Cumming on command

[Theatreslut]

Has anyone had a partner that can automatically make them cum on command?

 

[Titman69x]

I have had partners that could do this. I’ve sent you a DM Reach out if you want to discuss.

 

[Himileage]

With most of the female subs I have worked with, over time they could cum on command but it took practice and did not happen overnight. It was often related to a word or number. Have fun

 

[average_red]

With most of the female subs I have worked with, over time they could cum on command but it took practice and did not happen overnight. It was often related to a word or number. Have fun

wait, that sounds like it can be trained. any tips?

 

[FoxtrotJulietRomeo]

Women are a remarkable species with incredible capabilities. After nearly 50 years of sexual exploration (and a lot of that in a D/s context) I've experienced some amazing things and my respect for these wonderful ladies has only grown.

'Trained' is an unfortunate and easily misused expression though it clearly has a place - if you correctly identify that place.

"It's not about making her do things she doesn't want to do. It's about discovering the things she WANTS you to make her do!"

The vast majority of people have the same physical equipment yet they all work so very differently. If we were discussing a machine, we'd probably suggest that it was either wired up differently or programmed differently. In the case of humans, clearly the 'wiring' (unless somehow damaged) is the same so it's down to the 'programming'.

At this point, some will be thinking; "Exactly - training!" but that "training might already have happened and often with less than desirable results. What she doesn't like now could be a reaction to a previous bad experience or even worse, something which should never have happened to her. Conversely (and sadly) the reverse can also be true - and I say that with confidence because I've met it!

If you're very lucky, you might find (as I did) a lovely woman who hasn't been 'damaged' by the previous actions of others and who is genuinely curious and open about finding out what works.

Then you're really in for something...!

To come back to the point of the thread, this very special and very lovely lady was (in my opinion) 'pathologically' submissive. She didn't know what it was that was gnawing at her and I'd never met anyone like this before. Pretty much none of her 'switches' had been broken in the off position!!

We used choke chains for ad-hoc bondage because they're convenient, easily joined or secured, visually appealing and if you choose the right ones, particularly tactile and sensual. One one beautiful occasion, I chose to 'load' one of these entirely into her (clearly very excited!) vagina, just leaving a ring and a couple of links exposed.

She was already in a very heightened state and what I did next was to slowly pull the chain out of her but I did so keeping it very close to her lower body ensuring that each link conspicuously 'bumped' over her very wet clit as it passed.

I managed to find a very suitable pace for this - evidenced by her altered breathing and rock hard nipples - and so I continued.

She was very obviously ready to come and I knew exactly how long this chain was so I told her; "If you want to come, you need to do it very soon..."

At that suggestion, she bucked gently and I felt it was time.

"You don't have long left. You need to come in 5... 4... 3... 2..." and as I announced 1 - she absolutely exploded!

Not exactly on command as such but a very unusual means of stimulation, largely psychological and in my view, mostly her doing. She provided the orchestra, I just gave a little 'conduction'.

We had many other examples of having her come 'indirectly'. Another was when she actually made me cum across her bare thigh - which immediately resulted in her own orgasm - so yes, orgasm 'on command/demand' is both very real and very possible but it's all about her and simply barking your orders probably wont cut it!!

Like I said, amazing things, women...!!

 

[SirCharles01]

MM.. that's hot! Using aspects of time and countdown works so well... giving the exercise that needs to be completed. It can get so hot to talk her down that cut off. Slow deep voice ... telling her to "Hold it" in between

 

[SirCharles01]

https://www.reddit.com/r/Femaleorgasmdenial/comments/1q859xd/delicious_frustration

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm pretty good about getting a guy to cum when I want him to.

 

[Theatreslut]

I ask this because my current dom and I have discovered that I cum when he tells me to. No training. Long distance to phone sex only. And he can induce smal orgasms without me providing any physical stimulation.

It has been an amazing discovery, and one that neither of us understand. I’m googling it, all I could find was stuff talking about training it.

And yes, I understand that training is a squicky word

 

[average_red]

I'm not sure where the dislike of the term training is coming from, given the billions of dollars, and millions of hours, people pay for training each year, but training to improve your own and your partner's enjoyment sounds like a great thing to me. /shrug

 

[Subbyslutwife]

Has anyone had a partner that can automatically make them cum on command?

My husband trained me to cum almost on command. He doesn’t like cummkng on me unless I cum so I must be able to on command

 

[Theatreslut]

I'm not sure where the dislike of the term training is coming from, given the billions of dollars, and millions of hours, people pay for training each year, but training to improve your own and your partner's enjoyment sounds like a great thing to me. /shrug

I think it comes from an implication that it is something being done to the sub rather than something the sub is giving consent to and participating in. Especially when tied to the word “command”. It feels a bit like dog training.

 

[AlexAtNight]

A while ago, I had a submissive that, when I used a very specific tone of voice and kind of growled for her to come for me... she would. The more worked up she was, the bigger the O, but I could leave her a voice mail...

"Hey honey, would you pick up some cheese on the way *cum for me* hime if you dont mind?"
She both loved and hated that.

 

[Theatreslut]

A while ago, I had a submissive that, when I used a very specific tone of voice and kind of growled for her to come for me... she would. The more worked up she was, the bigger the O, but I could leave her a voice mail...

"Hey honey, would you pick up some cheese on the way *cum for me* hime if you dont mind?"
She both loved and hated that.

Yes. It’s like that for me

 

[AlexAtNight]

Yes. It’s like that for me

That was actually how I got her to have her first orgasm from anal. It's like a sexual cheat code

 

[Theatreslut]

That was actually how I got her to have her first orgasm from anal. It's like a sexual cheat code

Was this something you trained her to do or something you two just discovered

 

[AlexAtNight]

Was this something you trained her to do or something you two just discovered

Little of both. We started with teasing and denial, and when it was ready to let her come, I used the growly dom voice, and then one day we were just starting, I growled at her to get on her knees and she told me she almost came from just that command, so I saved that voice for the moment of release, and eventually, my sweet sub just gave me an orgasm any time I demanded one of her

 

[Theatreslut]

Little of both. We started with teasing and denial, and when it was ready to let her come, I used the growly dom voice, and then one day we were just starting, I growled at her to get on her knees and she told me she almost came from just that command, so I saved that voice for the moment of release, and eventually, my sweet sub just gave me an orgasm any time I demanded one of her

It’s something we discovered the first time we had phone sex

 

[AlexAtNight]

Glad you found it so soon. Has he done the voice mail trick?

 

[SmilingLez]

My exes (Dominant's) enjoyed this kink. I loved being obedient; but it came with a price - constant edging, denial, overstimulation, and ruines before I could comply. Not fun for me

 

[AlexAtNight]

Overstimulated and ruined suuuucks

 

[Theatreslut]

Glad you found it so soon. Has he done the voice mail trick?

He has once sent a voice message to try it out. He told me he was feeling cheeky so I asked what the message was before opening it and didn’t listen because I didn’t want to cum on the couch . Just knowing it was there made me wet and squirmy though

 

[AlexAtNight]

Wet and squirming is a good way to be