Eb. *smiles*

Definitely. I have a new sub, and there is this magic thing going! Very different experience for Me.

Eb

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Cumming: My favorite thing!

have you ever been forbidden to do so?

for how long? did it work?(sub)

subs: can you actually cum when you are not directly stimulated "where it feels best"?


Just curious - as always.

Yes, orgasm control has been a common thread in any D/s relationship I have engaged in.

As far as permission to touch myself, yes. The longest I have been has been a couple of weeks. Wow! When it happened......

I love orgasm control in a scene or during lovemaking and love begging permission to cum. The begging and the need are intoxicating to me as well as my partner.

I can cum, "hands free" with voice stimulation.

 

[Persephone36]

Re: Re: Cumming: My favorite thing!

Yes, orgasm control has been a common thread in any D/s relationship I have engaged in.

As far as permission to touch myself, yes. The longest I have been has been a couple of weeks. Wow! When it happened......

I love orgasm control in a scene or during lovemaking and love begging permission to cum. The begging and the need are intoxicating to me as well as my partner.

I can cum, "hands free" with voice stimulation.

Wow! This is so interesting to me -- since the whole idea of being a sub is new -- I just think, this is one of the most intrinsic parts of what is exciting to me about it -- his control of letting me cum, or masterbating. Just what you said MissT -- the begging and the need are -- great word -- intoxicating.

The idea of someone making me cum just through voice stimulation is kind of beyond me at this point -- but certainly an exciting place to explore reaching.

Wow.

P.

 

[boz]

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I can not orgasm when I am in "top space." I do become aroused sexually but it is a different type of arousal. In order to orgasm one must let go of control, and when one is in top space it is all about control. So, the two can not mix for me.

So, you are in control of yourself as well as your sub, and if you choose to have an orgasm, you consciously release your mindset from top space before that can happen?

 

[Parklife]

as someone who's had my submissive role fullfilled far too infrequently, I don't have much experience but the few times that this was done were very much how Pers and MissTaken have described. The begging certainly leads to a higher state of arousal for me...

Have not experienced the cumm without contact part though... that seems to be a needed for me... at least so far.

 

[MsWorthy]

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So, you are in control of yourself as well as your sub, and if you choose to have an orgasm, you consciously release your mindset from top space before that can happen?

Yes, the scene must be over so that I can stop being in alert/control mode. Once I leave top space, we can work on my orgasm, if I choose to have one.

 

[Quint]

It's been a pretty regular facet of my life as well, especially when Hunny and I could only see each other on weekends; I was routinely denied access to my body, for at least the two days beforehand. The longest I've ever gone without orgasm (by command...I'm sure some days snuck by on their own) has been in the vicinity of a couple of weeks. I was still allowed to touch my body, just not in the one area that gets me off. Right now, with no-sensual-touching-period and one orgasm-free week, I'm about crazy. Patience gets rewarded, however. *neglects to mention that idle (and drifting) hands get punished*

I've never thought that orgasm on command was even a remote possibility. However, my fortune cookie says "With new love comes new hopes. Go get 'em, tiger." No saying what my body can accomplish given time, T, and training. *crosses her fingers*

 

[confused20]

Holy Cow!

Well imagine that!!!
I personally have never experienced orgasm (masturbation does zip for me...although i keep on trying!) and the thought of cumming on command or becuz of voice stimulation is fasinatting!
(sorry i dont seem to be able to spell lately)

 

[boz]

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Yes, the scene must be over so that I can stop being in alert/control mode. Once I leave top space, we can work on my orgasm, if I choose to have one.

Thanks for the insight, MsWorthy.

For whatever reason, I find this particular insight particularly, umm, insightful. Something kind of went *click* in my brain.

 

[MzChrista]

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My partner must ask for permission to masturbate, and have an awfully good reason for asking. *smiles* I am in control of her sexual pleasure.

I do not ask her to "hold" her orgasm; when it comes, it cums. *smiles*



I haven't done this online.



I can not orgasm when I am in "top space." I do become aroused sexually but it is a different type of arousal. In order to orgasm one must let go of control, and when one is in top space it is all about control. So, the two can not mix for me.

see now I dont always draw that line from when I am in top space and when I am into the sex part. If I am with someone I am sexual with the one flows to the other. But I know what you are saying about during the scene you want to keep control. But ya know sometimes the scene ends up in bed

 

[MzChrista]

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Yes, the scene must be over so that I can stop being in alert/control mode. Once I leave top space, we can work on my orgasm, if I choose to have one.

I wish I read that before i posted.
yeah we on the same page on this.

 

[~Dream~]

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see now I dont always draw that line from when I am in top space and when I am into the sex part. If I am with someone I am sexual with the one flows to the other. But I know what you are saying about during the scene you want to keep control. But ya know sometimes the scene ends up in bed

DURING MY STAY IN Arkansas visiting Master,HE WAS SOLELY IN CHARGE OF ALL MY SEXUAL PLEASURE AND HE AS ALWAYS knew just what to do to make HIS SLAVE CUM..OMG DID HE EVER!!
I found out that no matter how much I pretended to dislike HIS TEASING OF ME TO THE POINT OF ORGASM..I truly indeed did LOVE IT!!Of course,HE KNEW THIS ALL ALONG AND I have since 'dubbed' HIM THE "King of TEASE" HEHE
I feel that the sound of His voice and his commanding words are all I NEED TO PUT ME 'OVER THE TOP'
However ,for me personally I FEEL I WANT him to control when I cum cause yes it IS A BIG TURN on for me also..

 

[Sandia]

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Yes, the scene must be over so that I can stop being in alert/control mode. Once I leave top space, we can work on my orgasm, if I choose to have one.

When I'm with a woman, and I feel her submission, the right words or expressions are almost enough to make me come by themselves.

 

[Cirrus]

I'm not forbidden to masturbate perse, but He and I do have an agreement that I cannot for 2 days before we see each other. If we should have an "accidental" meeting, like he can slip away for a nooner unexpectedly and it's been less than 2 days, then so be it, but when we KNOW we're going to get together, I'm on 48 hour hold.

There was one time, that we had a minor argument before we played. Neither of us were playing angry...the emotion had long since passed, but he made it clear I had upset him by keeping me tied and RIGHT on the edge for over an hour...and then didn't let me cum. I'll be sure not to bring up THAT topic again...at least not before we're going to play.

 

[MsWorthy]

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Thanks for the insight, MsWorthy.

For whatever reason, I find this particular insight particularly, umm, insightful. Something kind of went *click* in my brain.

You're welcome, Boz. I am happy to have helped.

~I love those *click* moments when clarity comes~

 

[boz]

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~I love those *click* moments when clarity comes~

Yeah, they don't happen often enough.

Maybe my brain's fallen into too many pieces so the parts can't find each other any more

 

[Persephone36]

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Yeah, they don't happen often enough.

Maybe my brain's fallen into too many pieces so the parts can't find each other any more

Or maybe it's just *expanding* into all new areas.

You should be kinder to yourself, Boz!

P.

 

[artful]

Re: Re: Cumming

I can not orgasm when I am in "top space." I do become aroused sexually but it is a different type of arousal. In order to orgasm one must let go of control, and when one is in top space it is all about control. So, the two can not mix for me.

I am the same way. Having a FIRST MEET, (skin to skin), with Dream,...ALL my *FOCUS* was directed toward "CONTROL". I loved EVERY minute of it, but orgasm for ME,...was inconsequential,...it JUST didn't matter. The *CONTROL* did!