cum vs come

[Nameless_Rose]

Maybe I'm the only person in the world who feels this way, but the use of "cum" to represent orgasm and the associated fluids just bugs me. I much prefer "come" to "cum." I always associate "cum" with bad cybersex, and it just annoys the hell out of me when I see it in a story. I feel like if you're actually taking the time to write a story, just use "come;" it's only one extra letter. I understand that it can be a way to differentiate between, "I'm coming (to the party)" and "I'm coming (on your face)," but I think there are bigger things to worry about than spelling if the reader of your story can't tell the difference between the two without the aid of some changed letters.

That's just a personal pet peeve of mine, and I was wondering if anyone felt the same way, because it seems like "cum" has become the almost universal term.

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm even snobbier than you... I tend to use words like "climax" or "orgasm" and bypass the "cum" / "come" issue altogether. LOL

 

[catalina_francisco]

Don't think it has anything to do with cybersex, good or bad...I was reading erotica (the old fashioned 'printed on paper' type) which used the word 'cum' more than 35 years ago and way before the age of internet sex or even internet. LOL, if it comes down to a discussion of using one more letter, I am guessing those of us from Oz and the UK could argue the same point on words like colour/color; humour/humor etc. whereby the American vocabulary has decided to drop the 'u'.

Catalina

 

[Yang4yin]

Ejaculation seems too clinical to me.

 

[graceanne]

I use the phrase 'orgasm' in real-life. But in real life I use the technical terms for just about everytihng in real life. I feel silly using anything else.

I write with words like 'cum' because, frankly, you get better ratings if you do. *shrugs* You are one of the few who're bugged by vulgar slang.

 

[Netzach]

COME v. to climax

CUM n. fluid ejaculate, spooge

However, I do find that cumming as the gerund distinguishes this from arrival, and I use that.

Always always always. This is a huge pet peeve of mine. I patrol dirty grammar closely!

 

[intothewoods]

Is cum really the noun? I had no idea. I will happily use "come" from now on. I rarely discuss bodily fluids. Ick.

 

[WriterDom]

I prefer cum to come. If it was something more formal I'd probably use another word.

 

[subtleone]

You may find this link interesting.

http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node=come vs. cum

Admittedly I thought cum was slang - except when used as a preposition (bedroom-cum-study) but I am English

 

[Nameless_Rose]

I'm not saying cum isn't a valid term. I just had some awkward cyber sex experiences when I was younger (namely getting caught by my parents ), and the term always reminds me of that, so I tend to find it distasteful.

It is an interesting debate though. I love words.

P.S.: Thanks for the link subtleone. That was an interesting site.

 

[Netzach]

You may find this link interesting.

http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node=come vs. cum

Admittedly I thought cum was slang - except when used as a preposition (bedroom-cum-study) but I am English

It's good ol' Latin for "with."

Normally picked out as not naughty via context.

 

[BiBunny]

This is one grammatical issue where I don't care one way or the other. *Gasp* In my writing, though, I tend to use "cum" to denote orgasm or the resulting fluids, to distinguish between someone arriving and someone climaxing. I use "cumming," too, but for the past tense, I always use "came" because "cummed" just sounds freaking ridiculous.

 

[NemoAlia]

Why do we need to differentiate between "I'm coming" as a geographical process and "I'm coming" as an orgasmic experience? I mean, I think people originally invented this euphemism as a poetic expression of the spiritual experience of sex. And gosh darn it, I want to keep language poetic.

I mean, look at the French. It's "J'arrive" in both situations, right?

 

[ltnsfr007]

It's good ol' Latin for "with."

Normally picked out as not naughty via context.

OH GOOD then I can use it
THANKS,
Latin Surfer 007

 

[Netzach]

Why do we need to differentiate between "I'm coming" as a geographical process and "I'm coming" as an orgasmic experience? I mean, I think people originally invented this euphemism as a poetic expression of the spiritual experience of sex. And gosh darn it, I want to keep language poetic.

I mean, look at the French. It's "J'arrive" in both situations, right?

Oh you're literary. You probably read dirty books that use "sex" versus "cock" or "cunt" in them.

 

[Nameless_Rose]

Oh you're literary. You probably read dirty books that use "sex" versus "cock" or "cunt" in them.

hehe. I use "sex" in some of my stories, depending upon the characters, but I only use it for girls, because the only other terms I like to use are "pussy" and "cunt," and sometimes they just don't seem fitting. Using sex for both genders can get a bit confusing in my opinion: "He thrust his sex into her sex and together they had wonderful sex."

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I was reading about "cum" and "cumming" in Penthouse LONG before there was an Internet. And I'll have to go dig up my ancient Victorian porn by "Anonymous" but I seem to recall reading it there too...

So. I'm sorry, but I'll take the long-standing, historical erotica/pornographic use as being correct for the genre.

I'd rather hold on to my pet peeve regarding H/him, H/her, Y/you, T/them and other slashed pronouns. THAT is a very clear "cyber-ism" and misuse of the language. *LOL*

 

[NemoAlia]

Oh you're literary. You probably read dirty books that use "sex" versus "cock" or "cunt" in them.

My dirty books use euphemisms like "upstanding rod of masculinity," "shrinking rosebud," "weeping gash," and "manly dribbles." And I bet you know exactly which books I mean, too.

The really distracting thing is when you get used to these euphemisms, and then notice them outside a sexual context. It's really hard to keep a straight face.

Like, have you read "Speaker for the Dead" by Orson Scott Card? What ever gave him the idea to name a self-righteous religious fanatic of a little boy "Quim"? Poor me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I was reading about "cum" and "cumming" in Penthouse LONG before there was an Internet. And I'll have to go dig up my ancient Victorian porn by "Anonymous" but I seem to recall reading it there too...

So. I'm sorry, but I'll take the long-standing, historical erotica/pornographic use as being correct for the genre.

I'd rather hold on to my pet peeve regarding H/him, H/her, Y/you, T/them and other slashed pronouns. THAT is a very clear "cyber-ism" and misuse of the language. *LOL*

LOL, nice to know I am not the only one with such ancient memories and references to cum...I was beginning to feel isolated and aged.

Catalina

 

[VaGentleOne]

I am simple, CUM works for me because everyone knows what you are talking about...

 

[Nameless_Rose]

I stand corrected as to "cum" being a cyber creation, but the word still bugs me. Just one of those things. I also can't stand the words "meaty" and "scrumptious," either. There are just some words that I find unpleasant. Maybe I'm just weird.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I stand corrected as to "cum" being a cyber creation, but the word still bugs me. Just one of those things. I also can't stand the words "meaty" and "scrumptious," either. There are just some words that I find unpleasant. Maybe I'm just weird.

LOL, I think there are always words which trigger either unpleasant or pleasant feelings without logical reason. As to the cyber creation thing, I think you are just one of many who see particular things as being property of that domain simply because it is the only reference you have had for it...over time you stumble across other material and realise there is more of a history than first thought.

Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

i use both interchangebly *shrug*

 

[JupitersGirl]

I don't really care one way or the other, but I tend to use "cum" because I don't want to be thought of as prissy. I AM prissy upon occasion as there are other words that I won't say.

I suppose if I am going to be labled prissy, I want it to be for something that I care about.

 

[FurryFury]

Maybe I'm the only person in the world who feels this way, but the use of "cum" to represent orgasm and the associated fluids just bugs me. I much prefer "come" to "cum." I always associate "cum" with bad cybersex, and it just annoys the hell out of me when I see it in a story. I feel like if you're actually taking the time to write a story, just use "come;" it's only one extra letter. I understand that it can be a way to differentiate between, "I'm coming (to the party)" and "I'm coming (on your face)," but I think there are bigger things to worry about than spelling if the reader of your story can't tell the difference between the two without the aid of some changed letters.

That's just a personal pet peeve of mine, and I was wondering if anyone felt the same way, because it seems like "cum" has become the almost universal term.

*nods emphatically*

It's a personal pet peeve of mine as well. I always say/write come.