Theatreslut
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Has anyone had a partner that can automatically make them cum on command?
Cumming on command
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wait, that sounds like it can be trained. any tips?
FoxtrotJulietRomeo
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Women are a remarkable species with incredible capabilities. After nearly 50 years of sexual exploration (and a lot of that in a D/s context) I've experienced some amazing things and my respect for these wonderful ladies has only grown.
'Trained' is an unfortunate and easily misused expression though it clearly has a place - if you correctly identify that place.
"It's not about making her do things she doesn't want to do. It's about discovering the things she WANTS you to make her do!"
The vast majority of people have the same physical equipment yet they all work so very differently. If we were discussing a machine, we'd probably suggest that it was either wired up differently or programmed differently. In the case of humans, clearly the 'wiring' (unless somehow damaged) is the same so it's down to the 'programming'.
At this point, some will be thinking; "Exactly - training!" but that "training might already have happened and often with less than desirable results. What she doesn't like now could be a reaction to a previous bad experience or even worse, something which should never have happened to her. Conversely (and sadly) the reverse can also be true - and I say that with confidence because I've met it!
If you're very lucky, you might find (as I did) a lovely woman who hasn't been 'damaged' by the previous actions of others and who is genuinely curious and open about finding out what works.
Then you're really in for something...!
To come back to the point of the thread, this very special and very lovely lady was (in my opinion) 'pathologically' submissive. She didn't know what it was that was gnawing at her and I'd never met anyone like this before. Pretty much none of her 'switches' had been broken in the off position!!
We used choke chains for ad-hoc bondage because they're convenient, easily joined or secured, visually appealing and if you choose the right ones, particularly tactile and sensual. One one beautiful occasion, I chose to 'load' one of these entirely into her (clearly very excited!) vagina, just leaving a ring and a couple of links exposed.
She was already in a very heightened state and what I did next was to slowly pull the chain out of her but I did so keeping it very close to her lower body ensuring that each link conspicuously 'bumped' over her very wet clit as it passed.
I managed to find a very suitable pace for this - evidenced by her altered breathing and rock hard nipples - and so I continued.
She was very obviously ready to come and I knew exactly how long this chain was so I told her; "If you want to come, you need to do it very soon..."
At that suggestion, she bucked gently and I felt it was time.
"You don't have long left. You need to come in 5... 4... 3... 2..." and as I announced 1 - she absolutely exploded!
Not exactly on command as such but a very unusual means of stimulation, largely psychological and in my view, mostly her doing. She provided the orchestra, I just gave a little 'conduction'.
We had many other examples of having her come 'indirectly'. Another was when she actually made me cum across her bare thigh - which immediately resulted in her own orgasm - so yes, orgasm 'on command/demand' is both very real and very possible but it's all about her and simply barking your orders probably wont cut it!!
Like I said, amazing things, women...!!
'Trained' is an unfortunate and easily misused expression though it clearly has a place - if you correctly identify that place.
"It's not about making her do things she doesn't want to do. It's about discovering the things she WANTS you to make her do!"
The vast majority of people have the same physical equipment yet they all work so very differently. If we were discussing a machine, we'd probably suggest that it was either wired up differently or programmed differently. In the case of humans, clearly the 'wiring' (unless somehow damaged) is the same so it's down to the 'programming'.
At this point, some will be thinking; "Exactly - training!" but that "training might already have happened and often with less than desirable results. What she doesn't like now could be a reaction to a previous bad experience or even worse, something which should never have happened to her. Conversely (and sadly) the reverse can also be true - and I say that with confidence because I've met it!
If you're very lucky, you might find (as I did) a lovely woman who hasn't been 'damaged' by the previous actions of others and who is genuinely curious and open about finding out what works.
Then you're really in for something...!
To come back to the point of the thread, this very special and very lovely lady was (in my opinion) 'pathologically' submissive. She didn't know what it was that was gnawing at her and I'd never met anyone like this before. Pretty much none of her 'switches' had been broken in the off position!!
We used choke chains for ad-hoc bondage because they're convenient, easily joined or secured, visually appealing and if you choose the right ones, particularly tactile and sensual. One one beautiful occasion, I chose to 'load' one of these entirely into her (clearly very excited!) vagina, just leaving a ring and a couple of links exposed.
She was already in a very heightened state and what I did next was to slowly pull the chain out of her but I did so keeping it very close to her lower body ensuring that each link conspicuously 'bumped' over her very wet clit as it passed.
I managed to find a very suitable pace for this - evidenced by her altered breathing and rock hard nipples - and so I continued.
She was very obviously ready to come and I knew exactly how long this chain was so I told her; "If you want to come, you need to do it very soon..."
At that suggestion, she bucked gently and I felt it was time.
"You don't have long left. You need to come in 5... 4... 3... 2..." and as I announced 1 - she absolutely exploded!
Not exactly on command as such but a very unusual means of stimulation, largely psychological and in my view, mostly her doing. She provided the orchestra, I just gave a little 'conduction'.
We had many other examples of having her come 'indirectly'. Another was when she actually made me cum across her bare thigh - which immediately resulted in her own orgasm - so yes, orgasm 'on command/demand' is both very real and very possible but it's all about her and simply barking your orders probably wont cut it!!
Like I said, amazing things, women...!!
SirCharles01
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MM.. that's hot! Using aspects of time and countdown works so well... giving the exercise that needs to be completed. It can get so hot to talk her down that cut off. Slow deep voice ... telling her to "Hold it" in between
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Ssbbw4u1974
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I'm pretty good about getting a guy to cum when I want him to.
Theatreslut
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I ask this because my current dom and I have discovered that I cum when he tells me to. No training. Long distance to phone sex only. And he can induce smal orgasms without me providing any physical stimulation.
It has been an amazing discovery, and one that neither of us understand. I’m googling it, all I could find was stuff talking about training it.
And yes, I understand that training is a squicky word
It has been an amazing discovery, and one that neither of us understand. I’m googling it, all I could find was stuff talking about training it.
And yes, I understand that training is a squicky word
